Posted by Cecilia on May 29, 2012, at 5:29:16
In reply to Re: What Is Passive Suicide?, posted by Twinleaf on May 28, 2012, at 13:33:33
Twinleaf, I don't know how many meds or attempts at therapy Phillipa has engaged in. I do know how many I have, and as someone else who has given up and is another person at Babble who is no longer making an "active continued effort to overcome my depression" I can only say that comments like yours HURT. Again, I can't speak for Phillipa, only for myself, but your comments just felt like a slap in the face. Blame the victim, as though depressed people don't already blame themselves every day. Maybe most people who have given up don't spend much time at Psycho Babble, but I am quite sure there are many of us who have tried pretty much everything there is to try. I know there's always something new; I haven't tried vilazodone, maybe at some point I will, but the odds of it working when dozens of other meds have failed are not exactly favorable, to say the least. Maybe someday they will invent new meds that are actually significantly different from the old ones, but like Phillipa I am over 60 and the chances of this happening in my lifetime are pretty remote. So yes, I suppose it's passive suicide, ignoring your insurance companies endless reminders to get a mammogram and the like. Active suicide takes a lot more courage than I have. I've been depressed my whole life and I wish regularly I had done it when I was young and avoided a
lifetime of pain, but I didn't have the courage. And for those who are going to write in, "it gets better", no it doesn't always. That's reality. I think we're all doing the best we can. Cecilia
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