Posted by Racer on February 26, 2004, at 18:02:37
In reply to Re: You're absolutely right!, posted by coral on February 26, 2004, at 17:07:09
I can't express how much that post absolutely resounded for me. Thank you, from every part of my heart.
My WH is trying so hard, and through counseling we're doing a lot better with one another. Ironically, a lot of our problems have to do with him trying to take care of me in ways that actually make it harder for me. Dontcha love those conundrums? We're working now on the "we can be equal partners" part, and I'm learning to express things to him -- even though it's sort of weird to be saying things like, "Asking you to push the shopping cart so that I can put my Costco card away is really hard for me. It's progress that I've done it" -- and he's trying to process all that, while still giving me room to contribute. It is a difficult situation for us both, but you probably empathize with me when I say it means the world and more to me right now.
I'm so glad you're doing well with your husband during this crazy time. Ask me sometime about why my mother hasn't spoken to her brother for over 20 years, and you'll find out how much I empathize with you now!
poster:Racer
thread:317622
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