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Posted by no_rose_garden on April 2, 2009, at 0:10:48
So....on my way home the other day, I realized that the front wheel part of my bike was loosened and falling off....this could've caused serious injury if the wheel fell off.
Then I remembered that in the morning, my roommate asked me how i was getting to work that day... I thought it was a weird question.
But now it makes sense.
Am I likely right or am i being paranoid?
Posted by 10derHeart on April 2, 2009, at 0:58:37
In reply to Roommate trying to kill me?, posted by no_rose_garden on April 2, 2009, at 0:10:48
Is there any reason he or she would want to harm you?
Posted by no_rose_garden on April 2, 2009, at 20:48:21
In reply to Re: Roommate trying to kill me? » no_rose_garden, posted by 10derHeart on April 2, 2009, at 0:58:37
i don't think she likes me
Posted by Kath on April 2, 2009, at 20:48:27
In reply to Roommate trying to kill me?, posted by no_rose_garden on April 2, 2009, at 0:10:48
That's somewhat un-nerving!
How does she behave with you?
Kath
Posted by 10derHeart on April 2, 2009, at 23:38:45
In reply to Re: Roommate trying to kill me? » 10derHeart, posted by no_rose_garden on April 2, 2009, at 20:48:21
Well, even if so, that shouldn't translate into tampering with a bicycle, which might be a criminal act, actually.....that's just wrong!
Be careful, if it's seriously possible this person would do things like that. I guess in this case, I kinda hope you *are* just paranoid....although that can be a not fun way to react to the world, either, - I know from experience....
So you're not friends - just sharing space? How long have you known her? Why wouldn't she like you? Sorry, too many questions....
Posted by no_rose_garden on April 2, 2009, at 23:52:23
In reply to Re: Roommate trying to kill me? » no_rose_garden, posted by 10derHeart on April 2, 2009, at 23:38:45
I don't think we ever really got along well. We've been living together (with a third person) for about 1.5 years.
She gives me dirty looks sometimes and leaves her room lights on when she's not there b/c she knows I don't like it. I think we mostly try to avoid each other.
But why would she want to know how I was getting to work!?!?
I'm scared she's going to poison my food or something.
Posted by Phillipa on April 3, 2009, at 0:31:49
In reply to Re: Roommate trying to kill me?, posted by no_rose_garden on April 2, 2009, at 23:52:23
Are you on meds? If so you sound so upset maybe a call to the doc? I don't know what meds your're on so can't advise. You do sound a bit paranoid but then I don't know all the facts of the relationship. Love Phillipa
Posted by Kath on April 3, 2009, at 9:40:33
In reply to Re: Roommate trying to kill me?, posted by no_rose_garden on April 2, 2009, at 23:52:23
Hi NRG - I'm really sorry - last nite when we briefly chatted on Babblechat, I didn't link up that I was chatting with YOU & that YOU were the person who the bike thing had happened to.
I would have asked you about it.
((((((((((((you))))))))))))))
Must be awful living in the same place with someone mean.
luv, Kath
Posted by TexasChic on April 5, 2009, at 19:42:40
In reply to Roommate trying to kill me?, posted by no_rose_garden on April 2, 2009, at 0:10:48
Wow, that's downright scary!!! Its hard to say if you're being paranoid or if its for real from the info you've provided. Like someone else said, I kind of hope you're being paranoid!
All you can really do is use your best judgment. Unless... how about the third roommate? Can they give you any input?
Your home should be your refuge, so I hope you can improve your situation. Keep us posted.
-T
Posted by Kath on April 6, 2009, at 11:21:32
In reply to Re: Roommate trying to kill me?, posted by TexasChic on April 5, 2009, at 19:42:40
Posted by no rose garden on April 6, 2009, at 15:29:12
In reply to NRG - how are things going? (nm) » TexasChic, posted by Kath on April 6, 2009, at 11:21:32
Sorry...i've been housesitting (no internet)
I went to the bike shop to get it fixed...wasn't expensive. but they told me 2 things:
The only thing keeping the front wheel on my bike was gravity (i.e. a very dangerous situation)
AND It is EXTREMELY unlikely that it happened on it's own...so somebody was probably tampering with it.
I can't ask roommate b/c she'll just say she didn't do it...
3rd roommate is very non-partisan...but supportive.
Sigh
I see tT tomorrow.
Posted by Kath on April 6, 2009, at 20:57:15
In reply to Re: NRG - how are things going?, posted by no rose garden on April 6, 2009, at 15:29:12
Jeez - that is scarey.
I wonder if there's anything you can or should do?? Would you know by looking at your bike in future if it had been tampered with?
