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Posted by Fallen4myT on March 9, 2004, at 23:01:30
In reply to Re: the couch.. » Fallen4myT, posted by Pfinstegg on March 9, 2004, at 21:28:27
Yes I agree on the posts where the people are hurt by what I call mean T's :( Mine is very sweet BUT HAS crossed some fine lines and its cool with me no harm and he may just have been smart enough to cross for a reason and all but man I aint going to bring it up and all ya know. Yes I do think each relationship is unique but some are more special and well um, he has told me as much. WHAT IS of major importance and I am so glad you recognize this is the clothes factor..I mean, what would the world do not knowing what we wear to our T's they could end up staying awake for days waiting for reports ..I will make sure I address this on a weekly basis :p
This week was RED a red dress....short....so you know all I own is short..well ok I think I have 3 new longer skirts...dress is low cut ..and black heels and well everything else was black.
So you go how often? I go weekly to bi-weekly? What are you planning on wearing next? :)
>>All we need to know is what you're WEARING! Then we can all go to sleep peacefully...<<
Posted by antigua on March 9, 2004, at 23:10:16
In reply to Re: the couch.. » Pfinstegg, posted by Fallen4myT on March 9, 2004, at 23:01:30
You guys are lots of fun. You really brightened my very dark day today.
Thanks,
antigua
Posted by gardenergirl on March 9, 2004, at 23:15:17
In reply to Re: that's hilarious but also not » Apperceptor, posted by Fallen4myT on March 7, 2004, at 22:00:23
I simply think like that old Tom Petty song sez " You can stand me up at the gates of hell but I won't back down" applies to me. I can hang in there like you would NOT believe and put up with a lot of stuff here but I do O.K :)
LOVE that song and love Tom Petty. Great in concert.
If your T thinks you are strong and those of us who have never met you IRL also think you are...hmmm...must be true!
Take care,
gg
Posted by gardenergirl on March 9, 2004, at 23:17:21
In reply to Re: that's hilarious but also not, posted by Apperceptor on March 7, 2004, at 23:30:50
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 9, 2004, at 23:18:30
In reply to Re: the couch.., posted by antigua on March 9, 2004, at 23:10:16
I have read some of your posts around and youre very sweet. ANY additions for this thread ?? Loopy Fallen wants to know :)
Posted by gardenergirl on March 9, 2004, at 23:18:33
In reply to Re: the couch.., posted by Pfinstegg on March 8, 2004, at 0:39:15
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 9, 2004, at 23:21:27
In reply to Tom Petty » Fallen4myT, posted by gardenergirl on March 9, 2004, at 23:15:17
Thank you GG I hear it all the time. I also just think I am stubborn :) But you have a point it must be true I guess. I live kind of in a war zone at times and I am OK all in all though T wants me OUT of here
HUGS
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 9, 2004, at 23:23:50
In reply to Awww, Fallen and Apperceptor..forgiveness is cool! (nm), posted by gardenergirl on March 9, 2004, at 23:17:21
GG, I have not seen him in two days and miss him lol how oddly my friendships begin but he is very nice
Posted by gardenergirl on March 9, 2004, at 23:31:13
In reply to Re: Awww, Fallen and Apperceptor..forgiveness is cool! » gardenergirl, posted by Fallen4myT on March 9, 2004, at 23:23:50
As a professor I had long ago would say, "who would'a thunk it?"
It's really impressive, and I agree, speaks well for all babblers, but you in particular, that he is still posting and taking an active role.
Now, what are YOU wearing next time? I see my T on days that I also see clients, so I have to dress professionally. If I am off, I usually wear jeans, as I NEVER get the chance to wear them anymore, it seems.
