Psycho-Babble Psychology Thread 1108961

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T's questions made me uncomfortable

Posted by Lamdage22 on March 12, 2020, at 15:12:33

So I did the second (NON CBT) session today and I felt real uncomfortable at times. Hmm, I think it is just in my head. The questions that were asked... I felt as if though I was being manipulated. Sometimes, I couldn't follow the train of thought. Anxious.

A lot speaks for his credibility. I don't want to go into details here, because I don't want anyone to be able to find out who it is. Especially not parents.

I guess I will observe. I think this might be a good chance for me and I don't want to miss the opportunity just because of something that is probably just in my head.

Maybe I have been manipulated by my surroundings and that's why I react this way to someone who tries to unwind the manipulation.

Does anyone know this type of thing? What do you think?

 

Re: T's questions made me uncomfortable

Posted by sigismund on March 14, 2020, at 3:04:49

In reply to T's questions made me uncomfortable, posted by Lamdage22 on March 12, 2020, at 15:12:33

Therapy for me was most often uncomfortable, but without knowing more of course I can't say.


Dynamic therapy works through that, but there are different kinds of uncomfortableness and the trust required.

 

Re: T's questions made me uncomfortable

Posted by sigismund on March 14, 2020, at 3:06:29

In reply to Re: T's questions made me uncomfortable, posted by sigismund on March 14, 2020, at 3:04:49

Although I son't recall being asked questions much. In the silences I would be the one to ask them.

 

Re: T's questions made me uncomfortable

Posted by alexandra_k on March 14, 2020, at 15:48:01

In reply to T's questions made me uncomfortable, posted by Lamdage22 on March 12, 2020, at 15:12:33

I felt uncomfortable in therapy, too. Control was an issue for me, too. How much I was controlling vs forces outside my control. Fear of loss of control. Things like that. And trust was a really big deal, for sure. And trust. Yep.

 

Re: T's questions made me uncomfortable Lamdage22

Posted by Jadde on March 16, 2020, at 14:34:54

In reply to T's questions made me uncomfortable, posted by Lamdage22 on March 12, 2020, at 15:12:33

What always made me uncomfortable was my belief that the T was probably thinking about what to have for lunch, that I was boring him/her. I stuck to women after a male T called me on a Saturday night, and showed up to a pub on the day I told him I was meeting a friend. He asked her how I was doing when I was in the restroom. I googled him and he had a prior sanction for inappropriate behavior with a client. Yuk.

They always perked up when I talked about the shocking/messier parts of my history, which made me feel like a side show. And yes, this says a lot more about me and my insecurities. Oh well...

 

Re: T's questions made me uncomfortable

Posted by Lamdage22 on March 16, 2020, at 15:31:11

In reply to Re: T's questions made me uncomfortable Lamdage22, posted by Jadde on March 16, 2020, at 14:34:54

How professional. You need help and you get a stalker...

<I stuck to women after a male T called me on a Saturday night, and showed up to a pub on the day I told him I was meeting a friend. He asked her how I was doing when I was in the restroom. I googled him and he had a prior sanction for inappropriate behavior with a client.

 

Re: T's questions made me uncomfortable Lamdage22

Posted by alexandra_k on March 19, 2020, at 22:56:18

In reply to Re: T's questions made me uncomfortable, posted by Lamdage22 on March 16, 2020, at 15:31:11

It is a sad truth that many people are attracted to the 'helping professions' because they prey on the vulnerable. The 'helping myself to you professions' I think of them as, sometimes.

 

Re: T's questions made me uncomfortable

Posted by alexandra_k on March 19, 2020, at 22:57:47

In reply to Re: T's questions made me uncomfortable Lamdage22, posted by alexandra_k on March 19, 2020, at 22:56:18

Which is not so helpful / useful to dwell on when you have one of the good ones and are having trouble with trust.

It can be hard to trust wisely and well when one has had that violated in the past.

Do you have reason to not trust your therapist?

 

Re: T's questions made me uncomfortable

Posted by Lamdage22 on March 26, 2020, at 5:27:31

In reply to Re: T's questions made me uncomfortable, posted by alexandra_k on March 19, 2020, at 22:57:47

No I don't.

 

I dont trust that therapist! Some reason now

Posted by Lamdage22 on April 5, 2020, at 8:24:03

In reply to Re: T's questions made me uncomfortable, posted by Lamdage22 on March 26, 2020, at 5:27:31

Hey guys,

the therapist told me in a weird way that he googled my father. It seemed to me like he enjoyed telling me that, although he knows it is my greatest fear that people I trust tell him stuff. I dont have any more proof, but he seems predatory to me! I worry about it a lot. I have a bad gut feeling.

 

Re: I dont trust that therapist! Some reason now

Posted by Lamdage22 on April 5, 2020, at 9:14:56

In reply to I dont trust that therapist! Some reason now, posted by Lamdage22 on April 5, 2020, at 8:24:03

He said he didn't know why he did it! WTF?

 

I have continued seeing him

Posted by Lamdage22 on May 12, 2020, at 22:04:48

In reply to Re: I dont trust that therapist! Some reason now, posted by Lamdage22 on April 5, 2020, at 9:14:56

And it seems that he is okay. He apologized. He said he didn't know how difficult my relationship with my father was. I like this type of non CBT-based therapy. It makes you understand yourself and the people in your life. Based on that you can behave better. I think it is a mistake to pretend like CBT is the only thing that is worth a shot.

 

Re: I have continued seeing him

Posted by alexandra_k on June 3, 2020, at 4:18:56

In reply to I have continued seeing him, posted by Lamdage22 on May 12, 2020, at 22:04:48

I didn't like CBT, either.

It felt too 'canned' to me. It felt like people were too quick to pay 'name the fallacy' and stomping on them in a way that... Shut me down. So I wouldn't / couldn't talk to them openly and honestly about my feelings anymore.

I would have been weirded out if my therapist googled anyone in my life, too. Really very.

Only sense I can make of it, I suppose, is one of curiosity. In the sense of you hear someone talking about a person, a bit, and you only have what they say to go on. Kind of wanting to have a little independent information so as to be a bit more... I don't know. Make up ones own mind a bit. If that makes sense.

Like meeting someones other half.

But I would have been unplesantly suprised at hearing that. I understand your not being happy about it.

Good to hear that things seem to be going well since, though. Yeah. I don't think any therapist is perfect.

 

Re: I have continued seeing him

Posted by Lamdage22 on June 3, 2020, at 6:17:37

In reply to Re: I have continued seeing him, posted by alexandra_k on June 3, 2020, at 4:18:56

Thats what I think, too. Not perfect but he seems very able. The next session he apologized


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