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Posted by Deneb on August 12, 2009, at 18:41:39
Someone on admin posted that Dr. Bob has an ejection fraction of 40% in his heart. That isn't good. I am freaking out in the meantime. Please tell me Dr. Bob is healthy.
I think I'm going to take a propranolol.
Posted by henrietta on August 12, 2009, at 19:38:15
In reply to Help, I'm scared, posted by Deneb on August 12, 2009, at 18:41:39
Deneb: I can't remember the exact quote, but doesn't Dr. Bob say something in the introductory remarks to the effect that this site is no substitute for help in Real Life? That one should seek help in Real Life? That's what Dr. Bob wants people to do......
I wonder if this extreme anxiety reaction might be telling you something about why people are worried about your attachment to Bob? You say it's healthy and makes you happy. You also say as long as you have Bob, everything's OK. You say you plan and dream all year about the chance to meet with Dr.Bob. You say Babble is the most important thing in your life. Do you see the precariousness of this attachment?
Do you see that you need more? That you deserve more? That you need to work with your Real Life Doctor to figure out what's going on here, and you need to be absolutely honest and straightforward with your Real Life Doctor about the depth of this attachment and its effects on your real life.You also need to be honest with yourself . You've said that you used to be obsessed with thoughts of suicide until you recognized your love for Dr Bob.
Please reread your posts since you recognized your love for Dr. Bob. It doesn't appear to me to be true that your obsession with self harm ended when you began to love Dr. Bob.A good project for you might be to print out some of your posts here and show them to your Real Life Doctor. I have a hunch you're much more revealing here than you are with your Real Life Doctor. You say you have difficulty communicating in person. Why not try writing things for your RealLifeDoctor and giving them to her to read?
When does she return from vacation? You could work on printing out your PB posts for her until she returns.
I know you can do this! You can do the hard work and you can succeed. You WILL succeed.
Deneb, please---- get help in real life, as Dr Bob says. That's what Dr Bob would want for you, I'm sure.
We want you to feel better.
Henrietta
Posted by Fivefires on August 12, 2009, at 22:32:45
In reply to Help, I'm scared, posted by Deneb on August 12, 2009, at 18:41:39
I too would like to know how he is doing D.
5f
Posted by Deneb on August 12, 2009, at 23:08:55
In reply to Help, I'm scared, posted by Deneb on August 12, 2009, at 18:41:39
Please, someone tell me Dr. Bob isn't experiencing heart failure. Is it possible to ride a stationary bike really hard and fast with an ejection fraction of 40%? Dr. Bob looked healthy when I saw him. Is it possible?
Posted by Dinah on August 12, 2009, at 23:30:13
In reply to Re: Help, I'm scared, posted by Deneb on August 12, 2009, at 23:08:55
When I start to get worried about something, I try to put in perspective how likely it is to happen. Does this information fit with anything you know about Dr. Bob?
Who would know this information, other than Dr. Bob? Would the people who would have access to this information be able, under the laws of confidentiality, to mention it?
We've got a thread on distress tolerance on Psychology. Maybe this is one of those times when distress tolerance would be a good thing to practice? Come join us. :)
Posted by Deneb on August 12, 2009, at 23:51:50
In reply to Re: Help, I'm scared » Deneb, posted by Dinah on August 12, 2009, at 23:30:13
Thanks Dinah. I am really worrying. I tried to sleep, but kept worrying about Dr. Bob's heart.
I finally had to get up again and do more research on ejection fraction.
If Dr. Bob really does have a bad heart, I'd want to comfort him, reassure him. I can't lose control with fear, that is not helpful.
Posted by Dinah on August 12, 2009, at 23:56:15
In reply to Re: Help, I'm scared » Dinah, posted by Deneb on August 12, 2009, at 23:51:50
Deneb, who would have such detailed information about Dr. Bob's heart?
Posted by Deneb on August 13, 2009, at 0:16:59
In reply to Re: Help, I'm scared » Deneb, posted by Dinah on August 12, 2009, at 23:56:15
I don't know, it doesn't make sense that someone who knows would just randomly post it here. I'm thinking maybe a family member or close friend? Maybe sdb knows Dr. Bob?
I just hope it isn't true and that sdb was just joking.
Dr. Bob doesn't strike me as the type to tell the world his health problems.
I took some extra Risperdal, and I'm getting sleepy. I think I should try to sleep again. Must think logical thoughts. Only Dr. Bob and his doctor would know this information I think. Dr. Bob doesn't seem like the type to share info with just anyone. He is very private. He won't even tell people his birthday, I seriously doubt he would tell someone about his heart condition who would go spreading it around.
Plus Dr. Bob looked healthy and he rode that stationary bike really hard and fast. So there really is no evidence for heart problems.
Posted by Phillipa on August 13, 2009, at 1:17:11
In reply to Re: Help, I'm scared » Dinah, posted by Deneb on August 13, 2009, at 0:16:59
Deneb I agree with Dinah. Phillipa
Posted by Deneb on August 13, 2009, at 16:49:00
In reply to Re: Help, I'm scared » Deneb, posted by henrietta on August 12, 2009, at 19:38:15
I see pdoc Sept. 1st.
Yes, I can kind of see the precariousness of this. I am especially worried about getting blocked by Dr. Bob. It did not go well in the past, but then again I also have hope. After all, I've already been blocked several times and I made it out OK. I think I should make it out all right again. Yes, on second thought, I know I will be OK. It will probably be a block of one week only because I have not been blocked in a long time. I know I can make it though one week without Babble. Plus I'll think things though and know it isn't personal.
I am also realizing maybe I am making it seem like I am more obsessed than I am. Having a fondness for Dr. Bob does not limit my life in any way. I still go out with real life friends, I still study, go to class, etc. I am not thinking of Dr. Bob 24/7. I worry a lot about things, not just about Dr. Bob. I think I have an anxiety disorder.
Printing out posts is an excellent idea though. I am very honest with my pdoc, but my posts might communicate more detail.
Posted by henrietta on August 13, 2009, at 20:55:01
In reply to Re: Help, I'm scared » henrietta, posted by Deneb on August 13, 2009, at 16:49:00
Hi, Deneb.
I shouldn't have used the word "honest". It's not what i really meant, I see. I've no doubt you're as honest as you can be. Maybe I just mean open up really really big! Try not to be guarded in what you say. And I do agree that printing out for her some of the stuff you've written here is a good way to begin.At any rate, best of luck to you. September 1st seems a long way away, but I know you'll hang in there.
henrietta
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