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Posted by tina on August 9, 2002, at 10:25:13
The ONLY reason I have to get out of bed in the morning is to go to a job that I despise with all my heart. THAT really sucks.
Posted by Mashogr8 on August 9, 2002, at 10:55:30
In reply to You know what really sucks..........., posted by tina on August 9, 2002, at 10:25:13
On a very bad day, what really helps is knowing that bed is a reward once I get through the wretched work hours. (and I usually like what I do at work.)
MA
Posted by Ted on August 9, 2002, at 11:42:58
In reply to You know what really sucks..........., posted by tina on August 9, 2002, at 10:25:13
Tina,
> The ONLY reason I have to get out of bed in the morning is to go to a job that I despise with all my heart. THAT really sucks.
I did this for about 9-10 years. By the time I got my act together and got a better job, it was too late.
Wanna know what *really* sucks? Getting out of bed only because you have to go to the bathroom. That was the single most common cause for me going to work at all during those aforementioned 9-10 years.
Ted (with a small bladder)
Posted by tina on August 9, 2002, at 11:49:58
In reply to Re: You know what really sucks........... » tina, posted by Ted on August 9, 2002, at 11:42:58
> I did this for about 9-10 years. By the time I got my act together and got a better job, it was too late.
>I"ve been doing it for about 13 years now Ted. That's just pathetic.....dontcha think?
Posted by Ted on August 9, 2002, at 12:07:59
In reply to Re: You know what really sucks........... » Ted, posted by tina on August 9, 2002, at 11:49:58
Tina,
> I"ve been doing it for about 13 years now Ted. That's just pathetic.....dontcha think?
OK, then, it sounds like we have some work to do. Where do you live? What kind of work do you do? Prepare now, and when the economy improves, jump!
(I said "we" because I *will* help if you want: resume review, employment contacts if possible, etc.)
Ted
Posted by Roo on August 9, 2002, at 15:36:40
In reply to Re: You know what really sucks........... » tina, posted by Ted on August 9, 2002, at 12:07:59
I don't understand, why was it too late?
I hate to admit it, but I've never had a job I liked.
I wouldn't even know what that feels like it. I would love
to just feel like I'm really good at something, really had
skills that people needed, and get paid for doing something
I loved. I really yearn for that, but right now I'm in the
midst of a hideous depression, so of course it's hard to imagine
that it could ever happen.
Posted by Dinah on August 9, 2002, at 16:34:49
In reply to Re: You know what really sucks...........TEd, posted by Roo on August 9, 2002, at 15:36:40
I do have a job I'm really good at, skills that people need and value. And I still hate it. Because it isn't what I value. I would give anything to be able to work with kids or with people in some way that would make a real difference.
But I just don't have the talent for dealing with people. Or the patience. Or the emotional armour.
So I'm stuck earning a decent living at something I hate. Oh well, at least it pays my therapy bills.
So that's why I get out of bed in the morning (usually). To go to a job that pays my therapy bills. Scowl.
Posted by Ted on August 9, 2002, at 18:36:31
In reply to Re: You know what really sucks...........TEd, posted by Roo on August 9, 2002, at 15:36:40
Hi Roo,
> I don't understand, why was it too late?
Well... Here's what I had to work with:
1. company presidents who enjoyed *screaming* at the staff and making threats for no reason. I was the only one who was gutsy (stupid?) enough to stand up to the president at one of these jobs and tell him to either shut up or fire us all. My coworkers were scared shi*less. He shut up.
2. corporate nepotism from bottom to top so severe and dysfunctional that it bordered on comical. No, it didn't border on comical -- it WAS comical! The president's wife ran accounting on the first floor and his mistress ran marketing on the second floor; they had cat-fights on the stairs. Really -- no joke.
3. just plain mean managers, who would show up at my home unannounced when I had a 104F fever and had called in sick, holding software listings in their hands, asking me to point to the problem for them. (The idiots couldn't just wait a few days for my fever to abate!). They also called meetings in my absence and put me on speakerphone, with me excusing myself to go to the bathroom every 5 minutes.
4. company president & engineering VP *begging* me to cancel a vacation I didn't want to take, but was forced to by *them* because they didn't want me to carry my vacation over the year boundary. Geez!
5. engineering VP ordering one of the staff to modify a computer program to get around its copy protection because he didn't want to buy 10 more copies at $30 each. He thought it would be easier & cheaper to use fraud. I threatened to turn him in to authorities if he continued; a purchase order was sent out that day for all of $300.
6. stress so bad that I would break down and cry because I just couldn't take it any more.I used to joke that every day at these jobs was going to need 2 days in therapy to recover. Now that's the price I am paying. That's why it was too late. If I had left to a more sane company early on, I probably wouldn't have had problems nearly so bad now.
> I hate to admit it, but I've never had a job I liked.
I did a couple of times. Eventually a depression crisis would come and I would start to hate the job and leave.
> I wouldn't even know what that feels like it. I would love
> to just feel like I'm really good at something, really had
> skills that people needed, and get paid for doing something
> I loved.I'm close to that now. My job is boring, but I have a great manager who is understanding and supportive of my limitations due to bipolar disorder & meds. But hey -- I'm still employed, and I keep getting bonuses & raises, so I must have someone "fooled".
> I really yearn for that, but right now I'm in the
> midst of a hideous depression, so of course it's hard to imagine
> that it could ever happen.It can happen, but 22 years of working as a professional have taught me that luck is the single largest factor: You have to get the right job with the right company with the right insurance & policies and, most of all, the right manager. Heck, other than that, it's a piece of cake. :-)
Ted(expecting another decade of therapy)
Posted by tina on August 10, 2002, at 11:17:50
In reply to Re: You know what really sucks........... » tina, posted by Ted on August 9, 2002, at 12:07:59
Jeez Ted. I'm just a lowly retail clerk in a tiny store in Ontario. None of that fancy stuff required for another job in this field that's for sure. I don't think you even have to have a brain to work where I work. In fact, I don't think most of my co-workers do.....;)
What I really need is education so I can change fields entirely but I don't know what I want to do. That's been my problem my whole life. I jsut don't have a clue what I want to be. I think, if I did, I'd be able to move forward a little more.
Posted by shar on August 10, 2002, at 17:52:25
In reply to You know what really sucks..........., posted by tina on August 9, 2002, at 10:25:13
> The ONLY reason I have to get out of bed in the morning is to go to a job that I despise with all my heart. THAT really sucks.
I hate it that you have a a job you despise, and not much more to get up for.....if nothing else, you show your strength and perseverence in doing what needs to be done. There is a lot to be said for that, and for the fact that it takes such a lot of energy to fight the depression and anxiety while you do it, but you don't give up. I have thought of you more than once when I'm trying to drag myself off to work.
Shar
Posted by tina on August 11, 2002, at 19:45:01
In reply to Re: You know what really sucks...........AMEN! » tina, posted by shar on August 10, 2002, at 17:52:25
That's a pretty big compliment, thank you shar. You still workin on the retail chain gang?
Posted by shar on August 11, 2002, at 23:34:20
In reply to Re: You know what really sucks..... » shar, posted by tina on August 11, 2002, at 19:45:01
> That's a pretty big compliment, thank you shar. You still workin on the retail chain gang?
Yes, and I still use your 'legs upside down' method for recovering after a shift. 8-)
Posted by tina on August 12, 2002, at 9:21:20
In reply to Re: You know what really sucks..... » tina, posted by shar on August 11, 2002, at 23:34:20
Well, I'm glad it helps. I am assuming that it's the only reason I don't have huge varicose veins by now after 13 years in this biz.
look after yourself shar
love ya
tina
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