Posted by Carolyn on February 26, 2000, at 6:24:12
In reply to A SIMPLE LIFE, posted by Sarah on February 26, 2000, at 1:01:08
> I have been watching this disscusion group for a bit now and have noticed one thing. We all have sooooo much chaos in our lives. I am ADD. Most others if not ADD are bi polar or very depressed. I have a few things to say about it all that most people will not like. We need to get back to a simple life. I know damn well that it is not that easy. I come from a family of seven that is very disfunctional because of our chemical imbalances. I have been married three times by the age of thirty because I thought that true love was something that happpened not something that was earned and worked for over time. I whole heartedly agree that we have imbalances that we need to deal with in anyway possible, whether that be with drugs or therapy or both. I am on Adderall and lord knows how many anti depressants I have tried. I finally found one that works and have found a good therapist. Keep looking if you havent found it yet. Also keep in mind that you are not responsible for the actions of the other people in your life. They are going to do what they are going to do no matter what you think or say. They are going to go crazy, die, drink, drug, eat too much, cry, lie, kill themselves, get cancer, worry, or just plain live a boring life. It is not your fault or under your control. You can say anything you want to change their opinon or try to make them see the light, but ultimately it is their choice or biology. We can all wallow in our own self pity or we can come to the understanding that this is our life and we have to do the best with what God (or your given diety) has given us. I used to think, as the movie of the same title aptly puts, is this "as good as it gets?". It is if we let it. Also keep in mind if you are a parent, would you have liked to been raised by someone in your state?? I have fought my ADD all my life even before I could put a title on it. I knew I was capable of more even though it seemed I could not do more or accomplish anything beyond getting up in the morning and living a meager life in the mean time. I finally realized that I am the one that has to live my life and I have to make it what I want it. No one else is going to make it better. No husband, no child, not even a mother in law. (;-)) I have to do it. I may never be a millionaire or Miss America, but I am me and that is OK. I am finally happy with myself and who I am and what I will be. (what ever that may be) and that is great!! Live your life one day at a time and find a good shrink and a good AD (be sure to give it adequate time to work) and get on with YOUR life. It can be good. I was once at the bottom and now I am consistintly climbing my way up out of it all into a wonderful simple life. Please try to do the same. It really does make a difference.
> Sarah
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> Sarah...I agree that self-pity and/or blaming others or God for our problems does not help. But I also believe most of us are living a simple life, one day at a time, because that is the best we CAN do.
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