Posted by Kath on August 14, 2000, at 10:49:52
In reply to Terrified: Falling in love, posted by Cass on August 13, 2000, at 21:24:18
Hi Cass. I think I'd feel exactly the same way!! Sounds like you're afraid to go with your feelings in case he doesn't get a job there & moves. I have some 'wonders'. I wonder:
- have you shared your feelings with him? If he's as wonderful as you're describing, sounds like he'd try to understand & discuss things. I personally think it would be a really good idea. This is alot to burden yourself with & not share. I'm sure he would want to know what you're feeling/going through.
- do you know where he'd move to if he moves? This could also be something you 2 could discuss.
- are there areas where both your needs & his needs could be met?
It sounds like an exciting development in your life. Keep us posted.Take care. Kath
> I've met a wonderful man. We've known each other a little over a month now, and we spend a lot of time together. Our world views are remarkably similar. So are our backgrounds. I have fallen in love. He loves me too. It has been a long time since I have felt this way, and I am scared. I afraid that something will ruin it. I'm beginning to feel emotionally paralyzed, and I'm not feeling in the now. This has just been for the last couple of days. I guess I just realized how wonderful this is, and I want it to last, and I'm so afraid that it won't. He is a truly decent person. He is empathetic, sensitive, intelligent, he has the courage of his convictions, he's funny, he's not afraid to be unconventional which is important to me, he's not a mindless follower, and he has character. I'm in love. I just wish I were not so gripped with fear. I have never been involved with a man who I respected so deeply. I want him to love me forever. I feel that if this relationship failed for some reason, I would never again meet someone so wonderful. I live in a conservative area and people here tend to be pretty shallow. There are financial and health reasons for my living here, so I really cannot move. I love him. I don't want to lose him. He moved to this area recently and is looking for work here. If he cannot find work here in his occupation, he may have to move back to the area he came from. There is more industry there. That is a terrible thought for me. I've always dreamed of meeting a man with truly good character whom I could really respect. I have, and I don't want to lose him.
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