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Posted by happyflower on January 28, 2006, at 12:44:15
My husband's good friend, neighbor, and coworker died and today was the funeral. My husband tried to hold it together, he was so stiff, but finally he released and cried. I held him through out the service.
I was okay until this little kid gave one of the eulogies. Well he started crying at the altar and that got everyone crying.
The funeral was delayed because the wife didn't want to have the casket closed. It was very sad.Maybe my support will bring my husband and I together again. He accepted it from me and it seemed to be a good thing. We haven't connected in almost a year now. Since this friend was his age, he has thinking a lot about his life. Maybe he will deceide that I am not such a bad wife afterall. I guess I can still hope.
I am sure this will be a topic this week in therapy. Where do I go from there? How can I bridge the support connection into our marriage connection. What can I do?
Posted by crazy teresa on January 28, 2006, at 14:35:10
In reply to Well I got through the funeral today., posted by happyflower on January 28, 2006, at 12:44:15
I'm so sorry for your loss.
I really hope things work out for you the way you want them to. But it takes two. And you can do everything 'right'. If he's not willing to accept what you're offering, there's nothing you can do-- you can't MAKE it happen for him.
I will pray for your marriage.
Posted by muffled on January 28, 2006, at 15:05:24
In reply to Re: Well I got through the funeral today. » happyflower, posted by crazy teresa on January 28, 2006, at 14:35:10
Mebbe things'll get better?
Hope so.
So hard :(
Muffled
Posted by Phillipa on January 28, 2006, at 18:41:57
In reply to Re: Well I got through the funeral today. » happyflower, posted by crazy teresa on January 28, 2006, at 14:35:10
Sorry hope thing work out for you. Fondly, Phillipa
Posted by happyflower on January 28, 2006, at 20:54:16
In reply to Re: Well I got through the funeral today. » happyflower, posted by crazy teresa on January 28, 2006, at 14:35:10
Thank you so much for your support Non crazy Teresa! :) I know what you are saying, but I guess I am not ready to totally give up.
Posted by happyflower on January 28, 2006, at 20:55:25
In reply to Sorry Happyflower :( » crazy teresa, posted by muffled on January 28, 2006, at 15:05:24
Posted by happyflower on January 28, 2006, at 20:55:58
In reply to Sorry Happyflower :( » crazy teresa, posted by muffled on January 28, 2006, at 15:05:24
Thanks Muffy, You are such a sweetie! ;)
Posted by happyflower on January 28, 2006, at 20:56:52
In reply to Re: Well I got through the funeral today., posted by Phillipa on January 28, 2006, at 18:41:57
Thanks for your support Phillipa :) I appreciate it.
Posted by Susan47 on January 29, 2006, at 14:50:26
In reply to Well I got through the funeral today., posted by happyflower on January 28, 2006, at 12:44:15
> My husband's good friend, neighbor, and coworker died and today was the funeral. My husband tried to hold it together, he was so stiff, but finally he released and cried. I held him through out the service.
> I was okay until this little kid gave one of the eulogies. Well he started crying at the altar and that got everyone crying.
> The funeral was delayed because the wife didn't want to have the casket closed. It was very sad.
>
> Maybe my support will bring my husband and I together again. He accepted it from me and it seemed to be a good thing. We haven't connected in almost a year now. Since this friend was his age, he has thinking a lot about his life. Maybe he will deceide that I am not such a bad wife afterall. I guess I can still hope.
>
> I am sure this will be a topic this week in therapy. Where do I go from there? How can I bridge the support connection into our marriage connection. What can I do?
Keep being yourself, taking care of your needs, don't judge yourself so that when he does it bounces off you. When people realize they're not getting anywhere with their recriminations and blame, they have to either change or lose you.
Posted by crazy teresa on January 29, 2006, at 15:12:48
In reply to *****above post for teresa ***** (nm), posted by happyflower on January 28, 2006, at 20:55:25
I'm not suggesting you give up, just be realistic. I worry about you.
And no matter what, I'm on your side, girlie.
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