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Posted by TexasChic on May 1, 2009, at 13:46:55
There is this guy that I met through my job search last time around that owns a print shop. At that time he decided he didn't have the resources to hire another graphic artist after all, but said he liked me and to stay in touch. So I contacted him, and although he still doesn't need a graphic artist, he said he would be interested in teaching me to do sales. In this type of sales, it would be extremely helpful to have a graphics background so that you know what you are talking about. So I told him it sounded interesting, and we are meeting tomorrow to talk about it. So we'll see how it goes!
I'm excited, but nervous. Let's hope my anxiety doesn't hold me back!! I seem to do okay speaking with people under certain conditions, like work. I'm much better at putting on a work persona than just being myself at a party or something. It helps to know what I'm supposed to say and what my purpose is. Does that make sense? But if it is too much for me, I won't have lost anything. I'll just go back to the job search again.
-T
Posted by TexasChic on May 1, 2009, at 14:41:26
In reply to Possible Job!!!, posted by TexasChic on May 1, 2009, at 13:46:55
If I try this and decide its not for me and quit, then no more unemployment! But I hate to turn down any opportunity! I would like to try something new and different and see if I can succeed, but I know I have anxiety and that could be a big problem. I don't know, what do you guys think?
-T
Posted by TexasChic on May 1, 2009, at 15:20:01
In reply to I just thought of something..., posted by TexasChic on May 1, 2009, at 14:41:26
I've got myself all scared about the sales job. I feel like if I say no I will look bad. I'm also afraid I will regret it. The guy seems really nice and like someone who would take me under his wing. But if I'm this freaked out just thinking about it, how would I be actually trying to do it?! I don't know what to do.
I made an appointment with a doctor for Monday to see about getting some meds. I'm just all over the place right now! I'm covered by the insurance from my last job for one month, unless I come up with the money to continue it after that. I don't know what else to do. I'm kind of freaking out right now.
-T
Posted by TexasChic on May 1, 2009, at 17:54:11
In reply to I've now completely siked(sp?) myself out, posted by TexasChic on May 1, 2009, at 15:20:01
Well, I ended up having a really bad anxiety attack, but I'm better now. I decided to go in and meet with the guy tomorrow about the job, but tell him I've decided against it. It pains me to turn down any job right now, but I know its for the best. I just wouldn't be able to handle that type of job right now. If anything, I'm looking for something LESS stressful, not more! I'm going to tell him how much I appreciate the offer, but that its just not the direction I want to go in right now. I'm rehearsing what I will say, hopefully it will come off as I want it to.
-T
Posted by Larry Hoover on May 1, 2009, at 18:40:29
In reply to Re: I've now completely siked(sp?) myself out, posted by TexasChic on May 1, 2009, at 17:54:11
I think you're making a wise choice, T. And I think practising what you're going to say is also a wise choice. I find I am more likely to say what I meant to say if I've actually said it aloud a few times. Not just running it through my head, talking to myself. ;-)
Hugs,
Lar
Posted by TexasChic on May 1, 2009, at 18:50:46
In reply to Re: I've now completely siked(sp?) myself out » TexasChic, posted by Larry Hoover on May 1, 2009, at 18:40:29
Thanks Larry, that means a lot to me! I will take your advice and rehearse it out loud.
I feel so off the wall right now (for lack of a better description), I need a job that's nice and peaceful, if that exists. Like working with plants or something. Actually, my job can be that way in the right environment. Just give me a stack of work and leave me alone until I finish it. I'm not sure where to find that though. Its hard to find anything specific with jobs being so hard to come by these days. I'll keep looking though.
-T
Posted by Phil on May 1, 2009, at 19:00:56
In reply to Re: I've now completely siked(sp?) myself out » Larry Hoover, posted by TexasChic on May 1, 2009, at 18:50:46
TC Go to workintexas.com It's the governors job bank.
Peace
Posted by TexasChic on May 1, 2009, at 19:20:22
In reply to Re: I've now completely siked(sp?) myself out » TexasChic, posted by Phil on May 1, 2009, at 19:00:56
Thanks Phil! Actually, that's the jobsite associated with filing for unemployment, so that's the first place I went to. I need to go back there and look some more though. I think I'll do that right now.
-T
Posted by Kath on May 1, 2009, at 21:30:28
In reply to Re: I've now completely siked(sp?) myself out » Phil, posted by TexasChic on May 1, 2009, at 19:20:22
TC - don't know if you will have seen him already, but can you tell him that you'd like to hear from him in the future if something NOT in sales comes up?
luv, Kath
Posted by TexasChic on May 1, 2009, at 22:51:23
In reply to Re: I've now completely siked(sp?) myself out » TexasChic, posted by Kath on May 1, 2009, at 21:30:28
I meet with him tomorrow morning. My main priority is to tell him I'm not interested in the sales job, but to make sure I do it in a way that he'll still want to consider me for any future graphic jobs. So basically, yeah, what you said.
