Psycho-Babble Medication Thread 1120763

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Penny for your thoughts..

Posted by jay2112 on September 22, 2022, at 10:40:48

OK...I mentioned I started my new job and really enjoy it. But, why are people looking/acting towards me like I am almost a non-existent loser? I mean, it's mostly guys, and I feel kinda like a real 'outsider'...and I have that 'imposter syndrome'. Maybe I don't "look" the role? I am a big, chubby guy who everyone always seems to think I am a cop/security! And, I LOVE just being happy and kind, and the guys come off as tough and kinda mean. (Not to me, really). Maybe I should grow a beard? I look quite tough in one of those. I am a very deep "empath" type, and I read people very easily. I dunno. HELP!!!..lol... P.S. I told my boss about my Asperger's in an email yesterday, and explained that my high/awkward social anxiety prevents me from "showing my best side"...because I don't know if they think I am a moron..lol

Jay <sigh>

 

Re: Penny for your thoughts..

Posted by Hugh on September 22, 2022, at 20:53:20

In reply to Penny for your thoughts.., posted by jay2112 on September 22, 2022, at 10:40:48

A beard might not be a bad idea. Maybe start talking about Canadian football at work? Show an avid interest in hunting? Get some tattoos?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0vsVQo8jt24

On a more serious note, I used to feel miserably self-conscious. Since I did neurofeedback over ten years ago, I've felt a lot less self-conscious.

 

Re: Penny for your thoughts..

Posted by Lamdage22 on September 23, 2022, at 9:53:15

In reply to Re: Penny for your thoughts.., posted by Hugh on September 22, 2022, at 20:53:20

I stopped telling diagnoses to anyone. I just describe my problem in words everyone understands.

 

Re: Penny for your thoughts..

Posted by Christ_empowered on September 23, 2022, at 11:12:51

In reply to Re: Penny for your thoughts.., posted by Lamdage22 on September 23, 2022, at 9:53:15

a woman who had lived in poverty her whole life once told me: "some people do not work."

that was well over 10 years ago. I do not work. I cannot work, but...the end result is the same, isn't it? and...

it isn't just credentials or the ability to do the actual -job- itself. lots and lots of things go into working, and I am one of those people who do not work.

 

Re: Penny for your thoughts..

Posted by Roslynn on September 23, 2022, at 15:27:15

In reply to Penny for your thoughts.., posted by jay2112 on September 22, 2022, at 10:40:48

I don't really know what to advise but I wish you the best of luck!!!

Roslynn

 

Re: Penny for your thoughts.. Hugh

Posted by Jay2112 on September 25, 2022, at 19:24:03

In reply to Re: Penny for your thoughts.., posted by Hugh on September 22, 2022, at 20:53:20

> A beard might not be a bad idea. Maybe start talking about Canadian football at work? Show an avid interest in hunting? Get some tattoos?
>
> https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0vsVQo8jt24
>
> On a more serious note, I used to feel miserably self-conscious. Since I did neurofeedback over ten years ago, I've felt a lot less self-conscious.

Thanks Hugh....and thanks for the clip...that was hilarious! I think it's just my hyperanxiety. I am starting to settle in a bit more. I HAVE taken note of the neurofeedback, and am trying to find somewhere it is covered by our insurance.

Thanks again...
Jay :)

 

Re: Penny for your thoughts.. Lamdage22

Posted by Jay2112 on September 25, 2022, at 19:29:08

In reply to Re: Penny for your thoughts.., posted by Lamdage22 on September 23, 2022, at 9:53:15

> I stopped telling diagnoses to anyone. I just describe my problem in words everyone understands.

I see your point, but I selectively, if I do feel the other person has the depth to be caring enough, will take a chance with my Dx. I (sadly) don't mention being bipolar, because there is a boatload of stigma too. And, bipolar has been so madly misconstrued in television and everywhere, people just have wild, sad prejudice.

Jay

 

Re: Penny for your thoughts.. Christ_empowered

Posted by Jay2112 on September 25, 2022, at 19:50:57

In reply to Re: Penny for your thoughts.., posted by Christ_empowered on September 23, 2022, at 11:12:51

> a woman who had lived in poverty her whole life once told me: "some people do not work."
>
> that was well over 10 years ago. I do not work. I cannot work, but...the end result is the same, isn't it? and...
>
> it isn't just credentials or the ability to do the actual -job- itself. lots and lots of things go into working, and I am one of those people who do not work.
>

So, so true...and I hope I didn't sound ableist. I am still on a government disability pension. I have been greatly helped by a community worker with the Canadian Mental Health Association. I mean *greatly* helped! He taught about all of us being in *recovery*, and recovery principles. (Just google it.) See...I am lucky to be well enough to work...but I (hope) I don't gloat in it. I am doing it like all of us try to do...to get some more loot..money. It took me YEARS to get to this point, though. Plus, I am a client, and teaching recovery is in line with my social work background. So, say, I just REALLY got lucky. I get to help people like myself, with mental illness, as well as people with addictions. And, they pay me for it, which as long as I just got my pension, I really wouldn't care about. Plus, I got my foot into this job thanks to a very nice friend in the field whom I worked for over 30 years ago.

Working is not, and SHOULD not be *everything*...or even MOST..EVER! I like the idea of all citizens getting a basic income...working or not. There is a good book, too, called "Laziness Doesn't Exist", which I am going to track down a copy of...because it sounds PERFECT! I am still on a government disability pension, and may continue to be. There is absolutely *no* shame in that!! Ever....

Jay

 

Re: Penny for your thoughts.. Roslynn

Posted by Jay2112 on September 25, 2022, at 19:52:09

In reply to Re: Penny for your thoughts.., posted by Roslynn on September 23, 2022, at 15:27:15

> I don't really know what to advise but I wish you the best of luck!!!
>
> Roslynn

Awwee...thank you Roslynn. :)

Jay

 

Re: Penny for your thoughts..ALL

Posted by Jay2112 on September 25, 2022, at 19:55:56

In reply to Penny for your thoughts.., posted by jay2112 on September 22, 2022, at 10:40:48

And...a HUGE thanks to you ALL...you ALL show such strength, to break through the waves, suffering HUGE blows and still carrying on!! NOBODY knows what we all go through..live through..and keep the fires of HOPE going. HOPE IS ETERNAL...my friends...

Jay :)

 

Re: Penny for your thoughts..ALL Jay2112

Posted by SLS on September 25, 2022, at 21:21:42

In reply to Re: Penny for your thoughts..ALL, posted by Jay2112 on September 25, 2022, at 19:55:56

> And...a HUGE thanks to you ALL...you ALL show such strength, to break through the waves, suffering HUGE blows and still carrying on!! NOBODY knows what we all go through..live through..and keep the fires of HOPE going. HOPE IS ETERNAL...my friends...
>
> Jay :)


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Re: Penny for your thoughts..

Posted by Lamdage22 on October 3, 2022, at 12:03:21

In reply to Re: Penny for your thoughts.., posted by Lamdage22 on September 23, 2022, at 9:53:15

Did disclosing your diagnosis work out?


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