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Posted by just so sad on April 12, 2005, at 20:58:44
I am very happy - this is day 3 sober - and NO severe urges so far - luckily I'm very busy with work and haven't had alot of spare time during my worst 4-6 pm zone. Thanks for your continued support!!
Posted by partlycloudy on April 13, 2005, at 4:46:18
In reply to Day 3 for me!!, posted by just so sad on April 12, 2005, at 20:58:44
That is so great! I have my own danger zone coming up this evening - wish me luck and strength and distraction...
Posted by antigua on April 13, 2005, at 11:03:14
In reply to Day 3 for me!!, posted by just so sad on April 12, 2005, at 20:58:44
I am really glad for you! You've passed one of the hardest parts. Keep thinking good thoughts and if it helps, keep busy!
Best,
antigua
Posted by justyourlaugh on April 13, 2005, at 11:37:44
In reply to Re: Day 3 for me!! » just so sad, posted by antigua on April 13, 2005, at 11:03:14
just...
i am really proud of you..
i blew my 3 day..
will keep trying until i get it right..
j
Posted by AuntieMel on April 13, 2005, at 12:21:52
In reply to Re: Day 3 for me!!, posted by justyourlaugh on April 13, 2005, at 11:37:44
Remember = the true winners are those that don't quit trying.
Making the first step of deciding to quit has already made you a winner. Good luck and keep hanging in there.
It might help to look back on day 3 and try to figure out what was going on at the time that you "blew it" (your words) and maybe you can come up with a strategy for the next time.
One thing that helps me stay sober is to think it all the way through. It's easy to think of, and be lured by, the good effects of the drink, but if I force myself to follow it through to not being able to put it down till I pass out and the horrible feeling the next day - well then I can handle it. I play graphic pictures in my brain of stumbling, throwing up - the whole thing.
Posted by AuntieMel on April 13, 2005, at 12:25:20
In reply to Day 3 for me!!, posted by just so sad on April 12, 2005, at 20:58:44
Good job. The beginning is the hardest. Keep hanging in there and it will get much easier.
Remember - it's not always 'one day at a time.' Some times it's 'five minutes at a time.' I know you can do it.
Posted by AuntieMel on April 13, 2005, at 12:27:01
In reply to Whoo-hoo! » just so sad, posted by partlycloudy on April 13, 2005, at 4:46:18
I'm wishing you all of those and more. You've come this far - I know you can do it.
Think of the choo choo.
Posted by partlycloudy on April 13, 2005, at 13:38:08
In reply to Re: Whoo-hoo! » partlycloudy, posted by AuntieMel on April 13, 2005, at 12:27:01
Posted by just so sad on April 13, 2005, at 20:56:19
In reply to Re: Yippee! » just so sad, posted by AuntieMel on April 13, 2005, at 12:25:20
I am doing so well...but I am already worrying about the weekend. I'm not sure I have committed to NEVER drinking again, just not drinking ALONE (and hopefully through the week). But I feel so proud of what I have accomplished - this is an 18 month record for me. And I already feel sure tomorrow won't be a problem...but Friday...Saturday....ooohhh - how do you watch a movie without a glass (bottle) of wine and a bowl of popcorn?? Giggle with girlfriends over a glass of ?? water?? Wish me strength!
Posted by justyourlaugh on April 13, 2005, at 22:16:22
In reply to Day 4, posted by just so sad on April 13, 2005, at 20:56:19
worry about "never again"..
its "not this minute"..
keep going strong..
how about not watching a movie this friday..maybe play cards with tiny cucumber sanwiches and lemon tea..
its okay to laugh..
j
Posted by partlycloudy on April 14, 2005, at 4:42:21
In reply to dont.. » just so sad, posted by justyourlaugh on April 13, 2005, at 22:16:22
I will only come over for the movie if you cut the crusts off the sandwiches!
Posted by partlycloudy on April 14, 2005, at 7:15:00
In reply to Day 4, posted by just so sad on April 13, 2005, at 20:56:19
They are filled with what seems to be dangerous times, don't they? Sometimes I can fly through them with no anxiety - and no drinking - and at other times it's just not so easy.
For me the most difficult part is not to anticipate what's ahead - I try to plan "alone time" activities - pampering stuff like facials and pedicures - or digging into a book I've been meaning to read but haven't made the time for. Making the solitary time a special time just for me seems to help a great deal. I don't have lots (read = any) friends IRL so I don't have to think about the social aspect of talking and relaxing without a drink in my hand, but it takes a while to break our old habits and learn new and healthy ones.
I will be home for most of the weekend. Please don't hesitate to babblemail me or post or whatever you need, whatever the time. I'll be looking out for you, too.
hugs,
pc
Posted by AuntieMel on April 14, 2005, at 10:05:11
In reply to dont.. » just so sad, posted by justyourlaugh on April 13, 2005, at 22:16:22
cucumber sandwiches?
It is a good thing it is ok to laugh, if that is on the menu.
Unless you don't find f*rting funny.
Posted by AuntieMel on April 14, 2005, at 10:13:56
In reply to Day 4, posted by just so sad on April 13, 2005, at 20:56:19
You can giggle over water, but you could make it bubbly water with lime if you want something better.
It helps if you think of it as establishing new traditions instead of giving up old ones. Do something festive.
Enlist your girlfriends as support. Ask them to join in and help establish the new traditions.
There is life after wine.
Posted by just so sad on April 14, 2005, at 10:38:23
In reply to dont.. » just so sad, posted by justyourlaugh on April 13, 2005, at 22:16:22
Being from England originally, the idea of cucumber sandwiches is brilliant! And of course, PC is PC (ha) about trimming the crusts...And tea is the polar opposite of wine for me - another great recommendation. I know the difference this time is my pledge with my son (19). He is the reason I quit smoking too. At 6, he asked if smoking was going to make me dead. When I couldn't lie to him, he said he didn't want me to be dead, so I promised him I'd stop, and I did. Again, my habit of finding others worth the effort, as opposed to just doing better for myself. I will have to keep working on that! Thanks again for your support!!
Posted by partlycloudy on April 14, 2005, at 11:45:33
In reply to To everyone..., posted by just so sad on April 14, 2005, at 10:38:23
One of the best expressions ever used :-)
My dad was English, and I lived over there for 7 years, so I too have an appreciation for these fine things in life, such as cucumber sarnies.
Posted by just so sad on April 14, 2005, at 19:47:31
In reply to Brilliant! » just so sad, posted by partlycloudy on April 14, 2005, at 11:45:33
Posted by partlycloudy on April 15, 2005, at 15:24:05
In reply to Day 5 and doing fine...thanks!! (nm), posted by just so sad on April 14, 2005, at 19:47:31
And don't forget that I'm here if you need some propping up.
pc
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