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Posted by Cajunbelle on January 5, 2004, at 15:59:28
Just felt the need to post..Not sure about what.I feel so overwhelmed with the need to cry.Days like this I cant help but wonder "Is the Lexapro really working"? My 18 yr old son was arrested this weekend and charged with a dui...My therapist that I have been seeing for the past 12 yrs just informed me that she is retiring next month...She has been my safety net through the hardest moments of my life..now what? at this moment I feel that I have no control over anything in my life and Im so afraid. God I hate feeling this way. I just need someone to vent to, someone to listen and really hear what I am saying.The weather here is dark,grey,and gloomey,and I know that has an effect on the way I feel.I am so thankful to have found this bored..A place where I can come to and express what I am feeling without the risk of being judged or ridiculed..Thanks everyone for helping in giving us all this special place :)
Cajunbelle
Posted by nicky847 on January 5, 2004, at 16:21:21
In reply to A Really black day , posted by Cajunbelle on January 5, 2004, at 15:59:28
Hi Cajunbelle-
I think most people would feel a bit down given your recent life events Lexapro or no Lexapro!Don't have any answers for you but can say for sure that uncertainty is what keeps life interesting and offers hope..its possible your son may learn his lesson from getting a dui, and its better he learn now than later in life..and its also possible that you will find a new therapist who is just as helpful if not more so than the one you have now...one thing none of us can do is predict the future..all any of us can do is the wait and see..and do the best we can..
hope life eases up on you soon..
nick
> Just felt the need to post..Not sure about what.I feel so overwhelmed with the need to cry.Days like this I cant help but wonder "Is the Lexapro really working"? My 18 yr old son was arrested this weekend and charged with a dui...My therapist that I have been seeing for the past 12 yrs just informed me that she is retiring next month...She has been my safety net through the hardest moments of my life..now what? at this moment I feel that I have no control over anything in my life and Im so afraid. God I hate feeling this way. I just need someone to vent to, someone to listen and really hear what I am saying.The weather here is dark,grey,and gloomey,and I know that has an effect on the way I feel.I am so thankful to have found this bored..A place where I can come to and express what I am feeling without the risk of being judged or ridiculed..Thanks everyone for helping in giving us all this special place :)
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> Cajunbelle
Posted by leah57 on January 5, 2004, at 17:18:33
In reply to A Really black day , posted by Cajunbelle on January 5, 2004, at 15:59:28
Hi Cajunbelle, I've had some dark days too lately. Fear is not a good feeling. I hope things will improve for you soon. Take care of yourself and all the best.
Posted by Tootercat on January 5, 2004, at 17:54:37
In reply to A Really black day , posted by Cajunbelle on January 5, 2004, at 15:59:28
Cajunbelle, Hang in there. Some things will depress us whether or not we're on meds. The things you are talking about would make a "normy" have the blues. I agree with nicky that the dui may be a lesson better learned at this age than later especially if there is any possibility that he has a problem with alcohol. I'm sure you will find another therapist to become your safety net and although it will seem like starting over you may get some new perspectives on your life. I also understand the dark gloomy weather having a negative effect on how everything feels. I'm going thru a divorce right now, the holidays sucked, I'm living by myself (I'm 46 and have never lived by myself) and the weather was more rain than sun, and I've had some horrible anxiety attacks and I'm just 2 weeks into Zoloft and I pretty much thought that I would be happier not on this planet. Fortunately I have a really wonderful network of support from friends and my AA meetings, my therapist and my family. Today I actually feel better than I have in 2 months. I hate it when people say this to me but it's the truth "This too shall pass". Take care
> Just felt the need to post..Not sure about what.I feel so overwhelmed with the need to cry.Days like this I cant help but wonder "Is the Lexapro really working"? My 18 yr old son was arrested this weekend and charged with a dui...My therapist that I have been seeing for the past 12 yrs just informed me that she is retiring next month...She has been my safety net through the hardest moments of my life..now what? at this moment I feel that I have no control over anything in my life and Im so afraid. God I hate feeling this way. I just need someone to vent to, someone to listen and really hear what I am saying.The weather here is dark,grey,and gloomey,and I know that has an effect on the way I feel.I am so thankful to have found this bored..A place where I can come to and express what I am feeling without the risk of being judged or ridiculed..Thanks everyone for helping in giving us all this special place :)
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> Cajunbelle
Posted by reluctant on January 5, 2004, at 20:32:47
In reply to A Really black day , posted by Cajunbelle on January 5, 2004, at 15:59:28
Cajunbelle -
well, you're right - you *don't* have any control over anything beyond yourself, really. I know that's obvious & doesn't sound too encouraging, but think about it - it's very sad about your son, and also about your therapist, but it is entirely beyond your control. The most you can do is offer support to your son and to your therapist's decision to retire - and so, since you know there's nothing you can do to change the situation, you're free to let go of the urge to change things. This line of thinking turns up a lot in zen buddhisim.
I know when I'm freaking out about things, I feel like I *can't* stop freaking out because - god forbid - if I should stop worrying, then my mental effort towards the situation would cease and . . . here my line of illogic gets a little fuzzy but I think some part of me believes that things will get worse if I stop putting out mental effort in the form of freaking out over things. my, but we are silly humans, aren't we? fortunately, it does help to laugh kindly at our silliness.
This is not to make light of your feelings - it sounds like you're going through a lot, and I don't think anything I've said here could make these experiences feel a whole lot better. I just don't want you to add the burden of feeling responsible for things that aren't you . . .
-r.
Posted by Dr. Bob on January 5, 2004, at 22:48:04
In reply to A Really black day , posted by Cajunbelle on January 5, 2004, at 15:59:28
> Just felt the need to post..Not sure about what.I feel so overwhelmed with the need to cry...
Sorry you have so much to deal with, but I'd like to redirect this thread to Psycho-Social-Babble. Here's a link:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/social/20031229/msgs/296946.html
Bob
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