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Posted by ClearSkies on June 24, 2015, at 0:40:34
I will probably have had surgery for cancer before my divorce gets to court. I honestly don't give a toss; it's always been about him and his desires.
I don't want to die before it's over.
Posted by SLS on June 24, 2015, at 8:16:26
In reply to Don't really care at this point., posted by ClearSkies on June 24, 2015, at 0:40:34
> I will probably have had surgery for cancer before my divorce gets to court. I honestly don't give a toss; it's always been about him and his desires.
> I don't want to die before it's over.Do it.
(My layman opinion only).
Please do not compromise your health. Please do not forfeit your life. Speaking only for myself, I want to see you here for many, many more years.
- Scott
Posted by ClearSkies on June 24, 2015, at 13:42:58
In reply to Re: Don't really care at this point. » ClearSkies, posted by SLS on June 24, 2015, at 8:16:26
The timing is terrible. Surgery will likely coincide with the court date. I'm angry, but I don't know what or who at.
Oh, and my therapist hasn't called me back.
Damn.
Posted by SLS on June 24, 2015, at 14:01:26
In reply to Re: Don't really care at this point. » SLS, posted by ClearSkies on June 24, 2015, at 13:42:58
> The timing is terrible. Surgery will likely coincide with the court date.
What about having your lawyer petition the magistrate to move the court date? You certainly have a valid reason.
> I'm angry, but I don't know what or who at.
I understand that for sure.
> Oh, and my therapist hasn't called me back.
> Damn.Are you looking to make an appointment?
- Scott
Posted by ClearSkies on June 24, 2015, at 21:30:59
In reply to Re: Don't really care at this point., posted by SLS on June 24, 2015, at 14:01:26
> > The timing is terrible. Surgery will likely coincide with the court date.
>
> What about having your lawyer petition the magistrate to move the court date? You certainly have a valid reason.
>I emailed her and advised her of the situation. Don't know what will happen yet.
> > I'm angry, but I don't know what or who at.
>
> I understand that for sure.
>
> > Oh, and my therapist hasn't called me back.
> > Damn.
>
> Are you looking to make an appointment?
>
>
> - ScottShe quickly redeemed herself earlier and brought me in for an emergency session so I could contain my anxiety (great visualization) and taught me how to breathe, AGAIN.
I'll be OK, no matter what.
Thanks, Scott.
Posted by alexandra_k on June 25, 2015, at 22:05:34
In reply to Don't really care at this point., posted by ClearSkies on June 24, 2015, at 0:40:34
you have cancer? i didn't know.
Posted by ClearSkies on June 26, 2015, at 1:20:30
In reply to Re: Don't really care at this point., posted by alexandra_k on June 25, 2015, at 22:05:34
> you have cancer? i didn't know.
Yeah, I just found out. Getting a biopsy to confirm, then a radical hysterectomy. The divorce may have to wait a tic.
Posted by SLS on June 26, 2015, at 1:42:36
In reply to Re: Don't really care at this point., posted by ClearSkies on June 26, 2015, at 1:20:30
> > you have cancer? i didn't know.
> Yeah, I just found out. Getting a biopsy to confirm, then a radical hysterectomy. The divorce may have to wait a tic.Despite all of this, I'm glad things have not become partly cloudy. Stay positive. Cancer hates positive people. (There are medical studies demonstrating this).
- Scott
Posted by ClearSkies on June 27, 2015, at 17:32:56
In reply to Re: Don't really care at this point. » ClearSkies, posted by SLS on June 26, 2015, at 1:42:36
Very true! I've successfully placed any worry in a desert, dried it to dust, and put it in a locked box. Now I don't have to do anything about it.
CS
Posted by Phillipa on June 28, 2015, at 9:54:59
In reply to Re: Don't really care at this point. » SLS, posted by ClearSkies on June 27, 2015, at 17:32:56
I haven't been to social in quite some time. I had no idea. I don't know what to say Phillipa
Posted by Poet on June 29, 2015, at 15:04:40
In reply to Re: Don't really care at this point. » SLS, posted by ClearSkies on June 27, 2015, at 17:32:56
> Very true! I've successfully placed any worry in a desert, dried it to dust, and put it in a locked box. Now I don't have to do anything about it.
