Posted by Rach on June 24, 2000, at 22:11:22
In reply to Re: You CAN do this....., posted by CarolAnn on June 18, 2000, at 18:37:31
> Rach, most of the people who write here have been exactly where you are, I know I have. The thing is, we have all survived and you will too.
> This is going to sound stupid, but it worked for me when I was very close to suicide:
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> It's called visualization. You wrote that you need to be held and comforted by someone who loves you, so as often as you can, take a quiet moment and imagine the person who loves you best in the whole world. It can be anyone, from any time, it can even be a made up person(I made up a person who I wished that I could become in the future, myself as a wise, warm, wonderful, woman who loves me totally and unconditionally). If you want you can use God or Jesus or whoever in the visualization.
> After you know who this, unconditionally loving, person is, imagine yourself as a small child, like 4 or 5. Now, as hard as you can, imagine the feeling of being held and loved and comforted by this person who loves you no matter what has happened in your life. Imagine how it feels to be wrapped in warm arms, a gentle hand stroking your hair, a soft voice, comforting words-"It's all right, I'm here for you, I love you, you were born for me to love, you are a precious gift of life, and I will be here for you now and for always."
> Rach, I know this sounds nutty, and at first you may not get any comfort from it, but I swear, the more you do the visualization, the more real it will become. And, when it begins to feel real, you will be comforted. And, if you just can't do it, remember one thing: The whole time I was writing it, I was there. I was that person, I held you, and comforted you, and loved you with all my heart. You truly are a precious gift of life. CarolAnnDear Carol Ann,
Even now, when I am feeling happier and more relaxed than I have in a long time, your message evokes tears and love. Thank you so much for your visualisation technique - imagining myself when I am older unconditionally loving myself has been a beautiful, special experience. The second last line in your post, about you being the one loving me is one of the most soothing, unconditionally loving, and beautiful thing anyone has said to me. You filled my soul with love and peace, knowing that there were people who truly cared for others, simply because they did. You are a giving, lovely soul and I am extremely greatful for everything you have done. I cannot begin to express the overwhelming emotions and love that were given to me and the response they evoked. Two little words - thank you - could never seem to be enough to express myself when I think of all the love, kindness and warmth I unconditionally was sent from you all.
Thank you again. You have aided me in my path to uncover the mysteries behind my depression, and have given me the first steps to regain the ability to love myself. I will be forever appreciative for that.
Love and hugs Rach
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