gg
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 9, 2004, at 23:39:29
In reply to Re: Awww, Fallen and Apperceptor..forgiveness is cool! » Fallen4myT, posted by gardenergirl on March 9, 2004, at 23:31:13
Lol I know "who would'a thunk it?" lol way lol....and thank you. Oh my you have to dress all professional so not fun but you can hike that skirt up when you sit and open a few bottons lol hahahaha and hope you arent graded on this :p
Wow...what will I wear...some days I set 3 outfits out and then pick one when I get up. But I am thinking my new long black skirt is all Stevie Nicks shaggy on the bottom and long suede boots I have with heels...the top you'll have to stay tuned for lol cause that I dont know...maybe a gauze one I have black with bell like sleeves and some embroidery on its sleeves and by the scoop neck...reds and a pretty blue..I thought of that when Typing to P on my skirts lol
Posted by antigua on March 9, 2004, at 23:55:39
In reply to Re: the couch.. » antigua, posted by Fallen4myT on March 9, 2004, at 23:18:30
My wardrobe isn't anywhere near as exciting. My T is a woman and the best days are when I walk in and she is wearing an outfit similar to mine --same color combo, for example. My T is a great dresser and must spend a ton of money on clothes because I can barely remember seeing her in anything more than twice, and I've been seeing her forever!!
I dress for how I feel and she picks up on it right away and comments.
You guys have way more fun, but thanks for including me.
antigua
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 10, 2004, at 0:05:22
In reply to Re: the couch.., posted by antigua on March 9, 2004, at 23:55:39
Well I do have fun and spend way too much cash on clothes (sometimes I pay for it with hubbys yelling at me lol) too I never wear the same outfit to T's and have seen him 3 years now :) You can have fun by trying to guess what color shes gonna wear and wear it and see if you kinda ESPed it out. I do not own jeans. I am odd all in all lol but basically nice and harmless :p just loopy ..So what do you think she will wear next session color wise...And mess with her head too maybe dress opposite of how you feel....hehe..I do NOT always feel happy going in but MUST lookl good
Posted by Pfinstegg on March 10, 2004, at 1:23:38
In reply to Re: the couch.. » Pfinstegg, posted by Fallen4myT on March 9, 2004, at 23:01:30
My T has gone to New Orleans for Mardi Gras (now what's he going to do- dance in the streets all night in a wolf costume, and make fantastic love all day?)Fashionwise, I am taking lessons from Fallen. I thought I was going to get very brave this summer in my new pink dress and sandals with heels, but she has upped the requirements for me, so now I need a pink garter belt which will SHOW slightly! I don't think she fully realizes just how challenging that last fine point will be on the couch..Still, she is definitely showing me the way into a sexier future, and I'm doing my best to follow her. I think she's really got that part down, and best of all, she dares to do it! I can talk the part pretty well, but am not nearly as good at looking it. (yet).
My clothing reality is quite a bit less exciting than hers. I usually go to the T.twice a week, but just wear different jackets (blue, purple, sage, tan and strawberry are the colors I have at present, slim black pants, necklaces, Ferragamo flats and modest make-up. You have to keep in mind that I still flail around quite a bit on the couch and don't always notice whether my knees are *up* or not. If there is eye make-up, it tends to end up on the paper towel which covers the head pillow, so conservative is best there for the time being.But Fallen has gotten me all excited about future possibilities, so just give me time!
Posted by tinydancer on March 10, 2004, at 2:06:47
In reply to Re: the couch.. » Fallen4myT, posted by Pfinstegg on March 9, 2004, at 18:11:48
YES! I agree. I go in to every appointment working it for all I've got and hell, he probably knows it. I don't care. I want to look my best, sexiest, prettiest self, yes I do. Nothing wrong with that.
By the ways your outfit descriptions are too good. I love this! I want more descriptions....haha
> Good outfit! To get a bit more serious for a moment, don't you think we all have these feelings for a good reason? We just want to be our best, sexiest and prettiest selves- in life, and in with the Ts, who get so important and stand in for everyone else. I don't think we have to verbalize everything, either. Just having the feelings is wonderful (and helpful) even if we don't say a word. They know we are having them- and of course, we know it. It gives me a lot more self-confidence, bringing it all in. It all gets accepted in such a natural way, without any big deal being made of it, and, in the process, I get more self-accepting, too. It's as important as all the complex problems I have had with my parents, for example, but no more so. It actually makes getting up, making eye contact and walking out easier than when I try to hide it- or anything else. Well, not every time...but mostly.
>
> I don't know if I can manage a garter belt (well,I have to be honest:I CAN'T!), but I'll be all eyes if you do! It's so much fun to fantasize and be light-hearted about THERAPY CLOTHING. Where else could we ever talk to our hearts' content about such a topic?
