Posted by shar on July 27, 2003, at 14:07:32
I noticed you mentioned chat rooms, and my experience has been that they are not too welcoming to new people. However, if you start slowly, make neutral comments (or supportive ones) here and there, but visit regularly, you will eventually become part of the crowd. If you ask for anything at the beginning, you probably won't get it.
It's kind of like being the new kid in school, or new at a job, or something. Or, I guess, being a new kid on PSB, even (we've been around so long we've probably forgotten what that was like...tho we started on the old one-board system). I always felt pretty comfortable on PB and PSB (well, I don't post on PSB anymore, but before the brou-ha-ha I felt comfortable), I think because I started with meds issues which are not all that personal or private. Then, becoming more 'social' sort of emerged.
It may not be worth it to do the chat-room thing because there are cliques, and you do have to go through being ignored, or people being rude, or whatever. But, once you've established your presence, it can be alright.
I don't do any real chats anymore, I just go to the trivia chats occasionally (playing trivia). I always have terrible computer problems with time lag and freeze ups, and I can't even get onto the psycho-babble chat system at all (I had trouble with that at ASH as well). Good old yahell.
Oh well, that's my 2 cents worth.
Shar
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