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Posted by alexandra_k on December 30, 2013, at 16:19:55
overkill?
i can get finance which makes it manageable over the next 2 years (and work and income are surprisingly good about helping people pay off relatively low cost HP's). so... it will do me for the next 2 years...
yes?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KVakxSWV8iU
i don't think i can get finance for an i-phone...
Posted by Poet on December 30, 2013, at 17:29:43
In reply to samsung galaxy g4 mini, posted by alexandra_k on December 30, 2013, at 16:19:55
I just got a Samsung Galaxy S4 mini and I like it. I'm new to texting and being able to go online (I had an ancient flip phone until two weeks ago). If the g4 is like the s4 it should work very well.
Poet
Posted by alexandra_k on December 30, 2013, at 18:01:36
In reply to Re: samsung galaxy g4 mini, posted by Poet on December 30, 2013, at 17:29:43
oops, i meant s4 mini lol. I've figured out how to do this without paying it off... So now i-phone options, too...
i think i want to:
- use the calender properly. as part of daily / weekly / monthly / yearly time management.
I've realized that our university email account is managed by Google -- so that sort of indicates that it would be a good idea to use Google calender for work stuff... So that moves me away from Mac software...
Maybe it is time... For me to have some kind of trust in the world or something... And set up Google properly with my contacts...
I'm used to thinking of phone charges as really expensive... But I'm out of touch... I need to stop making excuses... This phone thing has become a... Sticking point for me in a bad way. It is making social contact (and keeping in casual touch) so very much harder than it is needing to be... I need to make more of an effort.
A huge part of the battle is getting a device that I like (that won't get 'accidentally' forgotten or maimed)... That I can set in ways that aren't overwhelming for me. Like how... My current device has SFA ring tone etc options and all of them are either too quiet or too invasive... If I get a device that I actually like...
Anyway...
Anything to share that you like about it?
Posted by alexandra_k on December 31, 2013, at 1:18:15
In reply to Re: *s4, posted by alexandra_k on December 30, 2013, at 18:01:36
so... part of the issue is that i'm (you guys equivalent of) 'off carrier' when it comes to purchasing a new phone. because i go with prepay because i can't really commit to a contract... only i've realised that i can afford to commit to an (extremely basic) monthly contact... but that doesn't give me any privileges at all when it comes to purchasing a new phone...
but i found an online discounted phone retailer with unlocked phones heh heh. so now siri becomes an option... hello siri. in exchange for my fingerprint and motion data... hur... apparently a fist bump is an option (it will register knuckles).
what did you do with the colour options mac? see... this is why i'm going off you... the whole 'gold' / 'champaign' thing... overcompensating for... what used to be the black premium price... heh. well.. one needs to make a buck, i suppose... black discount this time... think of it that way.
so... motion data.
i can dig that.
Posted by alexandra_k on December 31, 2013, at 1:27:37
In reply to Re: i-phone s, posted by alexandra_k on December 31, 2013, at 1:18:15
so... i still have a black macbook. which i loved very very very very very much. until the operating system was no longer supported. i tried to get disks off my mates who brought new macs and they gave me puzzled looks... and then i brought a new mac and learned: no disks, baby. hur.
the not so graceful degradation of my black macbook (which i paid $200 premium for the colour) for ... upset me a lot. all of a sudden this and that software was no longer supported... which upset me a little. then all of a sudden this and that software no longer worked.
i tunes died.
facebook games (bubble witch saga) died - i think something to do with adobe...
stuff died. that was the point. and... i lost faith in computers. so... to be fair... it died in... well... over a long time. the longest time i'd ever had a computer. and... i didn't appreciate that my computer was old and sh*tty until it died. whereas with non-mac computers they always felt like a pile of sh*t for a long time before they died. at half the time... but... still...
i don't know what would have happened if i had have actually forked out for a lion upgrade for it. maybe it would still be good...
anyway... my mother is currently using dial up. on a ... well... a very f*ck*ng old computer of mine. i will give her my old black mac (her first mac). but... i don't have lion disks to upgrade.
ur...
linux?
email.
i think that is about it, really. for her. basic web functionality (obviously limited by dial up). she is using... f*ck... i can't even remember... a computer i used like... 12 or 13 or 15 years ago.
it still works.
wow.
Posted by alexandra_k on December 31, 2013, at 1:31:36
In reply to Re: i-phone s, posted by alexandra_k on December 31, 2013, at 1:27:37
ah... so i have the install disks for it. so... i guess this is my opportunity to expiriment with linux.
burn linux to disk and try and install that. if it doesn't work i've got the mac backup disks.
i figure linux... will probably be more functional than unsupported max software. and, of course, less likely to date.
and... it is my opportunity to experiment with linux, i guess... i did a partition once... because someone was making olympic weightlifting bar trajectory analysis software for linux, hur...
but properly install it... not partition...
my mother is good to me in various ways.
i hope the rather warm and bloated battery doesn't explode anytime soon...
i hear i phone runs rather warm, too, sigh... still... heading into the colder months....