Posted by tinydancer on March 10, 2004, at 2:12:18
In reply to Re: the couch.. » antigua, posted by Fallen4myT on March 10, 2004, at 0:05:22
Yeah I just went on a 200$ shopping spree. I like jeans as long as they are tight and VERY low cut...(evil laugh)
> Well I do have fun and spend way too much cash on clothes (sometimes I pay for it with hubbys yelling at me lol) too I never wear the same outfit to T's and have seen him 3 years now :) You can have fun by trying to guess what color shes gonna wear and wear it and see if you kinda ESPed it out. I do not own jeans. I am odd all in all lol but basically nice and harmless :p just loopy ..So what do you think she will wear next session color wise...And mess with her head too maybe dress opposite of how you feel....hehe..I do NOT always feel happy going in but MUST lookl good
Posted by CareBear04 on March 10, 2004, at 12:41:03
In reply to Re: the couch.., posted by antigua on March 9, 2004, at 23:55:39
How does it make you feel when your T comments on your clothes? (I know it sounds like a ? you'd hear in therapy.) I used to think that Ts weren't supposed to notice or at least comment on anything physical, including wardrobe choices. Then I had a woman T who would occasionally make nice remarks about a sweater or a necklace or something, and I thought it was nice. Since none of my previous Ts had ever gone near commenting on my appearance, I wondered whether it was weird or not.
> My wardrobe isn't anywhere near as exciting. My T is a woman and the best days are when I walk in and she is wearing an outfit similar to mine --same color combo, for example. My T is a great dresser and must spend a ton of money on clothes because I can barely remember seeing her in anything more than twice, and I've been seeing her forever!!
>
> I dress for how I feel and she picks up on it right away and comments.
>
> You guys have way more fun, but thanks for including me.
> antigua
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 10, 2004, at 13:12:02
In reply to Re: the couch.., posted by Pfinstegg on March 10, 2004, at 1:23:38
Oh my I can help you and at little cost to revamp that wardrobe. OK jackets you wear are indoor jackets I take it...ohh we can do this. You need a few camesoles they ARE hot this year and you can get them at lower cost by shopping at J C Penneys or Kolh's if you have them they also have tank tops out with thin straps...so for instance...for that strawberry Jacket get a pink camesole or tank top..they ride LOW o.k...and maybe buy some fake pearls/or necklace that go lower to draw his eyes down..remember he is looking from your head down..right? Now add a cheap short skirt...black is safe..and you have a new outfit...some pink, black,white ,tanks or camesoles will give it all a NEW look just do NOT button the jacket. Try on the couch to keep your Knees up...and together,,,make that your focus so you don't mess up :)
HAHAHAHA, I am sorry but I am loling thinking of his trip and that making love gig. I STILL cannot believe you told him that. My T I like to think is asexual with all but someday me :P hahaha as IF!!! Though I do know some of his sayyy sexual things he does and doesnt do:) Ever think she may be not so fun and they don't DO IT...or don't much? Now HE WOLFCOSTUME T :) may be gawking at the gals "areas" in New Orleans....and maybe seeking beads himself...Hey if you had the money you could be in the crowd doing your think right near him.,.he would HAVE to look and wants to anyhow and you would come back with a TON OF BEADS.. :p OMG, I just busted out loling think of you watching GIRLS GONE WILD and seeing T tossing beads...maybe you need a trip south? in more ways than one hehe
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 10, 2004, at 13:13:48
In reply to Re: the couch.. » Pfinstegg, posted by tinydancer on March 10, 2004, at 2:06:47
You know, if we were all smart we could all start a new line of cloths...called T WEAR ,,,and well :) make a fortune
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 10, 2004, at 13:16:57
In reply to Re: the couch.. » Fallen4myT, posted by tinydancer on March 10, 2004, at 2:12:18
LMAO I am now thinking of those low rider jeans :) You need a short top to show some exposed tummy...mmm yummy to T ya know what I mean ? :P Ha, youre like me blowing cash to vamp the T with. Make up?
