Posted by Adam on October 29, 1999, at 2:02:41
In reply to Re: Life on Meds...Approaching 40, posted by EVE on October 27, 1999, at 21:50:19
I'm not certain if this post has anything to do with mine, but if so...
Good heavens, I don't want to fix anybody. And I would't consider adopting
unless I felt very confident about my own mental status and the quality
of my relationship, as I wouldn't try to raise a kid on my own.Really, I would envision adopting an infant. And it wouldn't be all
altruistic in nature. Just an alternative to passing my own genes on,
which I am uncomfortable with, at least for the present. If there is
a child out there who needs a parent, maybe I could be a good one, and
there's one less baby who won't grow up without a family.I don't see why this is so far-fetched or unhealthy. And, like I said,
I would never consider it unless I felt confident of my own emotional
state. I think most who consider adoption would agree.> As a mother with life-long depression, raising my own children is difficult, but I did it and they are good, grown up adults now. If I could not have raised my own flesh and blood, however, how could I have possibly have raised some one else's? Especially the older children who are needing to be adopted. Those most sad of all little children, the ones who have been abused and/or neglected and now are cursed with their own depression. How could a mother (so down in her own life) possibly care for a child whose life someone else may have already ruined. Very beautiful and altruistic to think those little kids "NEED" us. In the real world, they need very strong, very capable, very normal parents, not those of us who may only WISH we could "fix them."
> If we could "fix them", why can't we "fix" ourselves. This is very deep, folks. Very deep. Adoption by already depressed people is no joke.
poster:Adam
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