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Posted by antigua on November 17, 2005, at 12:12:54
I know it's foolish, I know it will get me nowhere and I will end up in a heap of trouble. But I still want to drink. It's the old coping mechansim kicking in, I guess. I thought I had better skills in place now, but this therapy sh&t is just too hard and it taps into the deepest most worthless parts.
antigua
Posted by ClearSkies on November 17, 2005, at 14:57:37
In reply to I want to drink, posted by antigua on November 17, 2005, at 12:12:54
Do you have someone to call and speak with? I don't know if you're "doing" meetings or not...
have you visited the Women For Sobriety website? Their support board is pretty good. Though I think the support here is even better (er, no preaching, if you know what I mean).
I'm here if you want to babblemail, too. I'm in a weird not-wanting-to-drink phase; I remember too many drunken Thanksgivings to want to repeat them. I'm triggered by all the advertising that suddenly appears this time of year. Liqueurs and electric razors, they come out of the closet now.
ClearSkies
Posted by ClearSkies on November 18, 2005, at 6:53:46
In reply to I want to drink, posted by antigua on November 17, 2005, at 12:12:54
Posted by antigua on November 18, 2005, at 12:58:51
In reply to Antigua - how are you doing? (nm), posted by ClearSkies on November 18, 2005, at 6:53:46
I'm o.k. I had cream of wheat instead. It's this pressure of my mother coming to visit next week for the holiday, and in therapy I'm just now realizing what kind of mother she was. It's amazing. I don't know if it's anger I can't let out or just plain amazement that she could have just abandoned me as she did. guess this thread will be moved.
but my feelings for my mother are always at the heart of my drinking. I've known this for years. I've never discussed the abuse w/her...
Thanks for asking. I took an antabuse and had cream of wheat. I'll make it through the holiday, I'm determined.
thanks for caring
antigua
Posted by AuntieMel on November 19, 2005, at 16:05:42
In reply to Re: Antigua - how are you doing?, posted by antigua on November 18, 2005, at 12:58:51
Abusive parents - an awful thing to deal with, I know from experience.
But - with therapy you have admitted to *yourself* that she was abusive. Congratulations! In that realization, you have gone a huge way towards taking that power away from her.
You can't change her, so you are left with changing how you react to her. No matter what she does, you can just remind yourself that it's her problem, not yours. That's power, real and tangiable power.
Posted by antigua on November 21, 2005, at 9:07:06
In reply to Re: Antigua - how are you doing? » antigua, posted by AuntieMel on November 19, 2005, at 16:05:42
No, I haven't accepted that my mother was abusive. She didn't protect me, but she did the best she could.
antigua
Posted by AuntieMel on November 23, 2005, at 11:44:16
In reply to Re: Antigua - how are you doing? » AuntieMel, posted by antigua on November 21, 2005, at 9:07:06
My mom did the best she could, too.
But, as much as I love her, sometimes I still get angry that she didn't/couldn't do more. It's a reasonable emotion, I think.
This is the end of the thread.
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