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Posted by Deneb on March 2, 2007, at 17:28:05
I can't stop thinking of all the stupid things I said and did on the interview. I need some comfort or company or something. (((((Babblers)))))) I wish you could be there for me. ((((((Bob)))))))
I think about Bob sometimes to calm down. I need to stop thinking of all the bad things!
Bob, bats in Austin
I just need to think about other things, good things.
Babblers, knitting, Dr. Bob, comfy feelings
Everyone is going to be OK, calm down, calm blue ocean, ((((Bob)))), hugs, it's OK
Deneb*
Posted by TexasChic on March 2, 2007, at 21:52:27
In reply to I need company, posted by Deneb on March 2, 2007, at 17:28:05
I do the same thing. The only thing that helps with that sort of thing is practice, practice, practice. The more interviews you do the better you will get. Its something you have to learn.
I've said some REALLY stupid things in my time. When I was right out of school I had this one job that lasted 3 months before they went out of business. After that I had such a hard time finding a job. Keep in mind I had just learned all this stuff in a one year crash course and hadn't known anything about computers before. Being as young as you are, that's probably hard to comprehend, but I didn't even know how to use a mouse at first. Anyway, during this one interview the guy asked me if we used a desktop or drum scanners. I couldn't remember the difference! So I just went with something and said drum scanner. He asked how many we had. I said we all had one at our desk. Well, drum scanners are huge and you don't have them at your desk, you have the desktop ones. It was a completely ridiculous thing to say. Afterwards I realized I had said the wrong thing simply because of nerves and being new to it and all. I felt like such an idiot! Here I was pretending I knew what I was talking about because I'd been unemployed for 3 months and was getting desperate. Weirdly enough, I got that job and worked there for 5 years - the longest I've ever worked at any job.
So just keep in mind that they know you're nervous and they take that into consideration. They are human just like you and have had the 'wonderful' experience of being interviewed.
Another tip, and I've actually done this, is if you don't get it, ask the interviewer why they didn't choose you. Tell them you want to know what you need to work on. They usually respect this and will tell you flat out. Its very good info to have.
Also send a thank you note to them for taking the time to see you. In that note tell them how interested you are in the job and list the ways that you believe would make you the perfect candidate (hard worker, willingness to learn etc.) It may sound cheesy and like you're overdoing it. but believe me they love it no matter what type of job it is.
Anyway, try not to dwell on it. A good way to do this is looking for a future job to interview for. If it helps, I thought I had found my dream job right before I interviewed for the one I got. I was SO disappointed that I didn't get it!!! But I kept trying and ended up with an EVEN BETTER job!
Anyway I feel like I'm babbling (no pun intended) so I'll stop. But let me now how it goes!
-T
Posted by Phillipa on March 2, 2007, at 21:59:59
In reply to Re: I need company, posted by TexasChic on March 2, 2007, at 21:52:27
Deep breaths Deneb and remember you will get the job. Love Phillipa
Posted by Kath on March 3, 2007, at 19:33:46
In reply to I need company, posted by Deneb on March 2, 2007, at 17:28:05
Hi Deneb,
Deeeep breaths - lots of them.
I know what you mean about replaying things over & over.
Reread your post before you went for interview.
Remember, it's just ONE interview. You're likeable, so first of all, they'll have liked ya!
Relax if you can. If nothing else, it can be viewed as a practise interview...you can decide what you liked about it & what you'll do differently next time!
hugs, Kath
Posted by Deneb on March 3, 2007, at 20:40:47
In reply to Re: I need company, posted by TexasChic on March 2, 2007, at 21:52:27
Thanks TexasChic.
I found myself saying the stupidest things and lying too, for no good reason. The interviewer asked me if I took the bus and then I just said, "Yes", even though my Dad drove me! WTF? What is wrong with me? One of the questions was what was my worse boss and I found myself telling the man all the horrible characteristics of my last boss, my uncle. Aaaahhh! What was I thinking? Never focus on the negative! Eeeek!
OK, it's OK. It was good practice.
Deneb*
Posted by Deneb on March 3, 2007, at 20:41:50
In reply to Re: I need company, posted by Phillipa on March 2, 2007, at 21:59:59
Thanks Phillipa. I only want the job if it's a good job. I hope it is.
Deneb*
Posted by Deneb on March 3, 2007, at 20:42:39
In reply to Re: I need company » Deneb, posted by Kath on March 3, 2007, at 19:33:46
Thanks Kath. Practice interview. That's a good way to look at things. :-)
Deneb*
Posted by Phillipa on March 3, 2007, at 20:45:47
In reply to Re: I need company, posted by Deneb on March 3, 2007, at 20:42:39
Deneb that was a wierd question you said you took the bus and your Dad drove you bet they were seeing if you had reliable transportation. I might call and say just that take you took the bus as your Dad's car was in for routine servicing. Love Phillipa ps I don't call that lying as he did bring you.
Posted by TexasChic on March 3, 2007, at 21:08:07
In reply to Re: I need company » Deneb, posted by Phillipa on March 3, 2007, at 20:45:47
I understand perfectly. Just like I got freaked and said we used drum scanners you said you took the bus! Its just because you're so nervous and you're trying so hard to appear confident! I wouldn't be overly worried about it. Like I said, practice will help with this sort of thing.
-T
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