Posted by boBB on May 16, 2000, at 23:06:46
In reply to Re: learned--optimism vs. helplessness, posted by bob on May 16, 2000, at 20:51:24
The statement about servants was not clear, as to who was being served. The word servant raises flags with me. Housekeeper, caregiver, cook, these words reflect the merit of their effort rather than reinforce a social hierarchy.
Anyway, I can't endict your mother based on your testimony. I would need to hear her side of the story. Insults are not in style here in Bobbleland today, but your text seemed to emphasise your wholeness and worthiness while minimizing your mother's humanity. Some schools of thought suggest that we choose these roles. A week at AA meetings and someone might tell you how you are enabling her apparent disfunctionality.
At best, I can say it seems she does not share your ambition for self-discovery and psychological exploration. Maybe sometimes you would agree she is safer that way, nes pas?
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