Posted by Paul on October 28, 1999, at 1:25:23
In reply to It's getting hot in here ...., posted by Bob on October 26, 1999, at 22:21:46
> "When you start pointing a finger, remember there are three pointing back at you."
Point away.
> Now, does anyone have any advice for Gigi that she may actually want to read and take to heart?
All "heat" aside, my comments were entirely in good faith. Gigi needs to "read and take to heart" the fact that nothing she's told us provides any indication that there is anything wrong with her daughter. The suggestion that she lighten up a little was also in good faith. Sometimes, when parents take knee-jerk emotional responses [see the restless legs syndrome thread], and others go so far as to suggest censorship, and police and therapists become involved, a little heat is necessary in order to get people to see the light.
Let's cook.
> Anything that might HELP her instead of fry her? Can anyone here treat her any differently from the way she's been accused of treating her daughter?
Okay. Tell you this. You call the cops on her, I'll drag her to a therapist. Then we will be treating her as she has been treating her daughter. In fact, she would do well to treat her daughter the way that I and others have been treating her - i.e., *talking* about a problem (albeit warmly) rather than bringing in putative authority figures to enforce her will.
> Any return flames gladly accepted via email. No need to keep it going on here. Thanks.
>
> Bob
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