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Posted by alexandra_k on May 28, 2014, at 0:17:24
some things i'm grateful for...
- i have a pretty green and white and blue and white and grey and white calculator. it... i don't know why... but it is tapping some childhood memory... something about an almost toy early educational computer... in the same green and white, fairly sure. toshiba something something... anyway. i like it. and i am grateful.
- i have a reliably quiet room. for when the world is too much. with a view. which is... just what i need.
- i have learned heaps this semester. far more than i ever needed to know about aspects of chemistry ha. looking at how very much i have to review over for the exam and... heaps of it. yeah. heaps.
- i'm back to enjoying the lectures. which is just as well since most of the biochem is organic and we're onto acids and bases...
- the weather is mostly sunny. it never really gets cold here. only... it did last night. which made it possible for me to haul out the extra duvet... weighted blanket... yeah. i need for it to be a little cooler...
- i'm reading oryx and crake. liking it very much. snuggled up under a weighted blanket. in the quiet.
i think it is important to be in touch with gratitude. yeah.
Posted by gadchik on May 30, 2014, at 16:20:28
In reply to gratitude, posted by alexandra_k on May 28, 2014, at 0:17:24
How nice to read about gratitude! I do think of things that Im grateful for and that helps me a lot.
lapdog
purring cat
kneading cat
cat
dark chocolate
hot coffee
green tea
sunshine thru tree leaves
a good movie
a great book
a fuzzy blanket
: )
Posted by alexandra_k on May 31, 2014, at 0:57:56
In reply to Re: gratitude » alexandra_k, posted by gadchik on May 30, 2014, at 16:20:28
ah, that's a nice list. i am grateful for some of those, too. coffee... and trees... it has been a long time since i've enjoyed green tea (enjoy it out but not when i make it at home, for some reason)... or a pet... but i have good memories of those, too.
i am grateful for macaroni cheese, which is my main comfort food at the moment. and chicken soup... or beef stew... for potatoes with cheese...
for filtered water with lemon.
for sensodyne toothpaste... maybe i should get to the dentist... or maybe i'm okay now...
for websites that make adult learning... a whole heap easier than it would be otherwise.
i am grateful for a reliable internet connection :)
and for babble. that babble is still here.
Posted by gadchik on May 31, 2014, at 11:47:29
In reply to Re: gratitude » gadchik, posted by alexandra_k on May 31, 2014, at 0:57:56
R u allowed to have a cat where u live? They are absolutely the best little companions! I know sometimes pet ownership can seem overwhelming, but Ive gotten so much joy from mine, that I don't worry over it. : )
Posted by alexandra_k on June 1, 2014, at 16:22:37
In reply to Re: gratitude » alexandra_k, posted by gadchik on May 31, 2014, at 11:47:29
only allowed fish. and i'm just not that into fish.
i have been thinking about getting a plant.
only trouble is that i don't know much about them. i think i'd need to get myself out into the suburbs to visit a proper garden center... and then it would probably need repotting and i'd need to get stuff for that. and figure how / where to do that so i don't stink up my room with the smell of fresh soil...
so i haven't been bothered yet.
i have been thinking about getting a poster... or two. art ones. something... to make my place feel a little more like my place. i've hunted a little online... they start getting pretty expensive. and / or smaller reproductions than the original and it would be better to have something a lot bigger over that wall...
if you are fairly naturally a home body then being home for pets isn't a chore. i... i'm good by myself, actually. i could do with a few more friends... for more casual social contact... but i'm also aware at how maintaining those friendships costs money (eating out, meeting at cafes or whatever) which makes things hard for me... and then i don't really have anything appropriate to wear... that becomes an issue, again. i can afford to get by if i spend my money on food... the odd thing... like a calculator or a nice retractable pencil... but i'm still rocking the hobo look (which i think i can pull off okay as a science undergrad ahahahahaha) but not really... doing much of anything else. i suppose it is just a symptom of my bigger problem of... not understanding the... reciprocity of social relationships. not understanding the pay-off structure somehow. my pay-off structure being different. my being more focused on short rather than longer term. i don't know.
i miss the drugs. not so much for the high... but for the reward that came from socialisation. the motivation for that... to get up off my *ss and go hang out with people. to walk for hours to get to them, even. to have... adventures with them. good memories. bad memories. to just... hang out doing nothing in particular. to enjoy nature walk. drugs... made that possible for me. friendships, i mean.
