Posted by Victoria on April 8, 1999, at 14:46:17
In reply to Re: IS ANYBODY BEING CONSIDERATE?, posted by v on April 8, 1999, at 6:31:18
At the risk of stepping into this particular mine field, can I suggest that, on issues like this, we try to focus on communicating our own experience and not telling other people what to do? I know I find that more useful; one of the great things about this site is appreciating the complexity and diversity of us all. Although we share much, everyone's problems and solutions are individual and may be completely different from our own. (It also helps me not be offended to remember that everyone is really expressing only their own experience, even when it's worded as advice or a pronouncement.)
> > Please remember to try to be civil. You may disagree with what someone said, but take a minute and read it over again. Maybe there's a kernel of truth, at least, to what they said. That's an advantage of an online forum; you have time to think through what to say.
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> > People here are either in need of support, or trying to provide support, or both. It doesn't help any of them to be treated disrespectfully.
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> actually, i am surprised that anything i wrote would have offended anyone - i deliberately reiterated the point that we're all different and that i begrudge noone their stance
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> i never meant to hurt anyone's feelings... but it angers me that because i am managing to stay (yes, i too, feel the risk of posting here and can be oversensitive about responses), i am being called on the carpet for expressing myself... so should i leave too?
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> i have written terry privately and truly hope she decides to stay - i don't want to leave here either but i'm angry and hurt.
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> it's often very hard for me to reach out to this forum... now i wonder... oh, what's the use of trying to explain...
poster:Victoria
thread:4030
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/19990401/msgs/4567.html