Posted by alexandra_k on December 31, 2013, at 1:37:45
In reply to Re: i-phone s, posted by alexandra_k on December 31, 2013, at 1:31:36
people did tell me: think of it as a computer rather than a phone.
but i was like 'but i have a good computer - i don't need a phone'
and now i see: that is why i don't need a galaxy note... because i have a computer. but an iphone could be good... it will synch well with my computer (which i will always have - and i will never go back from mac)...
the main deal for me is:- calender. this becomes about... time management. which i lack.
- sociality. which is really f*ck*ng hard for me. so... uh... anything that makes this easier for me... in some sense... is good.
i do have a friend who is... fairly autistic. still working on his phd... but has a family, too. i can.. practice stuff with him. if that makes sense. scheduling coffee. etc. i think... this is more... how things are done now. especially amongst 'people like me' (whatever that means). my point being... i should think of the phone as a computer (in the sense that i understand the need for a really good computer). uh... yeah.
this might be possible for me.
(i still like the mini samsung galaxy 4. very much. but i also... need something solid... that isn't going to date. because... i'm locked in. for a couple years at least. in terms of available funds for an upgrade etc).
Posted by alexandra_k on December 31, 2013, at 2:45:56
In reply to Re: i-phone s, posted by alexandra_k on December 31, 2013, at 1:37:45
maybe... maybe it will help me. taking nice photos... photography was something i have thought about for a while. i like photos... and i like buildings... and now, with the city. and it would give me that. the opportunity, i mean.
maybe i can learn how to contribute stuff... to facebook. or whatever. i guess i've realised that facebook (in many instances) is really more about family than anything else. the most active people... are posting... what i'd consider 'innocuous stuff' for the masses... for their family... i see.
i...
need to get some sort of grip on functionality for these sorts of devices.
i remember years ago gg posting something about personal assistant devices... i guess... that is what these have the potential to be.
different people with different ring tones... alarms... with voice functionality even... so much more than a phone... i am starting to see...
i feel like i should get some sort of disability allowance to deal with this kind of thing...
and then (of course) there is opportunity cost... the good compression gear (that i like - that compresses without squishing the living bejesus out of you) isn't cheap either... decisions... and then there is the non function (in my sense) sort of clothes that are part of social acceptance... i mean... in the gym i'm fairly free to pave my own way given what i can do... but at uni... i'm borderline... getting to the point where i don't have the clothes to go shopping for clothes lolz... but it is serious... and... i feel ashamed... and i don't quite know what to do about that...
Posted by alexandra_k on December 31, 2013, at 2:58:01
In reply to Re: i-phone s, posted by alexandra_k on December 31, 2013, at 2:45:56
because when i had more money it didn't feel like such an issue. and i would peseverate, rather. i had this ideal in mind, you see. of jeans. of a black high neck top. of whatever... and shopping would be about matching to that ideal... and it turns out my tastes aren't cheap... and it turns out that even given that meeting the ideal is rather harder...
i mean... things just do cost more in this part of the woods. given shipping to this part of the world... cheap crap (by US standards) comes at a brand premium price in this part of the woods... and the local organic etc etc crap isn't cheap either given the prices they fetch on international market...
point being... i often go through 3 or 4 or 5 or 6 or whatever purchases in the attempt to get what i have in mind. so i end up with multiple pairs of jeans etc... because... you never know what you like because they wear differently... and you need to see how they wear... and then favorites get worn out more quickly than non-favorites etc. and... well... i'm still riding on... what was non-favorites of... years ago... more than 11 years ago in some instances... the ones that aren't worn out yet...
how did i get myself in such a state?
lack of funds... time flies... time flies with lack of funds...
i always was fussy / picky about what things were comfortable for me... but i don't even have the money to make a number of purchases to... sort that out. to get that right. last thing i have to go on in that respect is gym gear... still got the crucial (for me) things in mind. not see through when properly squatting (a huge f*ck*ng ask for women's gym gear, as it turns out). impossible, in fact. which is why the compression underlayer is all important. uh. for women who actually are going to work at the gym and who aren't just there to be seen (perhaps delighting in see through gym gear) for sure.
am i really the only person in the world who feels such things?
and so... over the years... i have gotten far more self conscious for sure. because i don't have clothes i feel comfortable in. clothes that... feel like myself. so i can relax and be myself. and... i have felt like that at various points in the past... and i'm fairly sure i could come to feel that way again... but that takes a number of purchases, really... to properly feel things out... to get to know ones body... a sort of organic enterprise with inner layers and outer layers and... whatever.
i just feel like an ugly freak these days. and still... spending a thousand bucks on an i-phone seems preferable.
