Posted by KATIE on April 22, 1999, at 11:36:24
In reply to Re: back to the original question, posted by MrZest on December 8, 1998, at 11:24:30
> My problem isn't coping w/ the bootstrap thing so much as with the talent thing. All my peers were so disappointed when I threw away my one talent. In thier opinion I just flushed 'em ALL down the toilet. I know better now, tho. I know that with each talent I create another one is added so in actuality I have more talents than I know what to do with in this lifetime. Unfortunately, my peers probably still think I threw away my one and only talent worth keeping. But, hell..if I lived life according to my peers I would have to look at the same horizon every day of my life...and that's pretty damn dull, dont ya think?
> As I have already said, I have a problem with this bootstrap thing myself. I keep catching myself becoming frustrated before I know it, all on my own, and/or because of outside influences. Over time it has become painfully obvious that I am not going to wake up someday and suddenly be able to cope with all the things I was able to cope with in my twenties. Therefore I am daily working on accepting that fact for and within myself. I am finding that the more I accept it myself, the less it matters what someone else thinks or even says on the subject. I am even learning to accept the fact that there will always be those who will have that chin up attitude. I don't have to take each instance personally. I don't have to educate everyone about the difference between attitudes and chemicals. I don't have to make sure that everyone I come into contact or even conflict with is made aware of the real facts at hand. And I most certainly do NOT have to let myself be frustrated and angry every time the subject surfaces in some way.
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> Our plight is not an easy one. It is difficult enough on the face of it. Lashing out at those around us only makes it unnecessarily more difficult. If the lashing out goes on long enough it can become not just difficult, but impossible for anyone involved to make any headway. Yourself included. There will always be conflicts enough for us all. Learn to choose your battles instead of letting them choose you. Letting yourself become frustrated over and again about the same things will at best waste your time, and at worst, waste your lifetime.
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