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 10, 2004, at 13:21:34
In reply to Re: the couch.., posted by Pfinstegg on March 10, 2004, at 1:23:38
I also think your T goes away too much and you may tell him I told you so :) I was thinking..the eyes girl smokey sexy eyes...too bad he doesnt have your face in view. I like to lock my eyes into my T's and look into his soul :) I am very good with the make up. I was even offered a job once by the Chanel chick at Marshall Fields once. Man, if we all lived close by we could set our appointments for the same day and have huge T work shops the night before lol...and go all vamped. My eyes and legs btw are really good and whatever your assets are.....pump them up :)
Posted by tinydancer on March 10, 2004, at 13:25:26
In reply to Re: the couch.. » tinydancer, posted by Fallen4myT on March 10, 2004, at 13:16:57
> LMAO I am now thinking of those low rider jeans :) You need a short top to show some exposed tummy...mmm yummy to T ya know what I mean ? :P Ha, youre like me blowing cash to vamp the T with. Make up?
I only wear a little and do a beige smoky eye...I do like perfume tho...Current favorite is Escada Ibiza Hippie...nice!!
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 10, 2004, at 13:26:43
In reply to Re: the couch.. » antigua, posted by CareBear04 on March 10, 2004, at 12:41:03
I am not antigua, but I will answer you on me till she gets back in this thread. I dont know if they arent suppose to say or not but um my T HAS said I dress well and once he really loved a necklace I had on, white gold chain NICE one with a trillion cut Aquamarine pendant hanging from it not too big but NOT small..this means he was looking at my like kind os chest area :) I FEEL GOOD ..when he comments on my looks makes me feel like say that last 70 dollar top was well worth it :) Glad to see ya join us here CARE
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 10, 2004, at 14:05:18
In reply to Re: the couch.. » Fallen4myT, posted by tinydancer on March 10, 2004, at 13:25:26
Ahhh sounds good..add just a tad more make up lol..The scent I do not know..I am stunned I missed a frangrence? OMG LOL..I wear Leu D' Issey by Issey Mirayake maybe mispelled HECK LOL I am sure its mispelled and I have Burberry Brit and a few others ..I like scent but keep it to just a few at T's so maybe Ill stay on his mind :)
Posted by antigua on March 10, 2004, at 14:20:54
In reply to Re: the couch.. » antigua, posted by CareBear04 on March 10, 2004, at 12:41:03
I don't mind when she comments, but of course she never tells me if I look like h@@ll. She says she can tell my mood by just looking at me walk in the door. No secrets here.
Today was funny, though. I was getting dressed this morning thinking of you guys, laughing a little and enjoying your fun vicariously, and decided to wear black jeans and jacket. I couldn't decide between two red tops--one was bright red, which I don't usually wear unless I feel good, and a more reddish/burgandy. I debated and decided on the more muted color. Walked into my T's office and she said, "O.k., who dressed us this morning?" She was wearing the black outfit with the bright red top (not jeans, of course, tailored slacks). She noticed before I did today. I told her that I had almost worn that and she said she wore the more muted red yesterday. Talk about a connection.
I told her about this thread and she loved it.
Then she told me how much fun it is to work w/couples in counseling and to see what they wear. She says they can be sitting there fighting, and one will be wearing, for example, a green shirt and brown pants and the other will be dressed oppositely--brown shirt and green pants and they don't even notice. She says it happens all the time, she can tell a lot by what someone wears.So, see, they do notice our clothes--so ENJOY the flirtation, it's good for you.
antigua
Posted by Pfinstegg on March 10, 2004, at 14:33:14
In reply to Re: the couch.. » Pfinstegg, posted by Fallen4myT on March 10, 2004, at 13:12:02
God, Fallen, you're right - the jackets are very pretty, and fit well, but I AM very COVERED UP. Getting matching camisoles and UNBUTTONING is a great idea! That's more do-able for me than adding a garter-belt which peeks out, ( though it's a lot of fun to imagine!) as I'd have to EXPLAIN the garter belt. I know that he would consider it an "enactment"- one of those things you have to talk about, rather than just freely do. What I'm aiming for is to gradually appear sexier, but in a natural way, so that I don't HAVE to explain myself. I love the camisole idea! Thanks! It's wonderful to have a T. fashion consultant- that part of you just magically popped up yesterday- just when we needed you the most!
As to New Orleans, I'd love to be there dancing anonymously alongside him, and just being as sexy as I want- being ME, and leaving all the inhibitions behind. And you're right - I do need more trips *south*. I can't deny it. And of course, I always think that I'd be a much more wild and passionate partner than his WIFE - don't you?
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