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Posted by gardenergirl on June 28, 2008, at 22:39:39
I spoke with my mother in law yesterday. It was a pleasant conversation. I mentioned that my hubby and I had thought they might come up for a visit this summer, but I figured with our family vacation coming up in late August, another trip might be too much. But I reiterated that they were welcome. (Aren't I nice considering what they did back in January with talking to my hubby about divorce?) So they called a half hour ago to give us their travel plans. They're coming Tuesday!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I have TWO FREAKING DAYS to get this house in shape for company, let alone for in laws company!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
GG runs off screaming, tearing her hair...
Posted by 64Bowtie on June 28, 2008, at 23:38:11
In reply to Two Freaking Days????!!!!!!??, posted by gardenergirl on June 28, 2008, at 22:39:39
(((((((GG)))))))
Change the linen on any used beds and buy yourself a bouquet of flowers for the kitchen table, then declare yourself done with preparations... They need your attention not your "stuff"... Also butt-in on any conversations containing complaining!!! I dare ya' to stand your ground and do these things for yourself... They may not be good at their own self-respect but by g*d they'll best have respect for you while in your house...
Rod
Posted by Phillipa on June 29, 2008, at 0:35:39
In reply to » gardenergirl » 2 Freaking Days, posted by 64Bowtie on June 28, 2008, at 23:38:11
Amen. Phillipa
Posted by AbbieNormal on June 29, 2008, at 7:32:22
In reply to Two Freaking Days????!!!!!!??, posted by gardenergirl on June 28, 2008, at 22:39:39
Posted by Racer on June 29, 2008, at 12:42:06
In reply to Two Freaking Days????!!!!!!??, posted by gardenergirl on June 28, 2008, at 22:39:39
Two days of freakin' out....
Ugh. I'd help if I could. I'm sorry that's happening -- it doesn't sound all that respectful of them.
And I disagree with the previous advice about not sweating it. Frankly -- based in part on having met your in-laws -- I'd say put most of that "freakin' out" energy into cleaning. Even if they don't recognize it, I can tell you -- my qualifications: my title as World's Worst Housekeeper -- that I feel particularly superior towards anyone who wishes to criticize me when I've cleaned the house and KNOW it.
Best luck, and best love...
Posted by gardenergirl on June 29, 2008, at 16:38:36
In reply to Re: Two Freaking Days? Sounds accurate » gardenergirl, posted by Racer on June 29, 2008, at 12:42:06
I can't seem to find a thread. It was after hubby said he didn't want kids, but before I got in to see my T. In case I didn't post it, and just for context about this visit...
When my hubby visited them in January, they sat him down and said he looked unhappy. It must be my fault. And here's what you need to know to divorce me. Totally out of the blue. Never bothered with any intermediary suggestions like, oh I don't know, talking, counseling, etc. Didn't bother to confirm with him that they were right. Poor guy. They put him in a terrible position. Points to him for telling me all about it and keeping me posted as the crap went on. I visited my family in March and made a point of going to see them to confront them. It was awkward, and my FIL never admitted to any wrongdoing. My MIL felt terrible once she realized how hurt I was and how offbase they were. It's been really difficult, so the idea of welcoming them into my home, let alone with no notice is not exactly thrilling.
If I did post that somewhere, sorry for repeating. I can't find anything with search anymore for some reason.
Anywhoo, thanks for input so far. I just might hire someone tomorrow if I can. And if not, I'll just walk around the house with a squint and see what still shows up. :)
gg
Posted by fayeroe on June 29, 2008, at 19:33:29
In reply to Did I ever post what my inlaws did?, posted by gardenergirl on June 29, 2008, at 16:38:36
sorry about the ILs. i've never had good ones..had a good father-in-law..but never the combination.
here's my idea..when they arrive, hand her a dishrag, a duster, comet and a peanut butter and jelly sandwich and give the FIL a vacumn, a mop, directions to the toilet bowl, recipes for a gourmet dinner and you head out the door for a massage!!!!!!!!
oh,yes.....tell them that you'll expect everything to be done by 7:00 p.m.
Posted by 64Bowtie on June 30, 2008, at 3:06:55
In reply to Re: Did I ever post what my inlaws did? » gardenergirl, posted by fayeroe on June 29, 2008, at 19:33:29
Posted by gardenergirl on July 6, 2008, at 19:53:44
In reply to Re: Did I ever post what my inlaws did? » gardenergirl, posted by fayeroe on June 29, 2008, at 19:33:29
LOL, that made quite a funny picture, thanks. It turns out MIL did a lot to help while they were here. Cooking complete meals is a skill I've sort of lost recently, and she helped me stay on task and get everything done on time.
Even more, she cleaned a bunch of hot grease off my floor after I accidentally bobbled a can of it and spilled it all down my throat and chest while trying to put it in the freezer. I don't pour grease down my sink and instead keep it in a can in the freezer til it's full and then throw it in the garbage. This can was very full as it was liquid from the crock pot I used to cook ribs. Full and hot. And I'm a clutz. You probably heard my scream out your way, it was so loud, shrill, and scary. I still can't believe that sound came out of my mouth. Anyway, I stripped off my shirt right there in the kitchen and went upstairs to get under the shower as fast as I could. I'm fine, only 1st degree burns that faded quickly with the help of a little lavender essential oil, thank god. But I'm sure it was quite a mess in the kitchen. She had it all cleaned up by the time I came back downstairs, bless her heart.
Other than that, I spent a lot of time getting both to talk about their families and such, easy topics. Hubby was in avoidance mode as he is not dealing well with his father's dementia, so I was the chief entertainment, cook, janitor, and so on. Still, the visit went much better than I expected, and probably no scars to show from it. :)
gg
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