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Posted by LegWarmers on March 3, 2006, at 11:04:16
Im so sad about all this, I know the damage is done, I know that nothing can take it back, nothing I say can make anyting better, But please don't take it as though it was a way to silence you.
I would hate to see you silenced, and Im worried about you.(((5)))
Posted by Phillipa on March 3, 2006, at 21:05:09
In reply to 5, posted by LegWarmers on March 3, 2006, at 11:04:16
Can someone please tell me who 5 is? Love Phillipa
Posted by ClearSkies on March 3, 2006, at 21:22:24
In reply to Re: 5 » LegWarmers, posted by Phillipa on March 3, 2006, at 21:05:09
I believe that this was xxx and that she changed it to 5 after her block.
CS
Posted by Phillipa on March 3, 2006, at 22:58:26
In reply to Re: 5 » Phillipa, posted by ClearSkies on March 3, 2006, at 21:22:24
Clear Skies thanks so much. I knew all of you knew who is was did I miss something is it on admin? Love Phillipa mystery cleared up
Posted by 5 on March 4, 2006, at 2:02:00
In reply to Re: 5 » Phillipa, posted by ClearSkies on March 3, 2006, at 21:22:24
> I believe that this was xxx and that she changed it to 5 after her block.
Well thanks very much.
Anything else you would like to say too?
How about my phone number, city of residence, or my real name?
Posted by Dinah on March 4, 2006, at 2:06:30
In reply to Re: 5, posted by 5 on March 4, 2006, at 2:02:00
Would you like me x that out?
Posted by 5 on March 4, 2006, at 2:08:32
In reply to Re: 5 » 5, posted by Dinah on March 4, 2006, at 2:06:30
yes please though once again... damage has been done.
Posted by 5 on March 4, 2006, at 2:10:36
In reply to Re: 5 » LegWarmers, posted by Phillipa on March 3, 2006, at 21:05:09
ask them.
i'm sick to death of people asking damos how i'm doing.
i'm sick to death of people asking other people how i'm doing or what is going on or whatever.
if you are wondering who a posting name is then why not ask them? if they don't tell you then maybe that indicates that they don't want you to know.
and maybe... it is polite to respect their privacy.
Posted by Dinah on March 4, 2006, at 2:12:08
In reply to Re: 5, posted by 5 on March 4, 2006, at 2:08:32
I'm sure there was no ill intent. You said that you didn't mind if you were making clear who you were.
But there is precedent for blocking out previous posting names, so I will.
Dinah
Posted by Gabbix2 on March 4, 2006, at 2:17:03
In reply to Re: 5 » 5, posted by Dinah on March 4, 2006, at 2:12:08
It's The previous posting name is still on 5's post in response to Clearskies.
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/social/20060303/msgs/615741.html
I wasn't sure if you knew or not.
Posted by 5 on March 4, 2006, at 2:17:20
In reply to Re: 5 » 5, posted by Dinah on March 4, 2006, at 2:12:08
well i do mind.
and now people will just babblemail clearskies / phillipa in case they missed it anyways.
i know there was no ill intent...
but yeah i'm understanding why some people are so paranoid with having given out personal details to peopple etc.
i don't know what to call it...
probably somehting uncivil.
Posted by Gabbix2 on March 4, 2006, at 2:23:37
In reply to IF YOU WANT TO KNOW ABOUT SOMEONE, posted by 5 on March 4, 2006, at 2:10:36
>
> if you are wondering who a posting name is then why not ask them? if they don't tell you then maybe that indicates that they don't want you to know.
>
> and maybe... it is polite to respect their privacy.I agree, not only would I think they'd have reasons for wanting it to be private, or at least not publicized overtly,
It would also make me feel.. okay I'll say odd having someone ask other posters about me when I'm right there.
Posted by ClearSkies on March 4, 2006, at 6:36:06
In reply to Re: IF YOU WANT TO KNOW ABOUT SOMEONE » 5, posted by Gabbix2 on March 4, 2006, at 2:23:37
I didn't think there was anything wrong in answering Phillipa's question since the answer is right here on the boards in another post that "5" made. She said elsewhere "RIP a_k" in response to another poster.
I wasn't disclosing anything that wasn't already posted!!
I'm not even going to apologize for this silly thing.ClearSKies
formerly PartlyCloudy
formerly Rainyday
Posted by ClearSkies on March 4, 2006, at 6:41:10
In reply to Re: IF YOU WANT TO KNOW ABOUT SOMEONE, posted by ClearSkies on March 4, 2006, at 6:36:06
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/social/20060221/msgs/615144.html
It's at the bottom.
Dinah, please un "XX" my original post. I really protest that my words are being edited without my knowledge.
Disgusted,
ClearSkies
Posted by Gabbix2 on March 4, 2006, at 7:32:23
In reply to Re: IF YOU WANT TO KNOW ABOUT SOMEONE, posted by ClearSkies on March 4, 2006, at 6:36:06
I think the point was more that it was odd not to be asked directly.
If someone posted "Can someone tell me why GAbbix does such and such?"
When I'm right there to be asked, it would make me feel like a non-person, or I would suspect that they knew I would not really want to answer, and so would find out from someone else.
I think the fact that 5 said rip x_x and not the entire name made it quite clear that she wasn't comfortable being open about it yet.
