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Posted by Tabitha on June 25, 2007, at 12:12:29
So I've gotten some replies to my ad. Many are just not promising at all. I answered some of them conversationally, then realized I was just postponing the inevitable. So... I consulted the Internets for advice on how to handle those. I found a tip that said if you know you're not interested, just send a message that says "Thanks for the message. You sound like a great buy, but I don't think we're a match. Good luck with your search." I tried it out on a nice grandfatherly-looking man and patted myself on the back for my politeness and maturity.
But... the guy must have mis-read the message. Somehow he thinks I said I wanted to meet ! ? Now what?
Posted by karen_kay on June 25, 2007, at 12:51:10
In reply to More onling dating misadventure, posted by Tabitha on June 25, 2007, at 12:12:29
first of all, did you realize you put, 'you sound like a great 'buy'? ha!
perhaps you could put something like, 'as i said, you sound like a great guy, but i don't think we'd make a great match and i'm sure your perfect mate is still out there, as is mine. thank you for your interest, and i'm certainly flattered. i wish you luck in your continued search, just as i'm sure you wish me luck in mine. take care, tabitha'
or, you could always say, 'maybe you need to get your eyes checked, as i thought i made my intentions known the first time. but, perhaps i shoudl repeat this again. NO WAY JOSE! regards, tabitha'
i'm not so good at these things though dear. i'm just trying to be helpful and feel free to completely ignore either fo these choices. but, you'd think that he would have read the options of what to say to someone when not interested (if that's the standard line to give, as told by the help desk or whatever, right?). maybe with some people it takes a bit more forcefulness? or maybe he jsut didn't get the hint the first time?
good luck tabitha and i hope this works out for you dear, not just the 'back off' line, but also the online adventure as well.
kk
Posted by Phillipa on June 25, 2007, at 13:18:42
In reply to Re: More onling dating misadventure » Tabitha, posted by karen_kay on June 25, 2007, at 12:51:10
My Daughter tried it and stopped as too many people tell non truths about themselves. Love Phillipa
Posted by Tabitha on June 25, 2007, at 23:12:11
In reply to Re: More onling dating misadventure » Tabitha, posted by karen_kay on June 25, 2007, at 12:51:10
I guess I need some glasses-- I misspelled my own subject line along with "buy" for "guy". But I went back and read the message I sent to Mr Dense and it was correct.
Posted by Tabitha on June 25, 2007, at 23:14:51
In reply to Re: More onling dating misadventure, posted by Phillipa on June 25, 2007, at 13:18:42
Phillipa what kind of lies did they tell?
Honestly I was tempted myself to knock a few years off my age just to compensate for the male tendency to pursue younger women. I want a guy my own age, not one 10-20 years older which is generally the replies I get. But... I'm not good at lying so I stuck with the awful truth.
Posted by Justherself54 on June 26, 2007, at 9:19:22
In reply to Re: More onling dating misadventure » Phillipa, posted by Tabitha on June 25, 2007, at 23:14:51
I'm not sure what site you're on but tell him you are looking for someone your own age and if he keeps trying to contact you, simply don't respond back to him and if he persists there should be a block sender option.
Some of these guys troll for younger women, so don't feel you're going to hurt their feelings..you've made yourself clear..be safe and have fun!
Posted by Phillipa on June 26, 2007, at 18:58:21
In reply to Re: More onling dating misadventure » Phillipa, posted by Tabitha on June 25, 2007, at 23:14:51
Oh she said about personality, job, age, if it were me I'd like that as I love older men as they usually know how to treat a woman that was my experience after first marriage failure. The young may be studs sometimes but those older buy like to go places fancy, good, food, champagne. At the time my older man took me all over Europe and to the Carribean on a cruise. We eventually married then split as he lost his high paying job and it messed him up poor judgement wasn't letting him take me under as had own money from first marriage of 21 years. Love Phillipa
Posted by Tabitha on June 28, 2007, at 1:20:19
In reply to Re: More onling dating misadventure » Tabitha, posted by Phillipa on June 26, 2007, at 18:58:21
Phillipa I was Ok with dating older men when it meant 20s to fit 40s, but I just can't look at a sixty-ish guy and think "mate". Instead I think "grandpa". I'm sure when I'm 80 they'll look like hot young studs to me.
Actually my master plan is to turn gay right about the age that the men all start to die out on us. :)
Posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on June 28, 2007, at 8:31:52
In reply to Re: More onling dating misadventure » Phillipa, posted by Tabitha on June 28, 2007, at 1:20:19
> Phillipa I was Ok with dating older men when it meant 20s to fit 40s, but I just can't look at a sixty-ish guy and think "mate". Instead I think "grandpa". I'm sure when I'm 80 they'll look like hot young studs to me.
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> Actually my master plan is to turn gay right about the age that the men all start to die out on us. :)Well, at least you have responses. It seems, women who don't see "Brad Pitt" in your pic just bypass, completly. I've like written two words, and already the women are like.."sorry...you aren't my type", if I do get a response. Geez..I am surely not that bad looking. I mean, I look a tad like Andre Agassi meets Tony Soprano meets Ed from the Barenaked Ladies. Women are just as shallow as men. :-(
Jay
Posted by Tabitha on June 28, 2007, at 23:50:59
In reply to Re: More onling dating misadventure » Tabitha, posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on June 28, 2007, at 8:31:52
Hi Jay,
As much as I hate gender-based generalizations, it seems men need to use a different approach on those sites than women. The dating advice I've read says that men need to send out 10 messages to get 2 or 3 replies, and they rarely get unsolicited messages. So waiting for women to contact you, or expecting a high percentage response rate may not work. You might need to approach more women and be prepared for plenty of "no thanks" or non-responses.
Posted by slinky on July 1, 2007, at 15:29:28
In reply to More onling dating misadventure, posted by Tabitha on June 25, 2007, at 12:12:29
Thanks for the honesty...strange...it's a small world meeting on this forum, maybe it's fate.
Didn't you like the picture I sent ? The stitches still remain but I think the surgen did a good job .
Posted by Tabitha on July 2, 2007, at 0:13:25
In reply to Re: More onling dating misadventure, posted by slinky on July 1, 2007, at 15:29:28
you're priceless, Ms slinky
Maybe if I put "Must love mangoes, fluffy bunnies, and intergalactic research" in my profile I'd find someone a teeny bit like you? Naw... impossible
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