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Posted by dove on March 22, 2005, at 9:23:47
Sweet agony pitches itself against my skin
paper-thin and crackling under the weight
of life lusterless lived inside out and within
and skidding against the inky sky of slate
exploding offspring with souls quite barren
heads twist and turn while bodies osculate
fear and rejection bent and staring
at the dulled face of love and missed fate.dove
Posted by Toph on March 22, 2005, at 9:51:30
In reply to sweet agony, posted by dove on March 22, 2005, at 9:23:47
It's a wonder why we take that risk at all.
Toph
Posted by sunny10 on March 23, 2005, at 12:46:17
In reply to Re: sweet agony, posted by Toph on March 22, 2005, at 9:51:30
Posted by Toph on March 23, 2005, at 16:43:50
In reply to Re: what's the alternative? (nm) » Toph, posted by sunny10 on March 23, 2005, at 12:46:17
For me, there never was an alternative, sunny. Like a moth to a light, I have always had to have a partner. Like all the injured moths below the hot bulb, being burned never stopped me from taking the risk of caring for someone else. Thank God I think I found a keeper. Flapping those damn wings all the time was tiring.
Posted by sunny10 on March 24, 2005, at 9:44:25
In reply to Re: what's the alternative? » sunny10, posted by Toph on March 23, 2005, at 16:43:50
sleep and never wake up.
I am too tired of fighting "for what I want", for "what I deserve"....
Why is it that the same people who tell me that I have to love yourself in order to be loved are the same people who put themselves above all others and are incapable of loving anyone but themselves? Incapable of compromise in the sake of "love".
What the devil IS love, anyway? Maybe we should tell Alex to drop the Great Happiness Machine idea and go straight to the Great Love Machine? That is one thing always strived for and never achieved...
Posted by Toph on March 24, 2005, at 10:09:27
In reply to Re: I'm so exhausted that I want to... » Toph, posted by sunny10 on March 24, 2005, at 9:44:25
Most of us are filled with love, I know that you are, and that is enough to sustain us. It's just especially nice when we have someone to share love with. And, of course, it is wonderful to feel loved. My Love Machine needs new batteries every now and then.
Posted by dove on March 25, 2005, at 11:18:52
In reply to Re: I'm so exhausted that I want to... » Toph, posted by sunny10 on March 24, 2005, at 9:44:25
I am too tired of fighting "for what I want", for "what I deserve"....
They tell us to care for ourselves--to love ourselves--respect ourselves and then turn around and punish us for even attempting to do exactly that. I agree with the above sentiments completely. I am in a stable relationship, nevertheless, I am so passive and complacent, just to avoid any genre of conflict, that I often make myself disgusted.
Someday, maybe I'll be strong enough to tolerate an hour of the silent treatment :-) Lots of love going out to ya'll!!!
dove
Posted by sunny10 on March 25, 2005, at 13:19:06
In reply to Re: I'm so exhausted that I want to..., posted by dove on March 25, 2005, at 11:18:52
it's a vicious cycle, isn't it? They want us to be a certain way "or they can't respect us", so we become less than ourselves and nobody can respect us for that...
My SO wants me to just be okay with the fact he uses cocaine, even though his own brother died of a brain anuerism and was also a long-term coke user... I'm supposed to ignore genetics and addictive behavior, which involves deceitful behavior and lying.
When I stop "nagging" (his word if I even mention his use), I shut up- then he's mad at me because I'm "not acting like myself"...
There is no way to win when drugs are involved. There are three parties in my relationship. My, my SO, and my SO on cocaine. And that's one too many to tango...
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