That's a big difference from saying her posting name, and it was within the body of ONE post on admin.It may not seem to be a big leap to the current posters who know her, but to subsequent posters, or future archives searchers it certainly is, and 5
has mentioned that as a concern several times.Is it really worth it to have 5 made more uncomfortable, whether or not you can understand the reason, just to have your words preserved as you wrote them?
Let's be realistic, it's one post on a Web Board
it's not an article for the New York times.
Posted by ClearSkies on March 4, 2006, at 8:34:12
In reply to Re: IF YOU WANT TO KNOW ABOUT SOMEONE » ClearSkies, posted by Gabbix2 on March 4, 2006, at 7:32:23
> Is it really worth it to have 5 made more uncomfortable, whether or not you can understand the reason, just to have your words preserved as you wrote them?
> Let's be realistic, it's one post on a Web Board
> it's not an article for the New York times.
>
>Let's see - I was merely answering another poster's question. I did not do it in order to make anyone uncomfortable. The X_X was hardly cryptic, either. More like shorthand.
How about you give this one a rest, Gaqbbi?
CS
Posted by Gabbix2 on March 4, 2006, at 9:11:16
In reply to Re: IF YOU WANT TO KNOW ABOUT SOMEONE, posted by ClearSkies on March 4, 2006, at 8:34:12
>> Let's see - I was merely answering another poster's question. I did not do it in order to make anyone uncomfortable. The X_X was hardly cryptic, either. More like shorthand.
>
> How about you give this one a rest, Gaqbbi?
> CS
>
*You* initially responded to my post to 5 and ask me to "give it a rest" when I answer you?
I think not.I was trying to see 5's point of view, well I do see it. I would have felt the same way.
I don't think a little support will hurt right now, and no I'm not about to give that a rest either.If you're completely cool with what you did, you certainly don't need to defend it to me, that's not what I was asking for when I posted to her.
Posted by Sobriquet Style on March 4, 2006, at 9:25:29
In reply to IF YOU WANT TO KNOW ABOUT SOMEONE, posted by 5 on March 4, 2006, at 2:10:36
Its truely amazing, I found, the 'communication' that goes on behind the scenes on babble about posters personal issues.
One of the reasons I have my babblemail switched off now, is because before when I was posting, I began babble mailing with afew people, which then led on to emails. Once I was commnicating through emails, it was clear to see that my emails were being forwarded on to other posters for them to read.
Perhaps I was under the impression, that because I was commicating through email, what I had to say there was personal to me, and intended solely for the recipient I had emailed. When I emailed with someone else, the same goes. To find out my emails were being spread around between posters, I thought, whats the point in emailing why not just post what you have to say to me on the board so everyone can see it? It felt to me that my emails were public viewing anyway, when snippets started to come out on the baords. I then made it clear to the people that I was emailing, very politely, that what I discuss in emails are privite, otherwise I'd post it on the baords. Only to then have even more snippets come on to the boards about my privite life.
I felt my privacy was violated, but of course this is just my experience, and it happened along time ago.
Although, I'd still like to warn people, perhaps new members of babble that when emailing people off the boards you may find that your emails are being forwarded on to people you'd rather they didn't and people you don't even know.
Of course, if you are okay with your emails being forwarded on to other people its no problem. For me it felt like people were talking behind my back, no need to mention how I felt about that.
~
Posted by ClearSkies on March 4, 2006, at 9:39:03
In reply to Re: IF YOU WANT TO KNOW ABOUT SOMEONE » ClearSkies, posted by Gabbix2 on March 4, 2006, at 9:11:16
> If you're completely cool with what you did, you certainly don't need to defend it to me, that's not what I was asking for when I posted to her.
>Great! It's all cleared up then.
Thanks,
ClearSkies
Posted by Dinah on March 4, 2006, at 10:26:22
In reply to And here is the link - Dinah, posted by ClearSkies on March 4, 2006, at 6:41:10
Where future posts about the administrative aspects of this should be directed.
Posted by Phillipa on March 4, 2006, at 11:13:00
In reply to IF YOU WANT TO KNOW ABOUT SOMEONE, posted by 5 on March 4, 2006, at 2:10:36
How can you ask them if you don't know who they are? Fondly, Phillipa
Posted by Dinah on March 4, 2006, at 11:16:43
In reply to Re: IF YOU WANT TO KNOW ABOUT SOMEONE » 5, posted by Phillipa on March 4, 2006, at 11:13:00
I moved your admin related posts to Admin.
I imagine that 5 was requesting that you ask 5.
Posted by Gabbix2 on March 4, 2006, at 11:33:08
In reply to Re: IF YOU WANT TO KNOW ABOUT SOMEONE » Gabbix2, posted by ClearSkies on March 4, 2006, at 9:39:03
Posted by Gabbix2 on March 4, 2006, at 12:40:46
In reply to Re: IF YOU WANT TO KNOW ABOUT SOMEONE, posted by Sobriquet Style on March 4, 2006, at 9:25:29
ewwwwwwwww
Anyone I e-mail with (and there are only a couple of people) I have a strict, what's said off the boards, stays off the boards policy.
I said to someone once that I don't babblemail much because I always imagine a network of frantic operators with headsets on forwarding babblemails, to satisfy the demand for information on the latest gossip.
Maybe I wasn't so far wrong.
Posted by sleepygirl on March 4, 2006, at 13:54:51
In reply to Re: IF YOU WANT TO KNOW ABOUT SOMEONE » Sobriquet Style, posted by Gabbix2 on March 4, 2006, at 12:40:46
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