I'm really very touched that he wants to train me to do something he knows I have no experience at. But I got into my present job because I wanted to do something that had less interaction with customers. So sales would be the exact opposite of that. I don't plan to tell him that though, I don't want to reveal my shortcomings (ie. anxiety). I'm still working on what to say. He's very reasonable though, so I think it will go okay.
-T
Posted by Phillipa on May 1, 2009, at 23:24:10
In reply to Re: I've now completely siked(sp?) myself out, posted by TexasChic on May 1, 2009, at 22:51:23
How bout working in a plant nursery for the time being summer and maybe during that time something will come up? Love Phillipa
Posted by Kath on May 2, 2009, at 10:11:39
In reply to Re: I've now completely siked(sp?) myself out, posted by TexasChic on May 1, 2009, at 22:51:23
> I'm really very touched that he wants to train me to do something he knows I have no experience at. But I got into my present job because I wanted to do something that had less interaction with customers. So sales would be the exact opposite of that. I don't plan to tell him that though, I don't want to reveal my shortcomings (ie. anxiety). I'm still working on what to say. He's very reasonable though, so I think it will go okay.
~ ~ ~ I admire your wisdom & I'm sure it'll go okay, since you have time to think about it & figure out beforehand what you want to say & how.
hugs, Kath
Posted by TexasChic on May 2, 2009, at 12:43:21
In reply to Re: I've now completely siked(sp?) myself out » TexasChic, posted by Kath on May 2, 2009, at 10:11:39
Darn that guy is a good salesman! He almost had me convinced! He told me he would help me and support me while I stepped out of my comfort zone and I didn't have anything to be afraid of. He appealed to my ego by telling me how good I would be at it and how it would be a waste if I went back to sitting behind a computer all day. But after I left there, under the instructions to think it over and call him on Monday, I found myself thinking, "But I don't want to do sales!!!". And that's just it, I don't WANT to do it. He doesn't know my history or problems with anxiety, so to him it might not make sense to stay with what is comfortable to me. But not only do I want what is comfortable, I want even more comfortable! I'm all about comfort these days! The more comfort the better! Anything to give me a chance to get a rein on my out of control emotions. So now I just have to figure out how to tell him. I've decided this time I'll do it over the phone. He's just too persuasive in person.
-T
Posted by Phillipa on May 2, 2009, at 19:29:25
In reply to Re: I've now completely siked(sp?) myself out, posted by TexasChic on May 2, 2009, at 12:43:21
T good for you I'm definitely on your side. Love Phillipa
Posted by TexasChic on May 2, 2009, at 21:44:56
In reply to Re: I've now completely siked(sp?) myself out » TexasChic, posted by Phillipa on May 2, 2009, at 19:29:25
Thanks Phillipa! That means a lot to me. And I am thinking about your suggestion of working at a nursery. That would be nice.
-T
Posted by Phillipa on May 3, 2009, at 20:14:01
In reply to Re: I've now completely siked(sp?) myself out » Phillipa, posted by TexasChic on May 2, 2009, at 21:44:56
T really that might be a cool thing to try. Phillipa
Posted by Kath on May 4, 2009, at 20:00:07
In reply to Re: I've now completely siked(sp?) myself out, posted by TexasChic on May 2, 2009, at 12:43:21
Even if you caved in, you can call him back & tell him NO.
I don't know if you know the 'broken record' technique of repeating the same thing, over & over in slightly different ways. I find it works best if I say whatever I want to, then quickly change the direction of the conversation.
How did it go?
luv & hugs, Kath
Posted by TexasChic on May 5, 2009, at 22:29:28
In reply to Hope you were able to stand your ground :-) » TexasChic, posted by Kath on May 4, 2009, at 20:00:07
Yes, I told him it wasn't what I wanted to do and he was very gracious and said to keep in touch, so it went well. I think his persistence was because he thought I didn't think myself capable of doing the job, but when I said I had given it a lot of thought and still wanted to try to find a job in graphics, he was very understanding. So THAT'S taken care of. Phew!
Now to find a job. I find myself getting very frustrated with the job search these days. All the graphics jobs seem to include things I don't know how to do, and I can't seem to pinpoint anything else I do want to do (everything sounds so scary for some reason!). I find myself getting very overwhelmed and having a hard time focusing. It seems just last week I had it all figured out, but then I got ambushed by depression and anxiety and now everything is all muddled.
For now I'm trying to just concentrate on applying for my minimum of 5 jobs a week (what's required to get unemployment) and spend the rest of the time trying to calm down and get back to the good place I was at before. Its hard because I'm still worried about the unemployment not coming through. But the Xanax is definitely helping, and so is the support I get here. Thanks so much everyone.
-T
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