![[dr. bob]](/dr-bob-sm.gif)
Dr. Bob is Robert Hsiung, MD,
bob@dr-bob.orgShown: posts 1 to 7 of 7. This is the beginning of the thread.
Posted by rjlockhart on March 25, 2007, at 21:23:36
This house is really, im sorry but it is my mother that causing all this cammotion, she yells she screams, causes trouble, screams at the top of her lungs, always never satisfied, im sorry she such a ungrateful bitch, screams, i cant take it anymore, i want to get out of here.
Please god get me out of here.
This is where all this trouble is coming from, i get it. My mother takes care of her mother here, she yells at her, my grandmother is 86, my mom says horrible things, she makes the whole household feel her misery, imbalances,
I dont know what im going to do, get a small recorder and put it on the internet, and you will see what this is like. Then i may take it to court.
Antidepressants, Xanax, Temazepam, i take to deal with this, not all at once, no Xanax when i need it, but when im in a fight with her, i cant take Xanax because it just tunes me out.
Usally when i get in fights i drink energy drinks, caffine, so i cant let my guard down. So i can be ready for her anytime.
I have posted what a control psychoqueen freak is before, i am posting again because she is having a psyche rampage.
At least i can come here.
Posted by Gee on March 26, 2007, at 11:32:23
In reply to Living in a angry household, posted by rjlockhart on March 25, 2007, at 21:01:10
Is there anyway you could move out? Home seems like a really bad place. What about going away for school? Sometimes we have to stand up for ourselves, and even though it can be hard, it's worth it in the end.
Posted by Phillipa on March 26, 2007, at 12:29:16
In reply to Re: Living in a angry household, posted by Gee on March 26, 2007, at 11:32:23
Matt listen to gee. Love Phillipa
Posted by Llurpsie_Noodle on March 27, 2007, at 7:41:55
In reply to Re: Living in a angry household, posted by Phillipa on March 26, 2007, at 12:29:16
Hi Matt,
I lived in an angry household for my first 18 years. I think it helped me to have an escape route. For me, personally, it was my education. I knew that if I did well enough on my SATs and stuff and applied to enough schools I could pick one that would be far far away. And I did, and I ran. Far away, as fast as I could. I had to take out massive amounts of student loans, and I'm still not out of school, but, I'm out of their reach.One interesting difference between me and you is that you are able to externalize the source of your misery. for a long time (like, 27.5 years?) I thought that the misery I had at home growing up was a product of my too-delicate psyche. I thought I wasn't tough enough to handle it. I got mad, but mostly I avoided fighting back, because I was always the weakest in my family (physically and verbally). But, perhaps I was the strongest in a way too.
One of the sources of my strength was to have a dream. They will try their best to take it away from you Matt, but don't let them. You may feel like your dream is dumb, but it's NOT. maybe you want to be a rockstar, or a doctor, or drive exotic cars for a living. it doesn't matter what it is. it's YOUR life, and if it gives you comfort and hope and provides you with direction, you've got to hold onto that, as hard as you can, even when you're in the middle of the battle, know in your heart that you WILL survive this and you are stronger because of it.
and take care of you, because you deserve much better than what you're getting right now.
blove,
Ll
Posted by Meri-Tuuli on March 27, 2007, at 8:18:08
In reply to Re: Living in a angry household » Phillipa, posted by Llurpsie_Noodle on March 27, 2007, at 7:41:55
Hello Lurpsie - that post sounded alot like me actually! I also studied hard to get away from the home, went to a uni far away, and had to take out massive student loans to achieve it. I also had a dream that I'd just be able to afford the normal stuff in life and be independant enough not to have to rely on home.
Well.
I have to say that my dream has been shattered somewhat - I always thought that if I just kept my head down, and stuck it out til I was a grown-up with a uni education that I'd be doing good. But then I got all this depression and anxiety yucky stuff and it hasn't gotten better - well that was slightly negative, things are a whole lot better situationally, but mentally, no.
I guess i'm going to work on childhood stuff in therapy.Kind regards
Meri
PS Matt, we've been telling you for ages and ages now, MOVE OUT!!!! What are your obstacles?
Posted by Llurpsie_Noodle on March 27, 2007, at 15:30:06
In reply to Re: Living in a angry household » Llurpsie_Noodle, posted by Meri-Tuuli on March 27, 2007, at 8:18:08
But Meri, aren't you in a better position to deal with childhood yuckiness when you're not immersed in the household everyday?
I never meant to imply that having a dream and getting away is the end of one's struggles. You and I both know that having a difficult childhood is something that will affect our development as human beings as long as we live.
But the sooner one gets started working on it, the fewer bad habits get developed.
Yes, my childhood still causes me terror. And yes, I'm in pretty intense therapy right now (psychoT and psychopharmT) to help me work through some of the stuff that happened. BUT, I'm starting to appreciate that there are two sides to everything.
horrible home makes you more likely to want to do things differently.
being sensitive to strife makes me more sensitive to people overall
feeling guilty and shamed helps me have empathy towards people who also struggle
I just wanted to push matt a bit to start planning his escape. It's gotta be very difficult and gut-wrenching to want to separate from someone that requires looking after (like matt's unbalanced mom). That's bound to cause a lot of psychological conflict. I don't know what the solution is, but it has to start with Matt taking responsibility for his own life and starting to own his future. it belongs to him alone. He doesn't have to share it with anyone he doesnt' want to share it with. choices. choices. ugh.
Posted by Meri-Tuuli on March 27, 2007, at 15:42:49
In reply to Re: Living in a angry household » Meri-Tuuli, posted by Llurpsie_Noodle on March 27, 2007, at 15:30:06
Oh yes, sorry, it was meant as a tangent from Matt's thread, rather than an address to Matt's problems specifically. Yes, its good to have those escape dreams, very good. And possibly it was a touch negative.
Oh well. Anyway, get back to that draft! :o)
And Matt....what is stopping you from moving out specifically?
This is the end of the thread.
Psycho-Babble Social | Extras | FAQ
Dr. Bob is Robert Hsiung, MD,
bob@dr-bob.org
Script revised: February 4, 2008
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/cgi-bin/pb/mget.pl
Copyright 2006-17 Robert Hsiung.
Owned and operated by Dr. Bob LLC and not the University of Chicago.