Posted by Ruth on June 24, 1999, at 7:33:33
In reply to Re: no inteded to insult anybody, posted by Elizabeth on June 24, 1999, at 0:18:04
>JC,
I have to say that I really agree with many of
Elizabeth's responses to you--but I would want to
add that I wouldn't want you to leave the site
unless you truly find it unrewarding. Personally,
I think you might be feeling a little defensive,
b/c you got a lot of negative responses to your
post. That's totally understandable, and I can
really relate. And probably we were feeling defensive too.
Maybe you can see, looking back, that your post was
written in a way that would cause people to react
defensively. From reading all the posts
this can boil down to misunderstanding. I think,
like Elizabeth said, you probably would have received
the support you needed if your post hadn't come off
as accusatory. I now know you didn't mean to be.
Nobody's perfect, and that's why we're here.
I can totally understand how reading certain people's
reactions/side effects of certain meds can be
scarey! It's been scarey to me sometimes too! I have
not taken certain medications b/c of the feedback
I've read about them on this site. I've also become
paranoid, at times, because of other people's side
effects to the drug I'm taking (like weight gain
for instance...) but I just try and take a deep breath
learn what's useful to me, and disregard what's not.
I try and stay focused on my own reaction to a medication,
and not get too caught up in everyone else's. I
can also see how maybe it might appear that people
are too involved in finding the right medication and
not trying to delve into deeper problems. I think
that might be (for myself anyway) that it's virtually
impossible to begin working on the deeper problems
unless the physical side of the depression is taken
care of first. So sometimes that's the first priority--
take care of the physical so you can then have the
mental clarity to move on to the spiritual. I also
think that medication is simply the focus of this
particular forum, and that there probably are other
forums that focus more on the spiritual/emotional
aspects of depression. Many people try one med.,
and it works, and then they can take their med, work
on their depression issues, and move on. For other
people, it's not that simple, and more of a struggle
to find the right med. It's very complex--sometimes
drugs lose their effect after years of being effective,
sometimes people on are multiple meds that may
conflict with each other...it CAN be frustrating,
precisely because folks want so desperately to be
feeling better, happier, moving on. Anyway...I'm
glad that you didn't intend on insulting
anybody, I hope this helps somewhat,
and I hope everything works out for you.
Smiles,
Ruth
poster:Ruth
thread:7745
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/19990601/msgs/7765.html