Posted by shar on January 5, 2003, at 0:44:56
In reply to P-Doc, posted by harry b. on January 3, 2003, at 13:53:02
Harry B:
I don't know about transference, but I do know that a good therapeutic relationship feels safe, and can be hard to leave, even when a return is on the horizon. I believe the deepest work happens when that type of relationship exists (it has, at least, for me).I also know that many things can happen in good therapeutic relationships that could be considered technically out of bounds, but happen because we are human beings, we are alive, and we get an extra measure of grace for some reason. IMHO those things aren't damaging, and are just fine, especially with a doc you've known for so long. I've experienced some similar things with my therapist, and they don't happen often, and I'm surprised when they do, and it does not affect our ability to work on what needs working on. That seems to be the most important consideration.
Shar
(Of course, I'm talking about lines being blurred in a helping direction, not in a hurtful or abusive direction, should anyone wonder.)
> Just a brief note re: my P-Doc.
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> I had not thought we had reached that elusive state of 'transference' that I had always heard about. On my last visit before setting out on my adventure, I cried as I left the office. It was like leaving a safe haven & I knew I'd have to take complete control, it was frightening. So, I do think tranference was reached, I just did not realize it. Comments?
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> My doc agreed to & did telephone sessions with me while I was gone. I thought that was great. There were a few times when those sessions were the only thing that saved me.
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> This was crossing the line a bit, I believe. When I needed to get repairs done & buy spare parts for the boat, I was totally broke. I had plenty of food, but I had no money for fuel or anything else. My P-Doc wired $$ to me. I have paid it back of course, but we both knew it was probably out of bounds to have done this. Comments?
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> harry b.
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