:(
i don't know what to do, now.
Posted by baseball55 on June 1, 2014, at 19:54:29
In reply to Re: gratitude » gadchik, posted by alexandra_k on June 1, 2014, at 16:22:37
I didn't know that you had used drugs, Alex. What drugs did you use? I ask, because there are ways of replicating the feeling of the drug without using. Depending on the drug used.
There are things you can do with others that don't cost much. Going for walks, going to museums. I like doing these because you can talk without having to be looking at one another constantly and a lot of the talk can be - look at that, kind of comments.
I try to remember gratitude also. If I remember (and I don't most of the time), I make gratitude lists. This helps a lot when I get really down and out.
Posted by Partlycloudy on June 5, 2014, at 17:47:48
In reply to gratitude, posted by alexandra_k on May 28, 2014, at 0:17:24
I love that book. She is one of my favourite authors.
Posted by alexandra_k on June 6, 2014, at 2:12:27
In reply to Re: gratitude » alexandra_k, posted by baseball55 on June 1, 2014, at 19:54:29
i think it wasn't so much about the drug.. more about the social thing. it gave us a reason. a reason to get out of bed at 4am (mushies are out! gotta beat all the other bastards!) and so on... the things we would do... drive half the length of the island... walk for half a day... i have memories and experiences of... people. happy people. or tired people. or whatever. good times of hanging out with these people... of antics we got up to... and... without drugs as the organizing principle... when it comes to socializing... i just ... don't.even cigarettes... when i was a smoker... i'd be outside having a smoke around every hour. as soon as i got up in the morning i'd make a pot of coffee and go outside and have several cigarettes and cups of coffee and read or talk to my dear dear dear dearest friend. here... i don't smoke. i.. haven't made friends with anyone in the building, really. but you can bet that if i was smoking like i was... wouldn't be more than 3 weeks and i'd have found my smoking bud... someone to hang with me for 30 minutes or so in the morning... just like that. drugs... the ... organiser. organising principle.
even now... the pub.
sigh.
Posted by alexandra_k on June 6, 2014, at 2:59:14
In reply to Re: gratitude, posted by Partlycloudy on June 5, 2014, at 17:47:48
yes. i remembered. then encountered a mention when i was researching some autism stuff... i enjoyed it a lot.
but now i'm thinking that the cat at the top of the page ... is dead. got shot by crake. it's cartoony so not disturbing... but i think the cat went up just as i finished the book and i was like, yeah, that's a pic from the end of the world... the novel...
i got the edible woman too... i've read a little of it.
first encountered her with handmaids tale at uni - which i really loved. then read... one about a murderess... i thought it was f*ck*ng amazing. would like to read that again...
but i've got chemistry to be studying
and i've got a book on scientific explanation which i need to read...
and i'm not particularly good at multi-tasking...also finishing "cat's cradle"
Posted by Partlycloudy on June 6, 2014, at 5:35:33
In reply to Re: gratitude, posted by alexandra_k on June 6, 2014, at 2:59:14
I think the murderess one was "Alias Grace", though I see now there are others. It's really good. My brother knows her pretty well from readings and book signings she does where he lives. Lucky guy.
Posted by baseball55 on June 6, 2014, at 21:18:15
In reply to Re: gratitude, posted by Partlycloudy on June 6, 2014, at 5:35:33
You're talking about Margaret Atwood? I read her stuff years ago, really very, very long years ago and loved her. I 'd love to reread her. Remember Handmaid's Tale. Don't much remember other books.
Posted by Partlycloudy on June 7, 2014, at 8:29:46
In reply to Re: gratitude, posted by baseball55 on June 6, 2014, at 21:18:15
Yes! I love "Wilderness Tips" too.
She's very genre-bending.
Posted by alexandra_k on June 9, 2014, at 23:35:49
In reply to Re: gratitude » baseball55, posted by Partlycloudy on June 7, 2014, at 8:29:46
yes, alias grace. enjoyed it a lot.
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