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Posted by gadchik on January 28, 2012, at 9:28:08
My son got accepted to the university,3 1/2 hrs away.Its not Japan,but it feels as if it is.I will weather this.But I do not do well with change.And so off he goes,on an adventure.without me.
Posted by Phillipa on January 28, 2012, at 10:51:29
In reply to Something Came Over Me, posted by gadchik on January 28, 2012, at 9:28:08
Congratulations to your Son. I know your concerns believe me been there done that. Phillipa
Posted by sleepygirl2 on January 28, 2012, at 11:46:17
In reply to Something Came Over Me, posted by gadchik on January 28, 2012, at 9:28:08
An exciting time for him, but probably a big adjustment for him too?
But I suppose different people tolerate change in different ways. I'm not so good with it.
I'm not a parent, but I think, if I were I'd be tempted to get some of that bubble wrap stuff and wrap my kids in it, so the bumps wouldn't do too much damage.
a big adjustment for you, but still...
Congratulations are also in order,
You did a nice job.
But again, difficult, to be sure.
Posted by sigismund on January 28, 2012, at 13:19:45
In reply to Something Came Over Me, posted by gadchik on January 28, 2012, at 9:28:08
I had not realised how painful it would be when that happened to me.
Posted by gadchik on January 28, 2012, at 17:23:34
In reply to Re: Something Came Over Me » gadchik, posted by sigismund on January 28, 2012, at 13:19:45
So,this is survivable.See sleepygirl,this is what is so horrendous about the endeavor.You have to let them go.Even if it was the happiest time of your life.Im gloomy,I know,Im sad,Im worried,but no pill is gonna take it away.I have to go through it,that's what's meant to be.As this song says,"Darkness always turns into light"
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cbACFMBufhk
coldplay what if
Posted by Beckett on January 28, 2012, at 22:13:21
In reply to Re: Something Came Over Me, posted by gadchik on January 28, 2012, at 17:23:34
gadchik I was listening to this song earlier today and didn't realize the line "let's take a breath jump over the side" is saying something done together even if in this case it's an act of individuation. I'm glad he won't be too far. I had difficulty sending my child to primary school :-( so I can only imagine how difficult university might be.
I want to congratulate your family and your son, too, for getting into the university. I wish your family the best.
Posted by emmanuel98 on January 28, 2012, at 23:00:52
In reply to Re: Something Came Over Me » gadchik, posted by Beckett on January 28, 2012, at 22:13:21
My only daughter went to school fice hours away. I don't know how many times my husband and I did that drive -- at least once a semester and she did the busride home as often. But I realized, as she got older, that our relationship had changed fundamentally. She is now 23 -- no longer a child. It's wierd, hard, to see your child become an adult.
Realize you are lucky he's only 3-1/2 hour away. So many kids go to college across the continent, hours and hours away.
Best of luck.
Posted by sigismund on January 28, 2012, at 23:49:58
In reply to Re: Something Came Over Me, posted by emmanuel98 on January 28, 2012, at 23:00:52
The pain of a kid growing up is one of life's good pains.
Posted by gadchik on January 29, 2012, at 8:38:26
In reply to Re: Something Came Over Me » gadchik, posted by Beckett on January 28, 2012, at 22:13:21
as you know,coldplay always has a song that expresses how i feel.and i will listen to it over and over until i'm ok:)
Posted by gadchik on January 29, 2012, at 8:43:17
In reply to Re: Something Came Over Me » Beckett, posted by gadchik on January 29, 2012, at 8:38:26
Thanks,everyone.Ive been indulgent w/all this self pity.I am happy to see the person that I raised be confident,and free of the issues that I carry.Ive been able to truly love another,completely.and to see him progress from ultrasound to university!:)
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