Posted by alexandra_k on December 31, 2013, at 3:18:47
In reply to Re: i-phone s, posted by alexandra_k on December 31, 2013, at 2:58:01
because... from where i am... working my way out is hard.
i don't come armed with friends, so i am at the mercy of shop assistants. or at the mercy of myself.
so lets take something simple (that i feel like i'm fairly opinionated / authorative when it comes to me) about...
i can take my chances... and try on most things in the store. i mean... i have a criterion alarm... but what is it telling me? especially with respect to what is on the market now days?
or i can try and recruit a shop assistant. which... given my social skills... is likely to result in a harming rather than a helping situation. a 'i'm laughing at you rather than with you' social situation. since they will try the happy puppy thing (presenting me with something they pretend to approve of in order to see where i draw the line on approval and start to make fun of / mock) which... gives them important information. which is bizzarre... since i'd typically been supressing my natural inclincation to make fun of / mock all alone...
so.. i could take friends... which is awkward about now. or i could recruit shop assistants. which is similarly awkward about now. or i could... trust my judgement. which i'm typically fond of. only... that takes time and effort. to try a huge f*ck*ng vast number of things on in the effort to figure out what is really important to me... (all while shop assistants mock since i dismiss them...)
or... i could spend that time... looking at smart phones...
sigh.
i'm sure there is supposed to be some sort of kind of balance.
Posted by alexandra_k on December 31, 2013, at 3:26:41
In reply to Re: i-phone s, posted by alexandra_k on December 31, 2013, at 2:58:01
because... i don't have the clothes to go clothes shopping...
unless... i really know what i'm after (and i have no idea of the current clothing situation in this country)
(so i can ignore the intentionally ill advice of shop assistants)
(the only sense in which this matters to me is when i come to realize several days or weeks or months into a purchase why it was the sucky option)
and / or i have enough money to 'gradually work my way up' in the clothing situation... trying my best with social skills with the shop assistants.
and / or i have shop savvy friends...
which i don't. i have friends with money. and friends with balls. and friends with both (mostly both, honestly). friends who... don't seem to understand that some of their purchases consist in shop assistants laughing at them...
i hate life sometimes.
Posted by alexandra_k on December 31, 2013, at 3:36:53
In reply to here we go social skills..., posted by alexandra_k on December 31, 2013, at 3:18:47
> since they will try the happy puppy thing (presenting me with something they pretend to approve of in order to see where i draw the line on approval and start to make fun of / mock) which... gives them important information. which is bizzarre... since i'd typically been supressing my natural inclincation to make fun of / mock all alone...
and this, of course, is the problem. since they can tell that i don't think a great deal of them in the first place... and... i don't... because i've had mostly truly awful experiences of most shop assistants when it comes to buying things. because they don't notice the things that are important to me... because they care about a bunch of things that are not even on my radar...
but then even if this wasn't the case my preconception would f*ck things up.
i... just can't navigate this sort of situation. without other people, at least. demi... 'tis the only person i know who might be partly kinda sorta located about here...
but then thinking back to my med interview last time... what we thought (me and friend like me whom i trusted) we f*ck*d up. f*ck*d the dog badly as my supervisor would say... because... their priorities were different.. they didn't care about clothes... and about trying to care about clothes... they cared about experience in the field.
finding the middle ground these days... between investing in this rather organic experience in the field kind of thing... and investing in the geeky things that... i need... because... that is who i am. i don't know how to be something that is me... that they want at the same time. i mean... i don't want to (i won't) present as something i'm not. but i dno't want to be trying to morph my way into something that is hard for me if that isn't even something they want. i just don't know how to... appropriately direct myself.
but i'm sure an iphone will help.
sigh.
will help me. i don't know what to say.
Posted by alexandra_k on December 31, 2013, at 3:44:07
In reply to Re: here we go social skills..., posted by alexandra_k on December 31, 2013, at 3:36:53
because i can't buy an i phone and then not go to vanuatu. i mean.
Posted by alexandra_k on December 31, 2013, at 17:05:26
In reply to Re: here we go social skills..., posted by alexandra_k on December 31, 2013, at 3:44:07
turns out i can get get the mini galaxy for half the price of an i-phone so... galaxy it is. i think this is the good decision.
Posted by Jay_Original1 on December 31, 2013, at 19:49:30
In reply to Re: here we go social skills..., posted by alexandra_k on December 31, 2013, at 17:05:26
> turns out i can get get the mini galaxy for half the price of an i-phone so... galaxy it is. i think this is the good decision.
Interesting...I bought a regular Galaxy back in the summer, and it was so cool because the thing was almost as big as a Amazon Kindle, and I could read books on it. But, unfortunately, I never took to the virtual touchscreen keyboard. So I went vanilla and back to a predictable Blackberry Q5. I know, BORING. lol.
Jay
Posted by alexandra_k on January 4, 2014, at 5:13:23
In reply to Re: here we go social skills... » alexandra_k, posted by Jay_Original1 on December 31, 2013, at 19:49:30
some people say they really like the swiping texting thing they can do... i don't know, i've never tried it.
i've learned that google calendar synchs very infrequently (like, once per day or something equally ridiculous) and you don't have an option to manually refresh it's subscriptions.
that makes it a lot less useful to me...
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