Posted by Cindy W on June 5, 2000, at 21:48:17
In reply to Anybody been fired by their pdoc?, posted by Snowie on June 5, 2000, at 21:03:43
> After 5 years, the receptionist in my pdoc's office told me today that my pdoc would be discontinuing his services to me. In a word, I was shocked, and after I hung up the telephone I began to cry, probably from the fear of abandonment more than anything else. Actually, I should have fired him years ago, but I didn't because of our long association. It's strange, but I never felt like he really understood me nor cared ... obviously, I know now that he didn't. I've heard of people firing their pdocs, but I've never heard of a pdoc firing a patient. I know this too shall pass and he probably was doing me a favor, but I'm feeling extremely vulnerable right now. Was the fact that I research the internet really so imtimidating? He was so nasty toward the end, and every question of mine was followed by some sarcastic "ask your internet friends" type response. Paul, I certainly understand what you went through now. I guess surviving and doing well is the best revenge, but first I have to find a replacement. It's also a little awkward since my sister still uses him, and I don't want to jeopardize her relationship with him. At the same time, I don't want him to know anything further about me, and I don't want to know anything further about him. Anybody experience anything like this before?
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> SnowieSnowie, I'm sorry to hear about your experience. It was pretty chickensh*t of the therapist to not tell you in person why he was acting that way, and he should have referred you to another therapist, I think. Being "fired" by my pdoc is one of my fears (since I also am always taking in information from my "internet friends"). You are likely right that you will probably be better off with a new therapist, since your therapist obviously was threatened by your information seeking (which to me seems important when you're trying to work together to get better), and if he was also uncaring, you don't need that! Hang in there. I hope you find a much better therapist soon. In the meantime, please realize that you are cared about by people here.--Cindy W
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