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Posted by no_rose_garden on November 2, 2008, at 1:47:23
I tried to go to bed tonight like I usually do. I felt ok today, but when i got to bed, I started thinking and couldn't fall asleep...Thinking many sad things and bad ways to fix the sad things. Then I thought of my past counselors that I wish would hold me and comfort me and tell me I'm ok. Then I think about trying out another new T and I can't..I imagine talking to him, then I imagine handing him a check, and that second act seems to make everything we would have talked about meaningless. So then I think about the counselors again and know it can't happen, so I have to think about the bad things again but that's too complicated because I can't hurt anyone. There's no safe way out.
Posted by TexasChic on November 2, 2008, at 19:15:39
In reply to I don't know, posted by no_rose_garden on November 2, 2008, at 1:47:23
I'm sorry you're having such a hard time. I certainly know the feeling. As for paying to see a T, well, although we discuss personal things with them, we are paying for their expertise in how to advise people who are having problems in their life. I actually feel a bit of relief when I think of it that way, because it means I can be as self centered as I want. When we speak to friends about our problems, we have to be careful we aren't being too demanding or making them feel uncomfortable. I believe I've lost a lot of friends over the years by trying to use them as therapists. So when you hand them that check, think of it as payment for all the years they spent studying, learning how to advise people in the most constructive way. Leave the sharing, bonding and comforting for actual friends. I hope you feel better soon.
-T
Posted by no_rose_garden on November 4, 2008, at 19:46:18
In reply to Re: I don't know » no_rose_garden, posted by TexasChic on November 2, 2008, at 19:15:39
Thanks TC. I feel a little better now, but thank you so much for the post. I really appreciate(d) it! Sorry I didn't thank you earlier. I think too much 0_o
Posted by stellabystarlight on November 4, 2008, at 21:19:51
In reply to I don't know, posted by no_rose_garden on November 2, 2008, at 1:47:23
Oh Rose, here are couple more issues that we have in common besides the "kiss of you know what." I often just want to be held, too...forget all the talking which seems meaningless at times. And my latest struggle is with the fact that I'm paying him to care about me, which also feels to me like the money is negating all the caring and making our relationship meaningless. I'll write more later when I can go deeper into it without frustration. Talk to you soon, Rose!
Stella
Posted by TexasChic on November 4, 2008, at 22:06:46
In reply to Re: I don't know » TexasChic, posted by no_rose_garden on November 4, 2008, at 19:46:18
Oh that's okay, I'm just glad if I was able to help any. It seemed as if you were really hurting, and as sometimes happens for no apparent reason, your post seemed to be getting overlooked. That can really be crushing when someone's in a bad place, but I assure you its not personal at all, just a fluke of the boards. I hope you're feeling better!
-T
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