Posted by NHGrandma on November 11, 1999, at 19:35:35
In reply to Wow..., posted by Racer on November 11, 1999, at 17:55:09
> Let's see, my question brought a lurker out in the open, provided fuel for a Dr Laura bonfire, and showed that PL is finally feeling better!
I never thought of myself as a lurker but a "learner." This site has helped me through the last year in more ways than you will ever know. Whenever I was considering giving up on medication a post would give me knowledge to make an informed decision. When I couldn't tell anyone else that I felt like running away, I described my frustration in a post and many here showed empathy. I have felt that I had an understanding listening ear even when my concerns seemed insignificant.
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> To Grandma, thank you for your concern for me. It is nice to think that people care, whether or not you actually have met me face to face.Isn't it true that most people visiting this site have never met face to face? Yet, I see much caring.
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> Now, to all of you, and anyone else who's listening:Thanks for this open invitation to listen. It makes me feel more accepted as one who cares and wants to learn rather than as a "lurker."
>This is the first person I've ever dated that I could see sharing with. So, please don't think of this as crazed and impulsive. This is a tentative reaching out to make a good relationship better, rather than holding back to protect myself and thereby destroying trust and connection.
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> Does any of htat make sense?I often hold back to protect myself. I've heard that same advice given many times here. So--no, it doesn't all make sense to me. What does make sense is that you want to be loved, accepted and cherished for who you are. You want companionship. You deserve it. I'm all for your having it. I'm just a compulsive protector and it continues to get me in trouble. Will I ever learn? I stand corrected on the Dr. Laura issue.
Grandma (very young one, too)
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