Posted by shar on January 31, 2003, at 23:45:40
In reply to Life is a two-person job, posted by shar on January 31, 2003, at 1:46:03
> Two people, or rather the dynamic that exists between two people, can make a difference in decisions of the 'to be or not to be' variety.
..........Upon rereading this sounds a bit too romantic for my taste. In my situation, some big changes occurred because of a relationship of the living-together type. However, the 'other' that is part of the dynamic that makes a horizon change does not have to be a romantic partner. It may be a friend, relative, or therapist (I think in my case, it was my therapist for years). It can also be an animal companion--I've experienced that, too; the thing that kept me alive was the love and responsibility I had for my animal(s).
........So, saving my life began long before I met my S.O. and it was a two-person job then, too. I guess I'm thinking that the decision to live or die shouldn't be based on someone specific being around, it has to be internal. And, also that living can be easier when there is another that cares (whether a 'significant other' or not). It's both things.
........The "two person" part of the expression came about when my S.O. and I were cleaning the blood and gronk out of my dog's ear after her surgery and he said "this is really a two-person job." I held her head still while he did the cleaning. Had I been living alone, I could have done it myself, but it was so much easier with help. Later, I thought, hell, life is a two-person job...it's just easier with help from others, many different others.
.........Jeez, I wonder if I've just made this make LESS sense than before...hope not! 8-)
Shar
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> Today (Jan. 31) is the official ending of my contract with my T that I would not commit suicide for one year. As some may recall, we had a huge fight about it; I was pissed for weeks, and felt she was being horribly unfair, putting me firmly between a rock and a hard place.
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> So, it looks like I'll be around a while longer, because as the day of liberation arrives, I find I'm looking upon a different horizon, one with features instead of a bleak, cold, uninviting moonscape, even has big spots that are clear of haze and soot.
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> (No Pollyanna BS here, this is not a horizon full of crystals, bells, exotic plants, futuristic decor, and OMs. It's real life, trial by fire, financial hardship. There is also added dimension now to a life that had become one-dimensional. And, I'm ever so aware that descent is just a hair's breadth away.)
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> So, more posting is in my future, too, I guess. I'm sure that's pretty exciting for everyone!
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> Shar
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