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Posted by Happyflower on April 21, 2008, at 21:16:28
What is weird is that I found out the youngest ones are younger than me. His son ran the Boston Marathon today I believe I looked up his results. My T was there for him, took time off work and all. I bet he sure was proud of him, it was his first marathon.
His youngest just graduated law school, got a great job.
I feel left out that I have nobody cheering me on sometimes.
Maybe last Friday is bringing back feelings from my childhood. I got the dates mixed up with another event, so my kids and DH had tickets for a baseball game. I told them it wasn't any big deal, they don't have to come, I will be fine.But you know what? I remember at our band award nights when I was the only one there who didn't have parents there. I was the only one who didn't have parents there on senior awards nights, I had to walk by myself down the isle. But I didn't tell them either because my mom would have to knock me down to her level if I got an award, so I hid them from her.
I guess this event brought back those feelings. I was really okay with it at the time I told them they didn't have to go, but once I was there and the only one with nobody, I felt bad. Especially when the profs walked around had had everyone introduce who was there with them. This nice lady said she would adopt me for the night, that was nice of her, but I still feel less of a human being.
Posted by Phillipa on April 21, 2008, at 23:23:36
In reply to I think I am feeling jelous of my T's kids, posted by Happyflower on April 21, 2008, at 21:16:28
Being alone to me is horrible and don't know why. Nice of that lady even though you must have wished it was family or friends. Love Phillipa
Posted by seldomseen on April 22, 2008, at 6:56:44
In reply to I think I am feeling jelous of my T's kids, posted by Happyflower on April 21, 2008, at 21:16:28
OH HF, I'm so sorry your family couldn't attend.
My parents ruined my high school graduation, didn't attend my college graduation and didn't come to my doctoral dissertation.
I've won a lot of awards too, all of which I accepted by myself.
It becomes okay the more you experience it as an adult. I promise you it does.
In fact, the more awards and honors you get (and I suspect you will receive a lot of them) the more you realize that these are personal victories and, in reality, most people (enitrely good people) just won't "get it". At least that's my experience.
As far as being jealous of your T's kids, who wouldn't be? I know I would be. Imagine having a family and past that actually made things easier for us! I think I would blow by jealousy and straight into anger.
Talk to your T about this.
Seldom.
Posted by sassyfrancesca on April 22, 2008, at 7:49:21
In reply to I think I am feeling jelous of my T's kids, posted by Happyflower on April 21, 2008, at 21:16:28
I understand, sweetie: My mother (well, she worked); never knew my father.....never came, or was able to come to anything of mine.....
I am sorry; I know a little of how you are feeling; how sad....to not have someone "CELEBRATING" you (my t's words; love them....."celebrating" you).
I (underline the word, I) celebrate YOU.....You are amazing.
Love, Ally-gurl/sassy-twin
YOU need to start celebrating YOU and your accomplishments.......
Posted by raisinb on April 22, 2008, at 8:03:12
In reply to I think I am feeling jelous of my T's kids, posted by Happyflower on April 21, 2008, at 21:16:28
HF, that is rough. It sounds so lonely not to have anyone there for you.
FWIW, I've known a lot of therapists and therapists' kids IRL, and they are *not* better parents or partners than anyone else (not that my experience represents the whole world, or anything). In fact, if anything, they are worse.
But I think it's totally natural and okay to be jealous of your T's kids. I sure am!
Posted by Happyflower on April 22, 2008, at 20:22:42
In reply to Re: I think I am feeling jelous of my T's kids » Happyflower, posted by seldomseen on April 22, 2008, at 6:56:44
YOu hit the nail on the head.
I was talking about not going to my award ceremony, and my daughter is like WHAT???????????????? You are getting a reward, you should Go! I want to see it. She made me feel good, she is only 13 but she has a heart of gold.
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