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Re: 41 years of Abuse, loss, grief, /PLEASE Read?! lynn971

Posted by allisonross on November 7, 2005, at 5:44:03

In reply to Re: 41 years of Abuse, loss, grief, /PLEASE Read?!, posted by lynn971 on November 6, 2005, at 23:09:40

> Hi, Lynn! I am so glad that you are not a part of that church anymore.
>
> It sounds like the pastor is more concerned about legalistic issues than about your well being
>
> A pastor is suppose to be a sheppard to his flock. He is suppose to actually care about the individuals in the congregation. My pastor would have been more concerned about the abuse that you have been through.

He pretended he was. I went to him 10 years previously, and he did NOTHING. When I asked him why, he said (moron) "when I saw you and your husband together in church, I assumed everything was okay." How bizarre.

>
>
> I am concerned about your abusive ex living in the same house as you because he is abusive. Get him out!!!! YOu do not owe him anything. You are not responsible for his happiness.
>
He's been gone now for 5 months. I HATE being alone, but am coping well. Good thing I am so resilient.

>
> My advice to you is to just love Jesus.

I do.

Dont worry about what the other people feel is right or wrong.

I've always been my own woman, and didn't care what others thought. I believe(d) in standing up for my principles, that's why I fought the system.

I waited 2 years and wrote to everyone in that church (10 page letter)...about "restorative justice"--This is what you did...this is how it made me feel. I then wrote a letter to the pastor (of disaster, LOL), requesting the money I had to spend in therapy (my therapist was an expert in spiritual abuse and showed up at the precise moment I needed him---no accident there. A year later, the church's insurance company sent me a token $650.00. Pathetic, but still---restorative justice.

(I need to take my own advice)

Hugs n Love to you, Lynn!

Ally


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