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Posted by curtm on June 7, 2006, at 13:13:57
I have to wonder sometimes what some people really think of me. I feel ignored by some people here. I wonder if there is a lack of respect that makes some just stay away. I try to get to know people and I come across different. I understand that some people relate better to others. I also understand people avoid certain people. I don't want to "make" anyone avoid me.
A lot of communication goes on behind the posts. I have to wonder if I am ever brought up in conversations like "That new guy is kinda wierd." "Yeah, I don't really like him." or my favorite "What an idiot!"
I feel this way IRL too, not just around Babble.
Posted by B2chica on June 7, 2006, at 13:33:42
In reply to Untitled esteem post, posted by curtm on June 7, 2006, at 13:13:57
well, i like to think of myself as kinda blunt.
so let me tell you. i think you are very open, spontaneous, impulsive, and truly care about people here. i think you have a good sense of humor, somewhat sarcastic...(which i personally can relate to).as for me. i like you. my problem is i feel really dumb alot of the times. many times i will type up a response to someone (including you) in my textedit program so that i can copy it into a response but many times delete it before i post it cuz i think it sounds dumb, or unimportant. sometimes i even re-read it and think that my response really had nothing to do with the question...so i dump it.
also sometimes i just plain don't know what to say...so i opt out and say nothing.i must add though i do take pleasure in reading all your posts. you're so open it really feels nice. so despite what you may think, to me, you are a welcome poster and nice addition here at babble.
welcome home curt.>>A lot of communication goes on behind the posts. I have to wonder if I am ever brought up in conversations like "That new guy is kinda wierd." "Yeah, I don't really like him." or my favorite "What an idiot!"
this actually made me laugh. ya, i bet it does go on behind the scenes...but i guess i'm not in the loop so i'm probably one of the ones they talk about... "man, did she really say that?"
honestly though, i don't think a lot of that happens here. i think people are pretty straight forward...if someone doesn't want you to post to them they're pretty good at telling you that. at least that's what i think?b2c
Posted by ron1953 on June 7, 2006, at 13:35:04
In reply to Untitled esteem post, posted by curtm on June 7, 2006, at 13:13:57
I'm sure you, of all people, can take a joke.
Ron
Posted by TexasChic on June 7, 2006, at 17:08:50
In reply to Untitled esteem post, posted by curtm on June 7, 2006, at 13:13:57
This seems to be a ritual that all new people who stick around awhile seem to go through. Its a misconception brought on by the reality of internet chatrooms. I know many times I respond to people in my head, but don't post it. Sometimes I read and enjoy the post, but feel I have nothing to contribute to the conversation. Sometimes it seems that you couldn't put it any better than how someone else already did. Sometimes no one responds because they figure someone else will. Sometimes I'm upset and don't feel like posting. There's a million reasons why people don't respond.
Its just not the same as communicating IRL, with facial expressions and tone of voice to go by. Its hard to grasp, but your words are read by way more people than those that actually respond to you. Many times I've felt like I'm writing to nobody only to later find out certain people were loyally following along the whole time. They just never said anything!
So basically if no one responds to your post, you just have to take it in stride and try not to take it personally. You have to think, 'oh well', and try again. Believe me, its happened to all of us. Further up I called myself 'Queen of the thread killers' because alot of times when I add to a post, no one ever posts to that thread again. So I 'killed' the thread. You just can't take these things personally. We're in an anonymous setting where we feel free to either express ourselves or not.
People have also said it seems like we all know each other. They seem to think they're missing out on part of the conversation somehow. I've really only known a few people here for longer than a few months, and many for alot less. And although some people do talk to each other outside of babble, I pretty much never do myself.
I hope this helps and makes sense. I just hate to see people go through this because its just an anomaly that happens because of the unique environment of chatrooms. Its not at all personal.
-T
Posted by Poet on June 7, 2006, at 20:19:40
In reply to Untitled esteem post, posted by curtm on June 7, 2006, at 13:13:57
Hi Curt,
I've been posting for almost three years and still get that everybody hates me thought when I get few responses to my threads. Try to remember it's quality of responses, not quantity that count.
Sometimes I think that timing is a factor: I don't have easy access to the internet during the daytime and some evenings, so I can't always respond right away.
Anyway, you've done nothing, yet, to make me hate you. Talking about you behind your back, well of course, I do that to everybody! Even myself and it ain't easy projecting my voice back there.
Poet
Posted by Phillipa on June 7, 2006, at 22:11:02
In reply to Re: Untitled esteem post, posted by Poet on June 7, 2006, at 20:19:40
Curt I just think you are funny. Your posts always make me laugh. Love Phillipa
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