Posted by Victoria on March 16, 1999, at 19:16:32
In reply to Re: social worker, posted by saintjames on March 9, 1999, at 2:05:32
I agree with James that it's very important to discuss your concerns with your therapist. And yes, therapy can be difficult and can involve hearing some painful truths about yourself, etc. BUT I also have had the experience of staying in a very unhelpful therapeutic relationship because I bought the therapist's interpretation that all my concerns about what was happening were "resistance." Now I'm paying good money to sort out the damage that did and resolve the problems that I made no progress with with the previous therapist. Bottom line: you must be able to trust your therapist and feel safe with him/her, and you must trust your own perceptions about that. That doesn't mean liking everything he/she says, but it means believing that the intention is to be helpful and experiencing over time that the relationship IS helpful. If that basic relationship isn't there, and your therapist is not willing to work with you on your concerns about the relationship, including admitting his/her own limitations, whatver they may be, then therapy isn't going to work.
> > can social workers do more harm then good if
> > they twists every thing around the patient has
> > confided in him
> > we seem to be haveing this promlem
>
> James here....
>
> There are 2 possibilities.....
>
> 1) this person is not right for you
>
> 2) this person is on the right path in helping you and you are resisting them. Change is hard and at first is not to fun....but no one goes to thearpy, paying hard cash, to have someone say you are great and fine and agree with you. You are there because there is a problem you want help with.
>
> Be upfront with the social worker about your conserns and see how they react. At the same time
> look deep w/i yourself and ask if what they are saying is true.
>
> I've seen too many hurting people walk out after a few sessions just because someone was honest with them. It is also possible that this person is not for you, so give it some more sessions and if you really feel things are not right find someone else.
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> It is not what you say...it is what you do...therapy is about looking beyond the ez talk
> for the hidden meanings ( the real reasons )
>
> james
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