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Posted by jammerlich on December 23, 2006, at 22:16:40
It seems with the holidays I'm around people almost constantly; yet, I feel lonlier than ever. To me, it's the worst kind of lonely, this kind you feel most acutely when surrounded by people you know. I guess it's probably because there are *other* people I know with whom I'd rather be spending this time. I don't know. Whatever it is, it really sucks.
Posted by Happyflower on December 23, 2006, at 22:22:46
In reply to I'm lonely, posted by jammerlich on December 23, 2006, at 22:16:40
((((jammer))))) I am lonley too, my kids help a little but being in a loveless marriage really sucks especially when there are happy memories but all are in the past now.
I just want someone to cuddle up with on the sofa looking at the tree . I miss being wanted and loved. It sucks not to have anyone special.
I know you know what I am talking about. ((((jammer))))) Someday we will be really happy again, don't you think?
Posted by ClearSkies on December 26, 2006, at 8:12:06
In reply to I'm lonely, posted by jammerlich on December 23, 2006, at 22:16:40
> It seems with the holidays I'm around people almost constantly; yet, I feel lonlier than ever. To me, it's the worst kind of lonely, this kind you feel most acutely when surrounded by people you know. I guess it's probably because there are *other* people I know with whom I'd rather be spending this time. I don't know. Whatever it is, it really sucks.
I have the opposite problem with the same result; feeling very much alone because I *am* alone. Just my DH and me, and he isn't of a faith that celebrates Christmas. He's sympathetic but can't understand my somber mood. His grown up children have family obligations of their own, so we get a fly-by visit. It feels like we are another appointment on a busy day.
My family are so far away, and I haven't had more than a handful of Christmases at home since 1983. Last year I promised myself that this wouldn't happen, but here I am again. I couldn't pull off a trip home because of financial issues - waaayyyy too much going on, moneywise.
(Sorry for interjecting my own unhappiness here.)
ClearSkies but not for now.
Posted by jammerlich on December 26, 2006, at 10:48:11
In reply to Re: I'm lonely » jammerlich, posted by ClearSkies on December 26, 2006, at 8:12:06
I'm sorry you're feeling so badly, too. It's really miserable, isn't it? The tears start as soon as I'm by myself and I feel like all I do is cry. I wake up in the night crying...I'm crying now. The "s" word is looming in a big way. Seems like the only way to end the hurt. And right now, that's all that matters to me.
The fact that your husband doesn't celebrate Christmas must make things so much more difficult and have you missing your family even more. This all makes me want to get on a plane and fly to you. We could sit in our homely pjs and commiserate....and maybe even make each other laugh.
Posted by jammerlich on December 26, 2006, at 11:08:49
In reply to Re: I'm lonely » jammerlich, posted by Happyflower on December 23, 2006, at 22:22:46
> Someday we will be really happy again, don't you think?
Honestly? I don't really see that happening for me. There. I said it. I don't think things will get better. I wish I had the same positive attitude you do. It sounds like you have room for hope.
Posted by Kath on December 26, 2006, at 16:05:57
In reply to Re: I'm lonely » Happyflower, posted by jammerlich on December 26, 2006, at 11:08:49
Loneliness is awful.
The kind when you're with other people & still lonely is REALLY rough.
I send out my warm thoughts to you.
I'm not lonely, but I'm really down.
I think there's ALWAYS hope, ya know. Sometimes we're just feeling SO BAD that we can't be in touch with the HOPE part.
luv, Kath
Posted by TexasChic on December 27, 2006, at 19:32:37
In reply to Re: I'm lonely, posted by Kath on December 26, 2006, at 16:05:57
Half the time I'm lonely, and the other half wish I never had to actually interact with other people.
-T
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