![[dr. bob]](/dr-bob-sm.gif)
Dr. Bob is Robert Hsiung, MD,
bob@dr-bob.orgShown: posts 1 to 4 of 4. This is the beginning of the thread.
Posted by Navneeta on November 12, 2003, at 4:35:37
Hi there! This is my first post and i dont know how exactly this works. but i hope to benefit from this.
In India, its a common tradition to live in joint families. the daughter-in-law gets married and stays with the inlaws.But,lately,people are moving out and live seperately.and nowadays nobody stays in a joint family. Except me and my husband who live with his parents.and my husband is into the family business.and his parents are so dominating, that they dont like it if i go to work with my husband, or go out for dinners or outings. they wants me to stay at home and cook.And its kinda very difficult to approach my inlaws with any problems.especially my mom in law. who is quite rude and sarcastic all the time.She i s very unpredictable.She keeps taunting and passing rude remarks.BUt, i dont retaliate.my inlaws think that, since my husband is looking after the family business, they can dominate him and his privacy.They dont let him own a property without their consent and even if he does,they throw tantrums and get angry.
They dont even let us move out to our own place and they start emotionally blackmailing about their ill health.I dont know what to do and how to cope with all this tension.Due to these tensions, iam not able to concieve either, even though iam married for 8 years.I have lost 12kilos within 30 days of my marriage and i still havent put on any even after 8 years. Iam really stressed out.sometimes i feel,iam trapped here and wasting my life.Love, navneeta
Posted by pixygoth on November 12, 2003, at 13:47:59
In reply to how to free myself from dominating inlaws, posted by Navneeta on November 12, 2003, at 4:35:37
Hi there, welcome to the board. First , a warning, this bit of it is for "substance" problems, so you're going to get redirected.
Secondly, I really feel for you. I hope your husband can realise what's happening to *you* in this situation.
Good luck,
S
Posted by MOTHERNEEDHELP on November 12, 2003, at 23:28:49
In reply to Re: how to free myself from dominating inlaws » Navneeta, posted by pixygoth on November 12, 2003, at 13:47:59
hi, i think that what you are going threw is just awful.and i myself live w/ my husband and three kids and thats it in my house, but i go crazy when his mother is just hear a few days so, i could not see living with her. but, i also understand how you feel when you say you are wasting your life b/c my husband has been hooked on loratab for 3 yrs now and when he cant get them he flips out. he is not even the man i married anymore, and i think its so unfair.but what can i do? i cant make my heart stop loving him.
Posted by Dr. Bob on November 16, 2003, at 6:43:45
In reply to Re: how to free myself from dominating inlaws » Navneeta, posted by pixygoth on November 12, 2003, at 13:47:59
> Hi there, welcome to the board. First , a warning, this bit of it is for "substance" problems, so you're going to get redirected.
That's right, I'd like to redirect this thread to Psycho-Social-Babble. Here's a link:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/social/20031113/msgs/280219.html
Thanks,
Bob
This is the end of the thread.
Psycho-Babble Substance Use | Extras | FAQ
Dr. Bob is Robert Hsiung, MD,
bob@dr-bob.org
Script revised: February 4, 2008
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/cgi-bin/pb/mget.pl
Copyright 2006-17 Robert Hsiung.
Owned and operated by Dr. Bob LLC and not the University of Chicago.