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Posted by Shadowplayers721 on August 28, 2004, at 1:27:19
I have a family member that is sliding down. In the past he was tx for alcohol, mj, crack, and cigarette abuse. I saw him get clean and raging through the process. Now, years later, I feel he is sliding down again. I don't know how to help him. He seems to keep working around places that are very dangerous and potential for anything and everything available. He was hit in the head recently that could have been fatal. I am worried for his life. He doesn't care about anything. He says he fears nothing and trusts God. He says he is ready for death anytime, but I am not ready to bury him I told him. I also told him this would affect his children greatly. What can I do to help him without being codependent?
Posted by beatrix34 on August 30, 2004, at 21:17:11
In reply to How can I help a family member, posted by Shadowplayers721 on August 28, 2004, at 1:27:19
I don't know what to tell you...my heart goes out to you. I know from my own addiction that I was the only one who could help me. Have you tried Al-Anon? It sounds like you really need to have some support as well. Unfortunately other than telling the person what you see and trying not to be an enabler, there is nothing you can do, Especially since this person has been in recovery before. Do you know if he/she had anyone that they were close to while in recovery? Maybe that would be a way to get to your loved one? I wish you all the best and am keeping good thoughts for your situation.
Bea
Posted by Shadowplayers721 on August 31, 2004, at 0:48:21
In reply to Re: How can I help a family member, posted by beatrix34 on August 30, 2004, at 21:17:11
No, I sure don't know who has been their sponsor in the past. I am trying to get them to see a doc and they don't think they are depressed. I, the sibling, have been in tx for depression for years now. Only about 2 years ago, I decided medication tx. It has helped calm the rage. I can't imagine what the other sibling deals with addiction + depression. He is actually more functional on the outside than I. But, I still hear a lot of depression in nearly all of his stmts. He dosen't agree. He got hit in the head with a fx to the side of face and head recently. The date of the injury keeps changing. He keeps saying he doesn't care about the damages from the injury. Well, I sure do. He was hit so hard that it made him turn his leg and he walks with a limp now too. I am trying to get him to see some one really bad. It's like you stated, he has to agree to it.
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