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Posted by alesta on December 21, 2004, at 18:55:31
hi,
i currently live with a crack addict (my ex). his crack dealer comes right to our door sometimes. i tend to not answer the door, as it's usually only drug dealers who come here. is there something i can do to get this dealer behind bars without getting my ex in trouble? i can't stand to watch this jerk take every penny my ex has. there have been periods where i've been more involved, e.g. i've told dealers i'd call the cops if they came back, etc. should i do that? my ex would kill me if i did. i was just wondering of anyone here had any ideas to help. i know it's his problem and he has to want help and to take care of myself, but if i can do something to help, i'd like to. although i am prepared to possibly hear that there's nothing i can do. thanks.:)amy
Posted by jujube on December 21, 2004, at 19:33:37
In reply to dealing with the crack dealer, posted by alesta on December 21, 2004, at 18:55:31
It's been awhile since I visited this board. I saw your post, and wanted to reply, even though I have no experience with drug dealers. I just wanted to suggest that you be careful taking matters into your own hands (such as telling the dealers that you will call the cops). I don't think a drug dealer would run away with his tail between his legs after such a threat, and you could be putting yourself in danger. That is not to say that you shouldn't alert the police and work with them to put the dealers behind bars, if that is what you decide to do - just don't tell the dealers that you will be doing it. I don't know the circumstances that require you to live with your ex, but are there alternate living arrangements you could make to get away from that scene? If you decide to go to the police, it is not unlikely that your ex could be in trouble as well.
Whatever you decide to do, please make sure that you protect yourself and don't put yourself in harms way.
Take care.
Tamara
> hi,
> i currently live with a crack addict (my ex). his crack dealer comes right to our door sometimes. i tend to not answer the door, as it's usually only drug dealers who come here. is there something i can do to get this dealer behind bars without getting my ex in trouble? i can't stand to watch this jerk take every penny my ex has. there have been periods where i've been more involved, e.g. i've told dealers i'd call the cops if they came back, etc. should i do that? my ex would kill me if i did. i was just wondering of anyone here had any ideas to help. i know it's his problem and he has to want help and to take care of myself, but if i can do something to help, i'd like to. although i am prepared to possibly hear that there's nothing i can do. thanks.:)
>
> amy
Posted by alesta on December 21, 2004, at 20:23:23
In reply to Re: dealing with the crack dealer » alesta, posted by jujube on December 21, 2004, at 19:33:37
hi jujube,
yes, lol, it wasn't too smart telling the dealer off like that. it was a moment of frustration. i've tried covert means, too, (e.g. trying to get the license plate number, etc.) but with no success. (i would never do anything that would get my ex thrown in jail.) i think i'll just continue to stay out of it, unless there's some amazing idea out there someone can come up with..i doubt there is, though. i'll continue to try and get their license plate number. i already gave the cops a dealer cell phone number anonymously, but they couldn't do anything with that. anyway, thanks you for your feedback.take care,
amy:)
Posted by zmg on January 2, 2005, at 22:20:29
In reply to Re: dealing with the crack dealer » jujube, posted by alesta on December 21, 2004, at 20:23:23
If you ex has a serious habit, its likely he would get pretty angry knowing you worked to put his dealer in jail. If your supporting him because he has no where to go your needlessly endangering yourself. I've seen friends smoke crack and there is no where on earth I'd have liked to be less.
Posted by alesta on January 16, 2005, at 15:46:06
In reply to Re: dealing with the crack dealer, posted by zmg on January 2, 2005, at 22:20:29
> If you ex has a serious habit, its likely he would get pretty angry knowing you worked to put his dealer in jail. If your supporting him because he has no where to go your needlessly endangering yourself. I've seen friends smoke crack and there is no where on earth I'd have liked to be less.
hi there:)
thanks for your response.:-) oh, i forgot to say that i actually notified my ex before i made my anonymous calls to the cops, as i wanted to make sure that he wouldn't end up getting caught along with the dealer. (he kinda still wanted help back then, so he let me make the calls and didn't get mad.) but, yes, it would definitely piss him off a lot if i did that now, as he is much more addicted. (i thought of this, too, after i posted this.) yeah, extreme crack users are extremely mean..he is the meanest person i've ever known. he has been even more and more mentally abusive lately. i've finally ceased to care about him (it takes a lot for that to happen). i can't believe his capacity for cruelty. he says the things he thinks will hurt me THE most, over and over. as soon as i'm financially able, i'm leaving. thanks again, and thanks for listening to me vent.:) i have to tell someone once in a blue moon..
take care,
amy
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