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Posted by Deneb on May 4, 2010, at 1:41:35
My lack of academic achievement has me a bit down again. My sister is doing her PhD in biochemistry and here I am without a bachelor's degree.
I just wish I had the personality and intelligence to be a doctor or a scientist or theoretical physicist or something. Actually, theoretical physicist would be way cool!
I think I am capable of getting my Bachelor's of Science, at least intelligence wise, but I don't know about the personality part.
I'm just so unsuccessful that it is not funny. I am unsuccessful in all areas of life. Even my friends who did not go to university are more successful than I. They have good jobs that pay well and families.
How did I get this way? I used to be one of the smartest people in my class (not in English class though, just math and science, I have weak language skills). How did I go from being a straight A student to being nearly 30, living with my parents, having no real life friends and working in a donut shop?
I feel discouraged. I want everyone to be proud of me, not ashamed.
Academic achievement is very important in my family and for people of Chinese descent in general. It's part of our culture. I feel like such a failure.
I wish I had the drive, strength, mental stability and intelligence to succeed academically in university.
Sigh. Everyone had such high hopes for me. Everyone thought I was smart. The only problem was my severe social anxiety that prevented me from doing most things. Then came the horrible depression near the end of high school. That was the beginning of the end. I don't know if one can have an adjustment disorder for years, but I think I did.
Posted by sassyfrancesca on May 4, 2010, at 7:43:39
In reply to My lack of academic achievement, posted by Deneb on May 4, 2010, at 1:41:35
Hey, sweetie: i went back to school at age 61! I was basically a "C" student in high school, and my last class was a 4.0--a miracle, LOL, LOL. The question is> What do YOU want to do with your life and what is preventing you from doing it?
There is a saying: "Feel the Fear and Do it anyway"--I think it is also a book.
Hugs, Sassy
Posted by Deneb on May 5, 2010, at 15:22:07
In reply to Re: My lack of academic achievement » Deneb, posted by sassyfrancesca on May 4, 2010, at 7:43:39
Thanks for telling me your story Sassy!
That gives me a lot of hope. I still have time to go to school if I want to. I just need to figure out what I want to do.
Posted by rnny on May 6, 2010, at 16:20:54
In reply to My lack of academic achievement, posted by Deneb on May 4, 2010, at 1:41:35
academic achievement is no guarantee of good mental health, peace of mind, inner peace and just plain happiness.
Posted by Tabitha on May 7, 2010, at 2:05:56
In reply to Re: My lack of academic achievement, posted by rnny on May 6, 2010, at 16:20:54
living with your parents and working in a donut shop sounds like a pretty sweet deal. Have you looked at just embracing a slacker lifestyle? There should be plenty of movies and books for inspiration. You could start with the Big Lebowski.
Posted by Deneb on May 7, 2010, at 2:25:57
In reply to Re: My lack of academic achievement, posted by Tabitha on May 7, 2010, at 2:05:56
I can do the slacker lifestyle for now I guess. My lifestyle is pretty good right now. I work part time, I have time to go to the YMCA, swim class, taking a class here and there, no rent, Starbucks whenever I want, Babbletrips, Weight Watchers, lots of free time to sleep and chat with friends on-line.
(OK, that sentence made no grammatical sense lol)
I can maintain my lifestyle as long as I don't pay rent or can find a good job. I don't really plan on getting married or having kids. I just want to go on Babbletrips around the world and have a flexible low stress job.
Posted by Techno'n'PillBottles on May 7, 2010, at 7:30:12
In reply to Re: My lack of academic achievement » Tabitha, posted by Deneb on May 7, 2010, at 2:25:57
Sounds like my life. mid 20s, parents house, part time job at video store (ultimate slackerific job). I at least found an interest that i'm pretty good at. too bad it's making out there electronic music instead of a good career, but it's pretty damn fun.
being forced to move out soon... scary!
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