> CSHi CS,
Very smart move. Don't let your soon to be Ex make you weak- stay strong.
An extra hard cyber slap to your almost Ex's head even though he has nothing to do with your cancer, he just deserves one.
Poet
Posted by Phil on June 29, 2015, at 19:01:42
In reply to Re: Don't really care at this point. » SLS, posted by ClearSkies on June 27, 2015, at 17:32:56
I'm concerned for you with two huge stressors at once. Concerned but not worried. You're pretty tough and that dark sense of humor serves you well. My mantra in difficult times is, oh well, f*ck it. It has always worked for me. It's not perfect but it's close.
Posted by ClearSkies on June 29, 2015, at 21:14:13
In reply to Re: Don't really care at this point., posted by Poet on June 29, 2015, at 15:04:40
> > Very true! I've successfully placed any worry in a desert, dried it to dust, and put it in a locked box. Now I don't have to do anything about it.
> > CS
>
> Hi CS,
>
> Very smart move. Don't let your soon to be Ex make you weak- stay strong.
>
> An extra hard cyber slap to your almost Ex's head even though he has nothing to do with your cancer, he just deserves one.
>
> Poet
>I will take that cyber slap since he has drawn this out almost a year. I can't figure that out because he has been paying alimony, and for my health and car insurance the entire time.
Posted by ClearSkies on June 29, 2015, at 21:16:18
In reply to Re: Don't really care at this point. » ClearSkies, posted by Phil on June 29, 2015, at 19:01:42
> I'm concerned for you with two huge stressors at once. Concerned but not worried. You're pretty tough and that dark sense of humor serves you well. My mantra in difficult times is, oh well, f*ck it. It has always worked for me. It's not perfect but it's close.
And I guess my mantra would be, "what are you going to do about it?" If the answer is Nothing, then I try not waste energy on this?
Sometimes it even works.
Posted by alexandra_k on July 4, 2015, at 6:09:08
In reply to Re: Don't really care at this point., posted by ClearSkies on June 26, 2015, at 1:20:30
Wow. They caught it early and stuff? I mean, your prognosis is good?
Posted by ClearSkies on July 7, 2015, at 11:32:14
In reply to Re: Don't really care at this point., posted by alexandra_k on July 4, 2015, at 6:09:08
> Wow. They caught it early and stuff? I mean, your prognosis is good?
Won't know until surgery. Hopefully this is just a precancerous condition, and taking out all the working (or no longer needed) parts does the trick. Still scared as sh*t.
Will keep my friends advised.
CS
Posted by ClearSkies on July 8, 2015, at 13:16:37
In reply to Re: Don't really care at this point., posted by ClearSkies on July 7, 2015, at 11:32:14
Unable to perform the biopsy, argh. My body was not cooperative. Rescheduled for another facility where I will be sedated for the procedure.
But, some quasi good news, my court date is being continued so as I am not stuck in a post-op recovery position and unable to fly across country for the proceedings.
Life sure is interesting, goddamnit.
Posted by Phil on July 8, 2015, at 17:16:28
In reply to Now I am annoyed, posted by ClearSkies on July 8, 2015, at 13:16:37
Damn straight!
Posted by Poet on July 9, 2015, at 11:32:44
In reply to Now I am annoyed, posted by ClearSkies on July 8, 2015, at 13:16:37
Yup, life is interesting. Good luck in Court and rescheduling the procedure. I just had my first colonoscopy- what fun it was (cough). I managed to gain weight after the colon cleanse. Seriously I weighed myself the day of the procedure and I was up two pounds.
Poet
Posted by ClearSkies on July 9, 2015, at 15:18:42
In reply to Re: Now I am annoyed, posted by Poet on July 9, 2015, at 11:32:44
> Yup, life is interesting. Good luck in Court and rescheduling the procedure. I just had my first colonoscopy- what fun it was (cough). I managed to gain weight after the colon cleanse. Seriously I weighed myself the day of the procedure and I was up two pounds.
>
> PoetYes, that was QUITE the adventure. My doctor's name for that procedure was Glamour. Poor schmuck.
The lawyer is going ahead with a request for continuation. I feel exhausted, and in a lot of pain. Enough, already. And I may be depressed. Perhaps. Yeah, well, definitely.
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