Posted by mistica on January 17, 1999, at 13:33:36
In reply to Answering questions, posted by Dr. Bob on January 17, 1999, at 2:04:20
> > > > So, Toby, will you settle this for us or not?
> > > Regrettably, no.
> > Why the mystery? Why should this be a
> > secret? Your unwillingness to answer the
> > question, your lack of forthrightness and
> > honesty, should raise a few flags in some
> > people's mind, as it does in mine.
> One thing about this online world, there aren't pat answers here.
> It's natural to want it to conform to the "real" world, in which it would be clear what gender we were. Usually, anyway. :-)
> The National Board for Certified Counselors was one of the first groups to propose standards for "web counseling". Their current version is at:
> http://www.nbcc.org/ethics/wcstandards.htm
> Under item 7, they do say that:
> >WebCounselors may wish to ensure that, minimally, the
> >WebClient has the same data available about his/her service
> >provider as would be available if the counseling were to take place
> >face to face (i.e., possibly ethnicity, gender, etc.). Compelling
> >reasons for limiting disclosure should be presented.
> I'd like to point out, however, that they probably wouldn't consider exchanges here to be "web counseling". But still.
> OTOH, does this in fact need to be like the "real" world? The ability to be genderless is certainly one of the attractions of the Internet.
> I don't know.
> Some people will be more comfortable with an ambiguous person than others. If you're not comfortable not knowing more about someone, then you might not want to listen to them. Caveat emptor, as they say.
> I do think professional qualifications, however, are relevant. I was disappointed that no one responded to my post a long time ago on this. It's not too late :-) it's still at:
> http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/199809/msgs/604.html
> Bob
I would like to point-out to everyone that Toby has answered the question of his/her qualifications, (it's in a previous post refering to a somewhat similar question about qualifications or something)!! ALSO I think that we should not, nor do we really have the right to pass judgement on anyone, much less - I will be so bold to say - Toby, for not wanting to give certain personal info. about themselves. Afterall, advise given to us by professionals on this board or those who have esperienced situations similar and want to help people, is done so of their own free will and they aren't getting paid!! I am very greatful for the info. many have supplied, esp. TOBY!!! I don't think we should pass judgement, we should just be greatful, as I'm sure most of us would agree Toby has been quite helpful and very selfless with his /her time. And that fact alone should give us all the info. we need, not to mention I think it's rather obvious that Toby i s qualified (just read his responses) and very experienced and knowledgeable!!!
At the risk of offending anyone, I say SHAME on anyone who would pass any sort of judgement, or try to imply that Toby is oblilgated to answer any personal or professional questions, (that are actually personal questions regarding prof. qualifications)!
poster:mistica
thread:2364
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