Posted by Shar on February 4, 2006, at 14:18:03
In reply to Re: addendum Shar Alli, posted by Kath on January 30, 2006, at 20:55:25
Wow!! I totally, double agree that you went through at least Hell Week and maybe Hell Fortnight! I am so very sad to hear about your breakup (tho'confidentially, just between the 28 of us reading this post, if your sweetie wants you off meds, I'm not sure he has your best interest at heart--and a good partner DOES!). I understand feeling lonely and sad, even knowing it might have been the right thing. You have my sympathy; lonely and sad sucks.
And, stitches in all the wrong places...and your kitties...and the doggie. It's too much! You must be an extremely strong, capable, lovable person to have handled all that without just crashing! I am a total dog person, and don't know too much about cats, but I know how loving animals can get us through the hard times.
About all this guilt...I've experienced it as well. A different issue, but the same feeling. I think we do the best we can, and the most important thing is to follow our hearts and instincts. As a hospice volunteer, there is no shame in a sweet peaceful death. As, there is no shame in taking reasonable steps to try to pull a kitty through an illness. However, I don't think the vet should be the ultimate expert, because docs of all kinds take a different approach than our hearts and instincts say is right.
So--guilt. Don't go there. I know it's hard, and I still weep at the loss of my sweet Scruffles, and berate myself that if I'd caught on sooner, she might have made it, etc. But, really--no, she would not have; or if she had, her quality of life would have been awful. And, I'm all about quality of life.
So, you two--STOP IT! You did your best, you did something VERY hard for you, you did it in the best interest of a loved one. That makes y'all Good People. And, there's no guilt in being a good, loving, person doing their best.
And, I mean it.
When I die, I'm planning on going to Doggie Heaven, which is probably very close to Kitty Heaven, so maybe I'll see you there. In the meantime, Scruffles (who lived with kitties) will check on them, and comfort them until they are ok again. And, she'll check on the neighbor's pup, as well.
Now that I sound completely nuts, I'll sign off with love and sympathy to you both, and good wishes and good luck, as well.
Oh--Kath, lol, I might have felt the same way about the Thursday thing. I was just trying to make it sound like I had a life and get Ali's attention.
xoxo
Shar
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