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Posted by sleepygirl on July 4, 2006, at 23:47:15
you don't have a certain amount of passion in your life? ..something you get a certain amount of satisfaction from?
I wonder...because I seem to spend a lot of time avoiding things, just to feel OK (calm, not overwhelmed) for a while, but I feel like i miss out on a lot of things I could be doing. It could be simple laziness on my part, but I was curious about people's thoughts on this. Thanks :-)
Posted by Racer on July 5, 2006, at 1:23:29
In reply to how does anybody here deal with feeling like....., posted by sleepygirl on July 4, 2006, at 23:47:15
I don't know what to say about this, except that I have a fair amount of it myself...
I guess I try to find some sort of balance, between the avoidance and the enjoyment and the overwhelmed feelings. Operative word being "try," since I spend a huge amount of time in both avoiding and feeling overwhelmed. In between, though, I do find some enjoyment.
I can't say that I've got anything like passion right now, though.
You know how I describe it to myself? It's as though I've dug in my heels, and am being pulled forward against my will. Can you relate to that?
I'll be interested to see what others have to say about this. I keep thinking that if only I worked hard enough, I'd do better. But you know what else? All of this is part of depression/anxiety for me. I think that if I could get meds working well, it would improve.
Hope there's something there that helps a bit...
Posted by Dinah on July 5, 2006, at 14:01:29
In reply to how does anybody here deal with feeling like....., posted by sleepygirl on July 4, 2006, at 23:47:15
I don't know how fond I am of passion. I certainly have it from time to time, but it makes life very uncomfortable. I'd rather putter around and have a contented life, if I could choose.
Posted by Jost on July 5, 2006, at 14:35:41
In reply to how does anybody here deal with feeling like....., posted by sleepygirl on July 4, 2006, at 23:47:15
I avoid many things. And if I do agree, it seems I'm"having" to do them--first, dreading them, and then partly standing back and wishing they weren't so hard or were more compelling, and therefore engaged my attention completely, so I wouldn't be wondering when they'd be over.
Passion is very important to me. Rightnow, I lack it, or the extent of it that I'd like, but it's almost from exhaustion (non-specific, on-going)--I can't work up the energy, the inner desire (only the vague desire for the desire).
Jost
Posted by TexasChic on July 5, 2006, at 16:17:39
In reply to how does anybody here deal with feeling like....., posted by sleepygirl on July 4, 2006, at 23:47:15
> you don't have a certain amount of passion in your life? ..something you get a certain amount of satisfaction from?
>
> I wonder...because I seem to spend a lot of time avoiding things, just to feel OK (calm, not overwhelmed) for a while, but I feel like i miss out on a lot of things I could be doing. It could be simple laziness on my part, but I was curious about people's thoughts on this. Thanks :-)
>Sounds familiar. I think I've been doing that all my life, although I'm trying to work on it. Its 'safer' to keep to myself and never interact with anybody, but like you said, you miss out. It makes me feel like I'm lazy too.
I really don't want to go through life sleeping and watching tv. Its just so hard to change, even when you want to! The unknown is scary, but the alternative, not really living, is scary in a different way.
-T
Posted by sleepygirl on July 5, 2006, at 22:31:23
In reply to Re: how does anybody here deal with feeling like.. » sleepygirl, posted by Racer on July 5, 2006, at 1:23:29
> I guess I try to find some sort of balance, between the avoidance and the enjoyment and the overwhelmed feelings. Operative word being "try," since I spend a huge amount of time in both avoiding and feeling overwhelmed. In between, though, I do find some enjoyment.some people say it just comes in "moments" - maybe that's just how it is?
> You know how I describe it to myself? It's as though I've dug in my heels, and am being pulled forward against my will. Can you relate to that?I'm not sure what you mean, but if it was about me I'd think it was about the fact that I have so many things I have to do that I spend a lot of energy both doing those things and trying to be more removed from them (if that makes any sense) because I'd rather be doing "something else".
> I'll be interested to see what others have to say about this. I keep thinking that if only I worked hard enough, I'd do better.yeah I think that a lot too...if only I did more
> Hope there's something there that helps a bit...of course :-)
Posted by sleepygirl on July 5, 2006, at 22:32:23
In reply to Re: how does anybody here deal with feeling like.., posted by Dinah on July 5, 2006, at 14:01:29
> I don't know how fond I am of passion. I certainly have it from time to time, but it makes life very uncomfortable. I'd rather putter around and have a contented life, if I could choose.
I wonder if it's all a bunch of "overstimulation"?
;-)
puttering is nice
Posted by sleepygirl on July 5, 2006, at 22:34:45
In reply to Re: how does anybody here deal with feeling like.., posted by Jost on July 5, 2006, at 14:35:41
> I avoid many things. And if I do agree, it seems I'm"having" to do them--first, dreading them, and then partly standing back and wishing they weren't so hard or were more compelling, and therefore engaged my attention completely, so I wouldn't be wondering when they'd be over.
Yeah, I do this, like I'm just waiting for things to be "over"- I wish I could enjoy things more, but I feel like a lot of the time it's about my fear in the situation
John Lennon sang "life is what happens when you're busy making other plans" - that just sprang into my head
Posted by sleepygirl on July 5, 2006, at 22:39:58
In reply to Re: how does anybody here deal with feeling like..... » sleepygirl, posted by TexasChic on July 5, 2006, at 16:17:39
> Sounds familiar. I think I've been doing that all my life, although I'm trying to work on it. Its 'safer' to keep to myself and never interact with anybody, but like you said, you miss out. It makes me feel like I'm lazy too.sometimes I really do love being alone, like I can breathe for a while- It feels like I'm holding myself really tightly most of the time when I'm with people- that I think makes me tired
> I really don't want to go through life sleeping and watching tv. Its just so hard to change, even when you want to! The unknown is scary, but the alternative, not really living, is scary in a different way.it is isn't it? Old habits die hard. I think we'd all do better limiting the TV- alright I'll just speak for myself there - because I could definitely do with less reruns from 70's sitcoms occupying my time and attention ;-)
Posted by cloudydaze on July 10, 2006, at 14:37:06
In reply to how does anybody here deal with feeling like....., posted by sleepygirl on July 4, 2006, at 23:47:15
I think I know what you mean....sounds like what i'm going through. For me, it's part social anxiety/low self esteem, and part depression.
Lately i've felt bored with life. I don't enjoy the things i used to, i don't seem to fit in anywhere, and even my relationship with my boyfriend seems dull and lifeless.
Maybe it's because i'm at a weird phase right now. I became a parent at the age of sixteen, and was forced to become an adult without realy knowing how. I still am trying to adjust. I don't have many friends, because as a mother, I can't hang out with the college kids and get drunk every weekend, and as a 23 year old, I don't fit in with older parents. There are a few younger parents around (even fewer that actually ACT like parents), but none of them seem to want to put forth the effort of a friendship with me. I wonder if I am that much of a burden?
I am not currently happy with my situation, but there's not a whole lot i can do to change it right now.
I really hope I am not doomed to a dull life. I want to be more than content. Content is boring.
> you don't have a certain amount of passion in your life? ..something you get a certain amount of satisfaction from?
>
> I wonder...because I seem to spend a lot of time avoiding things, just to feel OK (calm, not overwhelmed) for a while, but I feel like i miss out on a lot of things I could be doing. It could be simple laziness on my part, but I was curious about people's thoughts on this. Thanks :-)
>
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