How upsetting.
Kath
Posted by TexasChic on April 6, 2009, at 21:56:27
In reply to Re: NRG - how are things going?, posted by no rose garden on April 6, 2009, at 15:29:12
Damn! That IS scary! You know, I think in this situation, I would say to the snooty roommate, "Hey, funny thing happened, after you asked me how I was going to work the other day, and I told you I was riding my bike, I went out and found my bike broken. According to the bike repairman, it had been tampered with, and the accident could have been fatal. So just to satisfy my curiosity, why exactly did you want to know how I was getting to work that day?" Then just stand back and see how she reacts. If she says you're overreacting, just say, "Hey, how would it seem to you? Wouldn't you be a little curious?" Best case scenario, you'll let her know you're on your guard, worst case, she thinks you're paranoid, but who cares!
Keep us updated!
-T
Posted by Kath on April 7, 2009, at 19:40:09
In reply to Roommate trying to kill me?, posted by no_rose_garden on April 2, 2009, at 0:10:48
I think TC might have a good idea. Although, since you could have been killed, I think I'd take a different route.
I was actually thinking about this earlier.
If it were me, I think I might actually go to the police & tell them the whole thing, including the name & telephone # of the bike repair person. I would tell them that I want it on record in case anything happened to me in the future.
I do NOT think that they would think this was weird (& who cares if they did think that anyway - the public pays them!)
Anyway, I might first go to the repair guy & get him to write what was wrong...the technical stuff. Get him to do that first & then once he's give you the paper, ask if he'd be willing to write that it could only have happened by being done on purpose. he might not be cool with that...if not, okay.
Then, I'd tell the police exactly what happened - exactly!!!!!
If they asked do you want them to do anything I'd say, no - not at this point, that I just wanted it on record & would be telling my roommate that it's on record at the police dept.
If they say, 'sorry lady, we can't do anything...etc' I'd say, 'that's okay, I just wanted it on record in case something happens to me'.
Then I'd (preferrably with both roommates present)
tell mean roommate something like:"The other day you asked me how I was getting to work. I told you I'd be riding my bike. Next thing I ride my bike; it's broken & the wheel almost falls off; I take it to the repair shop & they say I could have ended up dead & the damage could only have been caused by someone tampering with my bike. I am just letting you know that due to the seriousness of this situation, I have been to the police & filed a report, so that it's on record, in case anything were to happen to me in the future.
I'm letting you know that all conversations, including that between you & I, and that between the bike repair folks & me, are now on record at the police department, as well as all the details of the damage to my bike & the fact that it could only have been caused by tampering.
That's all, just wanted you both to know. I'm gonna make a coffee....either of you want one?"
& then walk towards the kitchen.
I think this would actually put some protection in place for you.
And guess what......if the police say that they can only write a report if they investigate & go & see roommate etc.... and if you are not okay with that, I'd just lie to roommate & say there was a report even if there wasn't!!!!
I know this might sound extreme, but guess what - you could have been killed! And guess what - other people could have also. You could have been riding along, the wheel starts to wobble; you loose steering; your bike goes onto the sidewalk bumping into a lady pushing a stroller, knocking the stroller over, injuring the baby, causing the lady's dog to run out in front of a car, which slams on its brakes & fishtails, hitting another cyclist & causing a big truck to hit another car etc etc. And guess what - this is NOT even improbable!
((((((((((you))))))))
It might feel scarey to think of confronting your roommate. But the other option is scarey also. She sounds like she has serious problems.
If you ever want to discuss this further I'm here.
love, Kath
Posted by no_rose_garden on April 12, 2009, at 17:39:39
In reply to Re: Roommate trying to kill me? YUP maybe!! » no_rose_garden, posted by Kath on April 7, 2009, at 19:40:09
thanks for all the advice and stuff....I don't think i can confront her at all...what if on the off chance she DIDN"T do it? And even if she did she woudln't admit it.
I'm scared of her...I will just be move careful from now on...but can't do the other stuff you guys suggested...that's too scary.
Thanks for the support :)
Posted by Kath on April 12, 2009, at 20:41:32
In reply to what i will do, posted by no_rose_garden on April 12, 2009, at 17:39:39
> I'm scared of her...I will just be move careful from now on...but can't do the other stuff you guys suggested...that's too scary.
>
> Thanks for the support :)Good for you, for knowing what feels okay for YOU & following your needs in that way.
I am SO sorry you have to live with her.
I'm sending loving thoughts your way. Maybe at some point, there'll be a more comfortable alternative for living situation for you.
xoxo Kath
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